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Overcoming Insecurity in Friendships

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes • 
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Instead of wondering, invest time today to ask at least one friend your friendship enhances her life. Such clarification can deepen the connection.


A Focus on Needs

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Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

There are endless ways to meet our needs. Conflict occurs when we argue over strategies. When we actively value everyone’s needs, we foster openness and deeper connection in our relationships. Today look for opportunities to focus on needs in order to resolve an issue with at least one person.


Defining Needs

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes • 
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

In NVC we define needs as resources that life requires to sustain itself. All human beings have the same needs. The strategy is what we do to meet that need. Strategies are specific; we all choose unique ways to meet our needs. The more we can see the difference between the two, the more likely we are to resolve conflicts with ease. Today, look for opportunities to notice the difference in the given situation.


Transforming Complaint

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes • 
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: NVC-based social change naturally emerges from “a certain kind of spirituality”, a quality of spiritual clarity. Intuitions and impulses arising from spiritual clarity are more likely to support sustainable systems. Read on for how to bring more of this in, and ways to transform your complaint into commitment.


Four Ways to Hear Any Message

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes • 
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: In every interaction, we have a choice of responding in one of these four ways: judge/blame self, Judge/blame others, empathize with self, and/or empathize with others. The goal is to make a conscious choice about our response. Notice the choices you have when you receive someone’s communication today.


Written Check-in and Self Connection Exercise

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes • 
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Tap into feelings, needs and requests for greater self connection with the six steps in this worksheet.


Hearing The Yes Behind The No

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes • 
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: It's often easy for us to hear rejection when someone says “no” to us. If we focus on the rejection, we may feel hurt and fail to take the time to understand what is going on with them. However, if we focus on their feelings and needs, we're more likely to uncover what they want and what prevents them. To increase success in resolving conflicts and find solutions that work for everyone, hear the “yes” behind their "no".


Saying Thank You without Judgment

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes • 
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: From the NVC perspective, everything someone says or does is either a “please” or a “thank you". In our culture, saying “thank you” usually involves an appreciation in the form of judgment or evaluation. Remember, whether we judge someone as good or bad, judgments and evaluations can create disconnect or tension. Instead, notice how their actions have enriched life, and what feelings it stimulated.


Interdependence vs. Dependence/Independence

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes • 
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: NVC consciousness recognizes interdependence. In this process each person is autonomous; everyone's needs matter; people have choice and responsibility for their actions; there's abundance, and a valuing of coming together. The dependence / independence paradigm assumes we either need someone else to be whole -- or we don’t need others at all. Commit to living autonomously. Notice where you struggle with this.


Defining Enough

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes • 
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: If you have a goal, want to be a "success", or want to do "your best', define what that would look like, and how much. Identify one goal and one thing you can do today to achieve that goal and do it.


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