dian killian 200x250In the Spotlight: Dian Killian


Dian Killian, Ph.D., is the founder and director of Work Collaboratively and shares Collaborative Communication with organizations, groups, and individuals.

She designs and leads transformative communication trainings in the U.S., Europe, and Asia for diverse organizations including large NGOs, multinationals, non-profits, startups, and Fortune 100 companies. Her clients have included the U.N. Nations Development Program (UNDP), New York University, Merck Inc., HCL Technologies (India), Americorps, and Maryknoll Missionaries, among many others.

Dr. Killian is also a certified executive/life coach (graduate of the Coaching for Transformation program), and founder and former director of the Center for Collaborative Communication. She is the co-author of two books, Connecting Across Differences: A Guide to Compassionate, Nonviolent Communication (in English and German), and Urban Empathy: True Life Adventures of Compassion on the Streets of NY. She also publishes a blog and podcast and has been featured frequently as a guest speaker/trainer.

In addition to her work with organizations, Dian designs and leads workshops and retreats for the general public, including the International NVC Women’s Retreat, which she founded, as well as programs at the New York Open Center, Kripalu, Life Labs, the Omega Institute, and the 92nd Street Y, among others. She is also on the faculty of the NVC Academy.

Dian now has over 20 learning resources available in the NVC Multimedia Library. Dian is also leading a live videoconference, Empathy Magic, beginning May 9th.

Library Resources with Dian Killian: (22)


Tip: Demystifying Empathy Guesses

Intermediate Skill Level  •  Trainer Tip  •  00:06 hours:minutes

Here's a quick tip to improve your empathy skills with empathy guessing.

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Empathy Magic

Intermediate Skill Level  •  Video  •  00:45 hours:minutes

Empathy guessing when I was new to NVC seemed magical and mysterious. How could that other person have known that about me? And seen inside me — often in ways I'd missed myself. While empathy is both intuitive and an art, there is also a science to it. In this brief yet fascinating introduction to Dian's course, Empathy Magic, you'll learn a super-practical way to demystify empathy guessing by making use of the root meaning of words.

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Living in Full Authenticity

Introductory Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 3 - 5 minutes
In life, relationships, and organizations, authenticity is the bedrock of effectiveness. It can give rise to effective dialogues, information flow, intimacy, accountability, decision making and follow through. NVC can give us more tools to live with rigor around our authenticity...
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Curiosity, The Art of Waiting, and Finding Peace

Intermediate Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 7 - 11 minutes
Sitting with uncertainty can be very uncomfortable and evoke anxiety. Or it can be a practice that brings in the curiosity and inner spaciousness that allows for creative solutions to emerge, and that help us to relax our attachment to outcomes.  Here's a closer look...
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What Do You Deserve? And Do You Really Want to Deserve Anything?

Beginner Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
We can trick ourselves into keeping the status quo, feeling unworthy, and blocking access to critical awareness necessary that allows for new creative solutions to emerge -- when we think in terms of who has "earned" or “deserved” what.
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Self-Management = More Joy at Work

Beginner Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
Want to manage more effectively with more ease and joy and get your staff to make changes? The first, crucial step is to learn how to change your behavior to impact what's happening. For example, we can get the inner clarity we need to reframe questions we ask ourselves, recap, make clear requests, give concrete feedback, etc. This article expands on how self-management can increase influence...
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Embracing the Body: Learning Compassion as a “Felt-Sense”

Beginner Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
Our "felt-sense" can provide crucial information about our experience and our lives. It can also help us integrate and retain information. This can also bring greater access to internal resources, choice, open heartedness, collaboration and creative solutions. From there, profound insight and transformation can follow. Here's how we can harness that...
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Empathy in the Face of Powerful Structures

Intermediate Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 12 - 18 minutes

Here's an inspiring story of one citizen (the author) who faced a police officer and judge in court to contest a transit ticket... and inspired structural changes in the way one aspect of New York City transit operates. She inspires change with her application of empathy for self and others, acknowledgement, connecting requests -- and an inspiring vision of understanding, shared reality and living in a city where people have some trust in one another's intentions.

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The NVC Model: A Map to Your Intentions

Beginner Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 4 - 6 minutes

The more we practice NVC by “rote” --going through OFNR (“Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests”) on automatic-- the more likely our NVC practice would lead to disconnection.  The purpose of our NVC practice is to use this NVC "map" (OFNR) to support us in integrating the consciousness of the NVC (eg. operating with the intention to connect, collaborate, etc).  Once we let the map drop away, we can engage with the people in our lives in a more heartfelt way.  This article explains more about how we can use the map to remind us of our  heartfelt consciousness...

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What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”

Beginner Skill Level  •  Article  •  Read time: 6 - 9 minutes
The impulse to say "I love you" is an opportunity to check-in both with our level of presence (eg. are we saying it by rote?) and also with what we really mean in that moment (eg. what are the needs and real purpose deep beneath the word "love"?).  This can invite us to explore a deeper, more heartfelt way of communicating and being...
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