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Sitting With Not Knowing: Embracing the Heart of Nonviolent Communication

Article •  3 - 5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

Sitting with not knowing is an NVC skill because its the opposite of reactivity. In our haste to find relief from the discomfort of not knowing, we often become defensive, jump to conclusions, and blame and criticize others. Sitting with not knowing requires us to suspend our distrust, tolerate fear and uncertainty - creating space within us. NVC provides a way forward to enter into a space of wonder, possibility, and creativity.


Living in Full Authenticity

Article •  3 - 5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

In life, relationships, and organizations, authenticity is the bedrock of effectiveness. It can give rise to effective dialogues, information flow, intimacy, accountability, decision making and follow through. NVC can give us more tools to live with rigor around our authenticity...


What Do You Deserve? And Do You Really Want to Deserve Anything?

Article •  5 - 8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes

We can trick ourselves into keeping the status quo, feeling unworthy, and blocking access to critical awareness necessary that allows for new creative solutions to emerge -- when we think in terms of who has "earned" or “deserved” what.


Embracing the Body: Learning Compassion as a “Felt-Sense”

Article •  5 - 8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes

Our "felt-sense" can provide crucial information about our experience and our lives. It can also help us integrate and retain information. This can also bring greater access to internal resources, choice, open heartedness, collaboration and creative solutions. From there, profound insight and transformation can follow. Here's how we can harness that...


The NVC Model: A Map to Your Intentions

Article •  4 - 6 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes

The more we practice NVC by “rote” --going through OFNR (“Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests”) on automatic-- the more likely our NVC practice would lead to disconnection.  The purpose of our NVC practice is to use this NVC "map" (OFNR) to support us in integrating the consciousness of the NVC (eg. operating with the intention to connect, collaborate, etc).  Once we let the map drop away, we can engage with the people in our lives in a more heartfelt way.  This article explains more about how we can use the map to remind us of our  heartfelt consciousness...


What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”

Article •  6 - 9 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes

The impulse to say "I love you" is an opportunity to check-in both with our level of presence (eg. are we saying it by rote?) and also with what we really mean in that moment (eg. what are the needs and real purpose deep beneath the word "love"?).  This can invite us to explore a deeper, more heartfelt way of communicating and being...


Empathy in the Face of Powerful Structures

Article •  12 - 18 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
12 - 18 minutes

Here's an inspiring story of one citizen (the author) who faced a police officer and judge in court to contest a transit ticket... and inspired structural changes in the way one aspect of New York City transit operates. She inspires change with her application of empathy for self and others, acknowledgement, connecting requests -- and an inspiring vision of understanding, shared reality and living in a city where people have some trust in one another's intentions.


NVC Conversations About Privilege and Power-Over

Article •  9 - 14 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
9 - 14 minutes

Some people in the NVC community consider the words "privilege" and "power" triggering and/or evaluative. From this perspective, how can the concepts of "privilege" and "power" be considered part of the NVC teaching?  This writing piece examines the power and privilege debate.  It also discusses what the author sees as Marshall Rosenberg and Gandhi's stance on the subject...


Self-Management = More Joy at Work

Article •  5 - 8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes

Want to manage more effectively with more ease and joy and get your staff to make changes? The first, crucial step is to learn how to change your behavior to impact what's happening. For example, we can get the inner clarity we need to reframe questions we ask ourselves, recap, make clear requests, give concrete feedback, etc. This article expands on how self-management can increase influence...


Curiosity, The Art of Waiting, and Finding Peace

Article •  7 - 11 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
7 - 11 minutes

Sitting with uncertainty can be very uncomfortable and evoke anxiety. Or it can be a practice that brings in the curiosity and inner spaciousness that allows for creative solutions to emerge, and that help us to relax our attachment to outcomes.  Here's a closer look...


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