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Daily Self-Empathy Practice

Audio •  11 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
11 minutes

Want to expand your needs vocabulary, and build your capacity to identify needs — even when you’ve been triggered? Check out Mary’s powerful teaching on Self-Empathy.


Your Resonant Self (Chapter 2)

Articles (Public) •  20 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Articles (Public)
20 pages
Read Chapter 2, Staying in Emotional Balance: Healthy Self-Regulation from Sarah Peyton’s book, Your Resonant Self.

The Illusion of Conflicting Needs

Practice Exercise •  30 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
30 minutes

This exercise will help you resolve situations in which you have two needs which seem to be in conflict with each other, transforming inner conflict into peace.


Tips for the Road Series: Tip 24. Shine a Light on Your Shadow: Projection Detection and Reclaiming Disowned Parts

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

How do you know when you’re projecting disowned parts or replaying old relationship dynamics? It’s hard to know for sure, but if you find yourself upset or shutting down and unable to have a dialogue in which you can speak clearly about your feelings and needs and empathize with the other’s feelings and needs, there is likely a projection. The stronger your reaction, the more likely you are projecting.


Defusing Anger

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Many of us are afraid of our anger because we haven’t learned how to express it in a way that brings relief or that helps us meet our needs in the situation. Consider a different approach to anger, one that helps you fully express your anger and is more likely to help you meet your needs for relief, to be heard, or to be understood.


Tips for the Road Series: Tip 16. Help Others Build Their Own Truth-Finding Neural Pathways

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Along with it’s potential for helping others calm their emotions and feel deeply understood, the Nonviolent Communication process of empathetic listening can help someone increase their capacity for finding their own truth.


Tips for the Road Series: Tip 8. Practice Self-Empathy with Your Whole Body

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

In our fast-paced, busy lives it is tempting to practice NVC mostly with the left hemisphere of the brain, thinking through the steps quickly without slowing down to connect more deeply with feelings and needs.  Don't miss an opportunity to integrate the hemispheres of the brain and the valuable information from the neural networks in the heart and gut.


Two Self-Empathy Exercises

Video •  44 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
44 minutes

This session is from the NVC Academy's 2017 Telethon. Listen in as Mary offers two experiential self-empathy exercises: I Love It When, and What Do I Want / Why Do I Want It. Deepen your ability to connect with self — novel and effective ways to engage the process of Self-Empathy!


Responding to the Call of Our Times: Guest Trainer Victor Lee Lewis

Video •  1 hour, 39 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 39 minutes

Victor shares a story about a bystander who takes action without formal authority, using it s an example of transformatiive leadership skills, acting with care, needs-based commitment to the well-being of "the whole," and making a positive difference.