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Using the example of being met with chronic lateness, here are three steps to setting boundaries early in a dating situation or relationship.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 5-8 minutes
  • Date Added 12/2017
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Charde
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

When someone offers continual unsoliticed feedback or advice, setting a boundary may not be easy if you care about how they might hear you. And if you don't set a boundary, you may eventually become resentful and say something you regret. Instead, here are six ways to respond, with varying degrees of effectiveness.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 6-9 minutes
  • Date Added 1/2020
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Charde
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

Struggling to say "no"? Here are ways you change your adjacent mind patterns. First, note the differences between those who respect boundaries and those who often don't. Second, review situations in which you lost track of your choice. And rehearse what it would sound, look, and feel like if you kept connection to your choice. Third, seek validation of your experience - from a grounded and mindful (non-reactive) state.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 5 - 8 minutes
  • Date Added 9/19/2022
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Charde
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

Ever have a hard time saying "no" to someone, or feel obligated to say yes? Here's an exercise that can help you notice where you are placing yourself as someone who "has to" say yes; the needs in the other person making the request; what you want to say "yes" to (regarding your needs and theirs) by saying "no"; what prevents you from saying "yes"; plus your request and how you might express it.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Date Added 12/23/2021
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  • Payee NVC Academy
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Practice Exercises

When asking for support from another, you are most likely to enjoy receiving that support when the person giving support is giving from the heart—from a place of joy or delight. Inviting them to say "no" is a way of encouraging an authentic response, a response you can trust more fully.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Date Added 01/2016
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  • Payee Eric Bowers
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips

In this NVC Life Hack, we look at those circumstances when we're saying yes ... but only kinda! Because we're still actually saying no. Shantigarbha and Gesine look at the needs that aren't being met.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 4 minutes
  • Date Added 10/20/2018
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Payee Shantigarbha Warren
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Video

It can be difficult to be authentic when that means saying no. So how do we say no in a way that invites people to listen? Here are our four top tips for finding the courage to say no.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 3 minutes
  • Date Added 10/26/2018
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Payee Shantigarbha Warren
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Video

How do you speak your “No” when you fear retribution or a backlash, and all you want is love and protection? Listen in as Kristin leads participants through a unique process designed to help you feel less afraid and enable you to more easily cope with feelings of overwhelm, grief, or even anger.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 9 minutes
  • Date Added 8/25/2022
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Payee Kristin Masters
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Video