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Control as a Need

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: "I often hear people say that someone did something because of a need for control. Control is actually a strategy that is often confused with a need."


Taking a Leap

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: "Sometimes we are dissatisfied in our primary relationship, yet the thought of making a change is scary, so we stay in it. Sometimes we think we're afraid to learn the truth, so we don't ask direct questions."


Move in to Conflict - Don't Back Up!

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Have you ever noticed how often we back up when we find ourselves in a conflict? Or how much we try to pull away when someone is angry or in emotional pain?


Every Angry Message is a "Please"

Trainer Tip •  1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Anger can be an opportunity to hear the "Please" behind the words and create a path to resolve conflicts compassionately.


Transforming Painful Patterns

Practice Exercise •  7 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
7 pages

Why is it so difficult to change our patterns even when we want to, even when we experience shame or despair about them? Arnina Kashtan offers some of the common pitfalls and concrete steps to overcome them in the future.


Overcoming Unworthiness to Express Vulnerable Honesty

Audio •  9 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
9 minutes

Does unworthiness keep you from expressing vulnerably and honestly? Afraid of being "found out?" Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she explores this topic with a workshop participant to discern stories from needs, recognize the tension between self-acceptance and personal development and sit with the discomfort of self-acceptance.


What Do I Do When I Completely Forget My NVC Consciousness?

Audio •  35 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
35 minutes

We sometimes forget our intention to stay fully present and awake, it happens to all of us. Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she explores this forgetting, how we hold it and what we can do about it.


Expressing Vulnerable Honesty While Fearful

Audio •  30 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
30 minutes

What do you do when you are thinking that it's not "emotionally safe" to speak honestly?  Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she explores this topic with a workshop participant.


When Someone's Anger Stimulates Fear for My Physical Safety

Audio •  7 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
7 minutes

CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan tells us to look to our inner dialogue and the other's needs when we're feeling fear of physical violence that's been stimlated by someone's anger.


About Guilt and How Apologizing Falls Short

Audio •  8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
8 minutes

Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she examines the nature of guilt and how apologizing often fails to connect us to our needs.