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Differentiating Needs from Strategies

Trainer Tip •  2 - 3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes

Trainer tip: When we focus on needs further possibilities are more likely to open up. When we focus on a particular strategy, our world can feel scarce and conflicts can arise. Resolution comes when we value everyone’s needs and seek mutually satisfying solutions. We can ask for support towards this outcome.


Moving Beyond Needs as Met or Unmet

Article •  5 - 8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes

Sometimes when we regard needs as something that could be met or unmet by another person or by a situation we unconsciously hold the belief that our needs should be met. Or we end up holding blame or implying wrongdoing. People are more likely to resist a request made from this stance. Instead, here are practices to increasingly losen any remaining attachment or demand energy -- and open our hearts to ourselves and others while we make requests.


Needs Cards

Learning Tool •  1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Learning Tool
1 - 2 minutes

Print-and-cut these 71 needs cards for one-on-one, partner or group activities, to help support the pratice of empathy. Includes nine blank cards for you to customize.


Aligning Our Strategies with Our Values

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: What do you value the most? Take a look at your actions and notice the values that your actions demonstrate (not what you want them to show, but what they do show), and see if they are in alignment.   Where there is a gap take steps to create actions that are in alignment with your values.


Some Ideas for Using the Feelings & Needs Cards

Practice Exercise •  4 - 6 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes

This guide features three activities that use feelings and needs cards: two verions of "Feelings and Needs Poker" and one for "Self-Empathy". Great for practicing alone, with a partner, or in a group.


The Illusion of Conflicting Needs

Practice Exercise •  30 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
30 minutes

This exercise will help you resolve situations in which you have two needs which seem to be in conflict with each other, transforming inner conflict into peace.


The Heart of the Matter: Connecting More Deeply to Your Feelings and Needs

Audio •  2 hours, 21 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
2 hours, 21 minutes

Do you want to increase your capacity to identify and connect with feelings and needs?  Would you like to enhance your ability to translate judgments? Join Miki for this deep dive into feelings and needs.


Privilege and Needs - Part 2

Article •  4 - 6 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
4 - 6 minutes

What is it that we are taught we can’t have, and what is it that we are encouraged to pursue instead? This guide could help you see through what's hidden behind the curtain of our societal conditioning.


Privilege and Needs - Part 1

Article •  4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes

There's the real need. And then there's the privilege that’s offered as a substitute for it. Privilege substitutes support the existing structure of society. It can look to us as if giving up the privilege would amount to giving up everything -- if we don't believe the real needs can even be experienced. If we connected directly to the needs, we could become subversive, agents of change.


Needs Consciousness

Video •  1 hour, 35 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 35 minutes

Jim and Jori discuss the root of Nonviolent Communication, needs consciousness. Participate in guided processes to deepen your own needs consciousness.


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