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The Nuts and Bolts of Not Taking Things Personally

Article •  12 - 18 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
12 - 18 minutes

Why is it so difficult to not take things personally? It's because everything reinforces the sense that whatever is being said is indeed about us – both from without and from within. However, we can get better at not taking things personally with a practice of shifting our focus by being open to multiple interpretations, understanding that our reaction is about our own need, and noticing how the other person’s words, no matter how they sound to us, are an expression of their needs. We can then be more present and available to navigate the situation.


Responding to the Call of Our Times: What is Leadership?

Audio (Public) •  1 hour
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio (Public)
1 hour

What specifically is leadership? And why do so many people step back from it? Listen in as Miki shares her experience and thoughts around changing the paradigm of leadership, as well as the role – and challenges – of using NVC when working for social change. Check it out.


What is Mine to Do?

Audio (Public) •  19 minutes
All Skill Levels
Audio (Public)
19 minutes

How DO we live our lives? What is an effective response to what is happening in the world? Listen in as Miki dialogs with a participant asking, "What is mine to do?", and honors the dissonance we feel when we are working to change.


Do I Stay or Do I Go?

Video (Public) •  6 minutes
All Skill Levels
Video (Public)
6 minutes

Hear Miki work with a participant looking for environmental sustainability within an existing system. Miki offers guidance around creating bridges for applying NVC principles instead of techniques when engaging with groups or organizations.


Daily Awareness Practice for Self Compassion

Video (Public) •  10 minutes
All Skill Levels
Video (Public)
10 minutes

Want to get rid of old patterns or habits, like procrastination? Arnina suggests: 1) ask two specific questions when you are eager to change a habit; 2) make your brain your ally; and 3) be patient, change takes time.


The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us

Article •  16 - 24 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
16 - 24 minutes

We can choose our stories of interpretation, and how to respond. And while stories of self-sufficiency can (to a degree) give us more influence over our own lives, they don't erase oppression, war, nor climate change. When stories omit a lens that includes impacts of interdependence, oppression, and structural inequities, stories can also keep us disconnected and blocked from compassion for self and others -- and perpetuating an oppressive status quo. However, with this lens we can make greater compassion and collective liberation possible. Even as the outcome is unknown.


Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication - Part 1 of 2

Article •  15 - 23 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
15 - 23 minutes

By focusing on NVC process and practice without factoring in the interdependent, systemic dimension we unwittingly diminish the power of NVC. We reinforce the dominant paradigm, rather than challenging it -- making NVC one more tool for compliance. NVC principles can turn against its own purpose in cruel ways. NVC could also empower social change. We'll need our attention on this matter if we are to contribute to transforming the oppression we face and our collective march towards extinction.


Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy

Article •  13 - 19 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
13 - 19 minutes

We can see throughout many examples in history that when we look for "who" is at fault, and thereby seek social change through shaming that person (or that group), it tends to lead to disastrous long term consequences. Even if it works in the short term. Instead, if we want to end cycles of violence we can seek to understand systemic causes and context of individuals' behaviour. And from there, look for solutions that stem from this understanding.


Money, Needs, and Resources

Article •  9 - 13 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
9 - 13 minutes

Unless we change our collective ways on the planet, we will one day exceed the earth’s carrying capacity. We can only address the planet's very real limits of physical resources at the level of social organization. To operate empathically is to adjust our collective social order and patterns so that resources are more widely available and everyone's needs are met no matter what their output, income, power, circumstances, etc. Can we envision a future where the system is infused with this level of empathy, before it's too late?


Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

Article •  11 - 16 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
11 - 16 minutes

When we are transparent about our concerns, brainstorm solutions together, and look towards making a decision with the other person, we can increase understanding, partnership, and mutual support. This invites people to work on the same issue from the same direction, collaboratively seek solutions, and tap a deeper wisdom. In the end, the future survival of our species depends on this kind of active interdependence.


 
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