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A List of Feelings We All Have (Emotions and Sensations)

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NVC Academy

Learning Tool  • N/A • 2019
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
N/A

The following list of words are used to express a combination of emotional states and physical sensations. This list is neither exhaustive nor definitive. It is meant as a starting place to help you develop your emotional vocabulary and further support your communication with others.


A List of Needs We All Have

Learning Tool  • N/A • 2005
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
N/A

In a Nonviolent Communication model, we believe that everything someone does or says is an attempt to meet a need. That means that all actions or words are in service to a deep internal need. The following list of needs is neither exhaustive nor definitive.


Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

Learning Tool  • N/A • 2013
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
N/A

This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?”


Feelings vs. Thoughts Vocabulary Builder

Practice Exercise  • 10 minutes • 09/11/2018
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
10 minutes

This ten question exercise will help build your feelings vocabulary. It is helpful to differentiate between words that describe what we think others are doing around us, and words that describe actual feelings. These "faux feelings" often reveal more about how we think others are behaving than what we are actually feeling ourselves. Feeling words are always about us, not the other person.


Get Started with Nonviolent Communication

Interactive  • 30 days • 1/2019
Introductory Skill Level
Interactive
30 days

Start here to discover how Nonviolent Communication (NVC) will enrich and deepen all your relationships. You'll love this practical and enlightening approach to empathic listening and effective self-expression. Learn on your schedule with self-paced learning modules in this 30-day program. Our 30-day NVC introductory course is conveniently available within the Library to all NVC Library subscribers.


The NVC Model: A Map to Your Intentions

Article  • 4 - 6 minutes • 4/2014
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes

The more we practice NVC by “rote” --going through OFNR (“Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests”) on automatic-- the more likely our NVC practice would lead to disconnection.  The purpose of our NVC practice is to use this NVC "map" (OFNR) to support us in integrating the consciousness of the NVC (eg. operating with the intention to connect, collaborate, etc).  Once we let the map drop away, we can engage with the people in our lives in a more heartfelt way.  This article explains more about how we can use the map to remind us of our  heartfelt consciousness...