CNVC Certified Trainer from Ithaca, New York, USA
Martha Lasley, MBA, is a partner at the Authentic Communication Group, where she works with movers, shakers and changemakers to support profound transformation. She facilitates small groups to explore power dynamics, give and receive real feedback and create heart connection. Her passion is integrating Nonviolent Communication, Internal Family Systems, Diversity, Equity & Inclusion, and Group Process Work.
She has authored three books: Coaching for Transformation, Facilitating with Heart, and Courageous Visions. As a founder of Leadership that Works, she trained coaches and facilitators for 20 years. She was on the faculty at Capella University for more than a decade, where she taught MBA courses including: Coaching and Developing Others; Facilitating Change; Leveraging Workplace Diversity; and Teambuilding.
As a certified trainer for the Center for Nonviolent Communication, she has had the privilege of leading many International Intensive Trainings with Marshall Rosenberg.
She lives at EcoVillage in Ithaca, NY, where she enjoys working with neighbors on social justice, cooking, and gardening.
People find confrontation inspirational when done with full compassion and intention to support. To do this, transform your own judgments or distress, come with useful content plus spot-on timing, and the best interests of the receiver in mind. Read on for questions you can ask yourself in preparation for this, and more.
With coaching or counselling clients, their resistance can show up as “bracing against” something. But if we push back against their resistance, we miss noticing what they're protecting or embracing. By going into resistance clients build awareness and often shift when they get clear about their underlying needs, and new choices. Some clients don’t shift even after we’ve tried everything. In that case, read on to learn about Frank Farrelly's "provocative therapy".
How can we respond when we’re horrified by what someone says? How can we deepen our connection to our humanness and authenticity when the impact is hurtful? Read on to see examples of the three steps of "calling out", "calling in", and "calling forth".
A challenge is an expansion of making a clear, positive doable request — and, when given, the person feels deeply seen by the challenger. A challenge isn't just about getting someone to take action on something important to them; it's a fierce form of empathy that supports people in connecting with their life force, and integrates it into their lives with action. A real challenge is tied to the receiver's goals, passions and dreams -- and expands their potential.
If we are in the dominant group, intervening to prevent violence or an "ouch" is a way to ally with marginalized folks. We can intervene to meet their needs, rather than our own. In other words, we can intervene without putting our experience at center stage. To that end, here are six ways to ask if an intervention is welcome.
It's never too late to have a happy childhood. In this class, Martha will share the process for witnessing a wounded child. She will work with a volunteer to demonstrate the power of creating safety, listening empathically, and honoring the child's deepest needs.
Martha firmly believes in the old adage, "It's never too late to have a happy childhood." Why? Because your wounded child carries all your burdens, and can tell you exactly what they need in order to find healing! Listen.