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Restoring Togetherness: Needs Choreography as a Path to Collective Liberation

Monday, Tuesday & Wednesday December 13, 14 & 15, 2021 (three sessions)
11:00am - 12:30pm Pacific (California) Time

The live course is complete. You can register to receive access to the recorded sessions.

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  • Increased Accessibility: $45 (if you are from a marginalized group; or part of the global south, regardless of where you live)
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Listen to Miki share her excitement about this course.

There are no individual solutions to systemic collapse. A future for humanity means reweaving our frayed threads of togetherness into a fabric that is stronger than we could ever be in our individualized existence. Especially when our collective capacity for doing so is at its lowest ever given our atrophied collaboration muscles. 

If we are to pull through this, some of us will be called to take on what Miki calls “needs choreography” – the capacity to weave together everyone’s needs so that more and more of us experience what it’s like to come together to attend to everyone’s needs, even in challenging moments. 

This course is designed to be an intensive introduction for those who want to learn how to do this transformative art form and support families, communities, organizations, and even divided stakeholders to realign with life. 

Course Outline

The course is comprised of three 90-min sessions held on three consecutive days. The outline below is loose and may shift to adapt to needs, experiences, and situations as they arise in the course of our time together.

Monday: Why Capacity Matters: Freeing Ourselves from Patriarchal Overstretching

One of the hallmarks of patriarchal functioning is a complete disregard for limits. This includes the extractive economy that is destroying the planet just as much as it includes our own and each other’s capacity limits. Anything less than honoring these limits is continuing to use force against self and other. Cultivating tenderness, humility, and the willingness to believe the signals we get from within and around us, we soften our relationship with everything. This session focuses on how, especially as practitioners committed to a world that works for all, we can integrate this gentle approach, model it even while being fully mobilized, and support others in doing the same. 

Tuesday: Needs, Impacts, Resources: Building Blocks of Integrative Decisions that Work for All

Most of us are habituated to navigating life, and making decisions with others, based on what should happen, who is at fault when anything doesn’t work, and who deserves what. When we remove all this and open, especially through the door of surrendering to capacity, to look directly at what is simply true, we discover the possibility of replacing should’s with needs; shame and blame with clean descriptions of impacts; and deserve and fairness with accurate assessment of available resources. Then we can experience the radical simplicity of making decisions based on how to move resources from where they exist to where they are needed with the minimal unwanted impacts and based on full willingness. That is a door to heaven even within the limits of our devastated world.  

Wednesday: Needs Choreography: Leaning on All Available Capacity to Dance Together for Liberation

With the collapse of the commons in particular, modern humans lost our capacity to dance with each other to optimally attend to needs within available means. Rebooting this capacity is sacred work. Not everyone will accept the imperative to stretch into trusting life so much that we are willing to surrender to the possibility of not getting our needs met because we know that life ultimately works when we all surrender. Sometimes being needs choreographers means going on faith when our trust is low, so that we can hold and navigate both our own needs and those of everyone around us, even when those others don’t do the same, with the purpose of finding pathways that optimize available capacity in relation to all known needs. This is a tall order spiritually because we have lost the trust in mutual influencing as the most precise measure of collective capacity. This work invites those of us who are willing to shape ourselves after the image of the Boddhisatva, who returns to life when offered Nirvana in order to support the liberation of all.

  • Video and audio recordings of every session
  • Forum discussion available in the classroom
  • Lifetime access to the classroom
What Happens After I Register?

When you register, you will receive an email with complete instructions on how to access the videoconference.
All registrants will receive access to all recordings. Recordings will display images of active speakers only.

Dates & Times

All times listed are Pacific (California) Time.  

Miki Kashtan

About Miki Kashtan

CNVC Certified Trainer, author and co-founder of Bay Area Nonviolent Communication (BayNVC) and the North America NVC Leadership Program, from Oakland, California, USA

Miki Kashtan is a co-founder of Bay Area Nonviolent Communication (BayNVC) and Lead Collaboration Consultant at the Center for Efficient Collaboration. Miki aims to support visionary leadership and shape a livable future using collaborative tools based on the principles of Nonviolent Communication. She shares these tools through meeting facilitation, mediation, consulting, coaching, and training for organizations and committed individuals. Her latest book, The Highest Common Denominator: Using Convergent Facilitation to Reach Breakthrough...