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How To Listen and Find Aliveness in Containment

Article •  5-9 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
5-9 minutes

Physical distancing is opportunity to creatively to meet your needs in new ways. In this containment, with very few cues from others and the environment you now have a rare opportunity with less external distraction to rethink what's truly supportive -- and make significant changes to the less noticable habits of mind, standards and "should's". Applying questions and noticing certain symptoms can support. Read on for more.


How To Resource In The Expansive Perspective

Article •  2-3 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
2-3 minutes

In the face of stress you can find ways to be present for what’s happening, rather than being pulled or pushed around by anxious thoughts or fearful feelings. Here are some strategies to return to and maintain expanded awareness.


How to Stay Calm During a Pandemic (COVID-19)

Article •  5-8 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
5-8 minutes

As social beings we thrive with social contact and community. Thus, with the social isolation and a loss of routine that is happening in the COVD-19 pandemic, there are three critical areas to keep in mind everyday: emotional-physiological regulation, self-empathy for fear and anxiety, and meaningful engagement. 


How to Set Boundaries Early and Often

Article •  5-8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5-8 minutes

Using the example of being met with chronic lateness, here are three steps to setting boundaries early in a dating situation or relationship.


Emergency Interventions for Escalating Arguments

Article •  2-3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
2-3 minutes

Mid-conversation you may find yourself sliding into defending, shutting down, attacking, or blaming. Here's a list of possible emergency interventions that can help slow down escalation and return you to connection.


Honor Your Need to be Heard

Article •  2-3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
2-3 minutes

When you want to be heard, first check if your listener is available. This honors yourself, and the other person’s choice about listening. You need to be clear about wanting a particular quality of listening, and that you are willing to wait if that isn’t available in the moment. Read on for how to ask for listening in a way that can build trust that your request isn't a demand.


Responding to Anger

Article •  5-8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5-8 minutes

When someone wants to speak angrily about another, do you want to move away, try to calm them, argue, set a boundary, or offer empathy? What supports you to stay self connected? You can set boundaries regarding listening so that you're less likely to defend the other party, or attempt to talk your friend down from their judgments, thereby escalating the situation. Disagreements can also ignite curiosity and celebration. Read on for more.


Requests in a Moment of Reactivity

Article •  3-5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3-5 minutes

Here are 16 helpful requests you can make before you're swept up in your own reactivity.


Getting Stuck Arguments Unstuck

Article •  3-5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3-5 minutes

Some arguments stay stuck because each person thinks it's about the content of the argument, rather than the needs each person is attempting to protect. When the needs get attached to the strategies a "no way out" scenario gets created. Instead, fully step into one another's worlds and connect to the feelings and needs behind the strategy each party is putting forth. Read on for six elements to creating empathic connection.


Empathy vs. Investigation

Article •  4-6 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4-6 minutes

To tell the difference between empathy and investigation, watch for distinctions along four different dimensions: energy, subject, intention and trust. These distinctions can help us engage awareness and skill to meet your needs and respond to others’ needs in more direct ways. The more you meet your needs in conscious and direct ways, the more present you can be for others. Read on for more about how to do this.