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Transforming Painful Patterns

Practice Exercise  • 7 pages • 06/2010
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
7 pages

Why is it so difficult to change our patterns even when we want to, even when we experience shame or despair about them? Arnina Kashtan offers some of the common pitfalls and concrete steps to overcome them in the future.


What’s Important to You?

Practice Exercise  • 2 pages • Circa 2009
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
2 pages

This exercise is most often the first activity in a beginning level workshop after the usual logistics/history/check-in. Penny Wassman experiences it as an opportunity for people to build connection with one another.


Parenting Series: The Importance of Self-Empathy

Public  • 00:14 hours:minutes • 2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Public
00:14 hours:minutes
In this pre-recorded video training, Inbal offers parents and anyone with children in their life a lucid discussion of the important role self-empathy plays in creating healthy, supportive relationships.

Every Angry Message is a "Please"

Trainer Tip  • 1-2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Anger can be an opportunity to hear the "Please" behind the words and create a path to resolve conflicts compassionately.


The Cause of Our Feelings

Trainer Tip  • 3-5 minutes • Circa 2007
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3-5 minutes

Ask the Trainer: “I would love some clarity about the NVC perspective on the cause of our feelings. It seems to me that my needs may be met or not, but the cause of my painful feelings is my story around the situation.”


The Book of Love: Bringing You Closer to Your Lover

Trainer Tip  • 1-2 minutes • Circa 2007
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Could you tell me something I do that meets your need for love?


Love as a Need

Trainer Tip  • 1-2 minutes • Circa 2007
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: In NVC we consider love to be a need. We all need love, but the ways in which we express it can be very different.


Move in to Conflict - Don't Back Up!

Trainer Tip  • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Have you ever noticed how often we back up when we find ourselves in a conflict? Or how much we try to pull away when someone is angry or in emotional pain?


Taking a Leap

Trainer Tip  • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: "Sometimes we are dissatisfied in our primary relationship, yet the thought of making a change is scary, so we stay in it. Sometimes we think we're afraid to learn the truth, so we don't ask direct questions."


Judging Feelings

Trainer Tip  • 12 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
12 minutes

Ask the Trainer: Is it a good idea to use NVC on persistent guilt, anger or depression without the aid of others?