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Bringing the Topic of a Conversation Back to Your Needs

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes • 
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Sometimes the best way to get our need me is to first connect with the needs of another.


Connecting to Humanity

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes • 
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: We can expand our connection to humanity by considering the many strategies people use to meet our common needs.


Persisting vs. Demanding

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes • 
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Persisting without demanding is the art of what Marshall Rosenberg fondly called "Dogging for our needs." We can learn to not give up on our needs and at the same time, refrain from demanding they be met.


The Difference Between Needs and Requests

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes • 
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Knowing the difference between what we need and what we want someone else to do about that need can have a profound impact on our relationships and our happiness.


Clarifying Our Requests to Meet Our Needs

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes • 
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Clarifying our requests can make the difference between frustration and satisfaction, Mary shows you how.


NVC as a Strategy

Trainer Tip •  1 - 2 minutes • 
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Mary explains how Nonviolent Communication, a process that distinguishes needs from strategies is also itself, a strategy.


The Cause of Our Feelings

Trainer Tip •  3-5 minutes • 
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3-5 minutes

Ask the Trainer: “I would love some clarity about the NVC perspective on the cause of our feelings. It seems to me that my needs may be met or not, but the cause of my painful feelings is my story around the situation.”


Punishment, Needs and the Protective Use of Force

Trainer Tip •  8 minutes • 
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
8 minutes

Ask the Trainer: For many years I have been using crime and punishment (reward and consequences) to discipline because it was the only thing I knew. I knew deep in my heart it was alienating me...


Meeting Needs While Caretaking

Trainer Tip •  7 minutes • 
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
7 minutes

Ask the Trainer: Can all needs be met when illness limits the capacity of one person to meet the needs of her partner?


Hidden Needs

Trainer Tip •  2 - 3 minutes • 
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes

Ask the Trainer: "I've been feeling frustrated and angry quite a bit lately over very simple things. Can you help me get to the root of my hidden needs?"


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