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Asking to be Known

Article • 7 - 12 minutes • 3/2019
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
7 - 12 minutes
3/2019

There are various ways to be known. Learn how to engage and make clear requests accordingly. This includes getting clear in yourself about what exactly you want known; communicating how important it is to you; sharing examples in your life of being known; requesting and negotiating from the energy of the met need; letting the other person know whether or not the relationship is really sustainable for you if the need goes unmet long-term; and checking the other person's capacity.


How to Open Your Holiday Presence

Audio • 48 minutes • 12/12/2013
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
48 minutes
12/12/2013

In this telecourse recording, you will learn and practice self-awareness skills to fine tune your attention to met needs; savoring feelings of well-being; expressing these feelings to others; and receiving other people's messages of joy, gratitude, inspiration and more!


Choice in Every Moment

Audio • 31 minutes • 05/2010
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
31 minutes
05/2010

This 31-minute audio with Miki Kashtan is packed full of power as she uncovers the dynamics of choice that are present 100% of the time, in every situation, regardless of the circumstances.


Giraffe Fighting: Having Your Cake and Eating It Too (2 Session Course)

Audio • 2 hours, 35 minutes • 07/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
2 hours, 35 minutes
07/2011

Do you find yourself giving in with growing resentment? Do you avoid conflict and explode later without apparent reason?  Miki Kashtan, a world-renowned CNVC Certified Trainer, invites you to listen to this two-session telecourse recording to re-imagine and fine tune your skills at dealing with disagreements and negotiations.


The Heart and Science of Empathy (5 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 12/01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
6 - 8 hours
12/01/2016

Join CNVC Certified Trainer Eric Bowers in journeying through the world of Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) as he expands on the theories and tools from his book Meet Me In Hard-to-Love Places: The Heart and Science of Relationship Success. You'll discover why IPNB and NVC complement each other so well, especially in the powerful practice of Somatic-Based Resonant Empathy.

The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.


Don't Just Feel Your Emotions

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 04/2019
Beginner
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
04/2019

To keep our life energy moving and growing we can find the resources to welcome and accompany various parts of ourselves with compassion and love -- as though these parts are very young children.  And even if these parts contain difficult emotions...


The Power of Forgiveness

Audio • 48 minutes • 09/24/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
48 minutes
09/24/2016

Delve into the power of forgiveness with Rodger Sorrow! Listen in as Rodger explores 3 areas: asking for forgiveness, when it's hard to forgive, and forgiving ourselves.


10 Steps to Peace

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Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 1/2014
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
1/2014

Gary Baran offers 10 things we can do to contribute to internal, interpersonal, and organizational peace...


The Cause of Our Feelings

Trainer Tip • 3-5 minutes • Circa 2007
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3-5 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: “I would love some clarity about the NVC perspective on the cause of our feelings. It seems to me that my needs may be met or not, but the cause of my painful feelings is my story around the situation.”


The Heart of the Matter: Connecting More Deeply to Your Feelings and Needs

Audio • 2 hours, 21 minutes • 06/24/2008
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
2 hours, 21 minutes
06/24/2008

Do you want to increase your capacity to identify and connect with feelings and needs?  Would you like to enhance your ability to translate judgments? Join Miki for this deep dive into feelings and needs.


Empathy vs. Sympathy

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: When we sympathize, we relate an aspect of someone’s story to ourselves. When we empathize, we reflect the feelings and needs of the other. Empathy helps people connect more deeply to their own and another’s pain, and helps resolve issues with clarity and ease. Notice when you're giving someone sympathy rather than empathy.


Tips for the Road Series: Tip 5. Separate Needs from Outcomes and Strategies

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016

Eric Bowers explains how needs and strategies correlate to different brain hemispheres, and how relaxing into our needs opens us to greater possibilities.


Facilitating Connection

Audio • 59 minutes • 04/28/2010
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
59 minutes
04/28/2010

Expressing ourselves honestly is sometimes scary because we can't predict where the conversation will go after we've made ourselves vulnerable. This recording will demonstrate how the power of our honesty is enhanced by ending on a clear and present request.


The Three Stages of Transition

Video • 1 hour, 8 minutes • 09/19/2017
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 8 minutes
09/19/2017

Learn about the three stages of transition, and how staying connected to needs can help you remain oriented and grounded even through the most challenging transitions.


Don't Be Nice, Be Real! (4 Session Course)

Audio • 4 - 5 hours • 10/2007
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
4 - 5 hours
10/2007

In this dynamic 4 session telecourse recording, Kelly Bryson provides practical skills to balance passion for self with compassion for others.  You will learn to apply Nonviolent Communication to stop yourself from being intimidated, giving in or giving up, abandoning your own needs or resenting others.


Expressing Our Pain Without Blame

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 08/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
08/2011

The more we can stay present with our hurt, and own our interpretations, we are more likely to express what's important to us without blame and also to become resilient. From there, the listener can have more space to offer their full presence and empathy. Read on for more.


The Nuts and Bolts of Not Taking Things Personally

Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 02/2013
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
12 - 18 minutes
02/2013

Why is it so difficult to not take things personally? It's because everything reinforces the sense that whatever is being said is indeed about us – both from without and from within. However, we can get better at not taking things personally with a practice of shifting our focus by being open to multiple interpretations, understanding that our reaction is about our own need, and noticing how the other person’s words, no matter how they sound to us, are an expression of their needs. We can then be more present and available to navigate the situation.


Relating to the Value of Things Rather Than the Cost

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 09/27/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
09/27/2005

Trainer Tip: The exchange of resources, that is, exchanging money for an item or service, is enhanced and better appreciated when we are connected to its personal value rather than its cost.


To Vaccinate or Not to Vaccinate - How to Connect With What Matters

Article • 8 - 12 minutes • 8/2021
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
8 - 12 minutes
8/2021

To help you stay connected to yourself and the other person when in challenging discussions about COVID-19 vaccines or other hot issues, without labeling others as reactive or otherwise, you can begin by tracking signs of your own reactivity to bring mindfulness onboard, then shifting your attention to universal needs; and asking to connect about it later. Read on for more.


Express Anger with Responsibility

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 9/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
9/2019

Anger can bring in judgment and blame. Instead, use anger and frustration to identify what’s important and express what matters to you in a collaborative way.