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Moving From Blame to Self-Responsibility

Article •  2 - 5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
2 - 5 minutes

Often when someone else does something we don't like, it's easy to blame the other person. After all, we have all been trained to focus on fault when needs are not met. What can we do to shift that pattern?


Vulnerability as a Spiritual Path

Article •  3 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 pages

What is a good baby? If you have been raised in a Western culture, chances are you know the answer right away (whether or not you agree with it). A good baby is one that doesn't cry! The training against vulnerability starts very early in life.


Agreements, Consequences and Punishment

Audio •  9 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
9 minutes

In this short but provocative audio, Miki Kashtan talks about agreements, making a vital distinction between the natural consequences of unmet agreements and punishment. She provides information about how to balance our current state of needs associated with our previous agreements.


Choice in Every Moment

Audio •  31 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
31 minutes

This 31-minute audio with Miki Kashtan is packed full of power as she uncovers the dynamics of choice that are present 100% of the time, in every situation, regardless of the circumstances.


Courageous Living Towards the World We Want

Audio •  32 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
Audio
32 minutes

Miki speaks to peace activists about connecting with the life vision in those who stimulate pain in them.


NVC Principles

Video •  22 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
22 minutes

In this 3-part video, Miki Kashtan discusses the spiritual nature of NVC, delves deeper into the NVC concept of needs and offers practical tools to make requests in ways that others are more likely to respond to positively.


Judging and Feeling Judged

Audio •  18 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
18 minutes

In this potent audio, expert trainer Miki Kashtan demonstrates the eye-opening experience of translating judgments into needs. She works with a mother who is stuck in a loop of feeling judged by family members and judging them back.


Not Trusting the “Yes”

Audio •  24 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
24 minutes

In this audio recording, Miki demonstrates how to stay in a dialogue when you don't trust someone's "yes," how to equalize power between people and how to allow space for others to say "no" to our requests.

In this 2-part audio series, Miki demonstrates how to stay in a dialogue when you don’t trust someone’s “yes,” how to equalize power between people and how to allow space for others to say “no” to our requests.  In this 2-part audio series, Miki demonstrates how to stay in a dialogue when you don't trust someone's "yes," how to equalize power between people and how to allow space for others to say "no" to our requests.In this 2-part audio series, Miki demonstrates how to stay in a dialogue when you don't trust someone's "yes," how to equalize power between people and how to allow space for others to say "no" to our requests.

The Cause of Our Feelings

Trainer Tip •  3-5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3-5 minutes

Ask the Trainer: “I would love some clarity about the NVC perspective on the cause of our feelings. It seems to me that my needs may be met or not, but the cause of my painful feelings is my story around the situation.”


The Freedom of Committing to a Path

Article •  5 - 8 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes

In June, 1996, I had an epiphany. In a motel room in Indiana, the night before returning home from a solo camping trip in Michigan and Canada, I discovered how much I had lost in my life because of so fiercely protecting myself. Up until that day, bringing forth my vulnerable self was to be avoided at all costs, which kept me numb much of the time, disconnected from myself and from much of life. Alone in my room, I cried, I talked out loud, and I finally exclaimed to myself that I wanted to reclaim every last bit of my vulnerability, just like I had it as a child.


 
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