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NVC Learning Tools are references to guide your Nonviolent Communication learning adventure. These resources provide a quick way to locate foundational information and get quick tips.

Feelings and Needs Lists

Two indispensible references are the Feelings and Needs Lists. Download these and keep them handy.

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What Is NVC? Approaches to NVC

Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan
Here's a table outlining eight ideas people have regarding what NVC "is". It provides columns for the principle, related needs and strategies of the NVC approach. You can add to the table your own ideas for NVC approaches. Included are five sets of reflection questions to explore what speaks to you, what would expand your range of options, what brings up discomfort, and more.

Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

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This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?”


A List of Needs We All Have

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In a Nonviolent Communication model, we believe that everything someone does or says is an attempt to meet a need. That means that all actions or words are in service to a deep internal need. The following list of needs is neither exhaustive nor definitive.


A List of Feelings We All Have (Emotions and Sensations)

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The following list of words are used to express a combination of emotional states and physical sensations. This list is neither exhaustive nor definitive. It is meant as a starting place to help you develop your emotional vocabulary and further support your communication with others.