When asked to talk about Self-Empathy to a professional group with no NVC background, Mary devised a quick and easy new practice: Jackal vs Needs. It takes the basics of NVC and turns them into delightfully clear and straightforward questions! Excerpted from the 2017 NVC Telethon.
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NVC helps us translate any judgments we may be holding – towards ourselves or others – into feelings and needs that connect us to our humanity. We are not perfect. We have never done anything wrong, and we have never done anything right.
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- Duration 6 minutes
- Production Date 04/26/2020
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When someone expresses upset about our actions, and we focus on our intention being seen and understood (e.g. "I didn’t mean to hurt you”) it doesn't support the speaker in being heard more deeply with care. Here we'll explore this dynamic in a way that supports more clarity and the possibility of greater personal liberation. Read on for more.
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- Skill Level Advanced Skill Level
- Duration Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
- Production Date 08/2013
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When conflict or criticism occurs, we can notice two layers of meaning to create connection: the content and the needs the speaker is holding. When we are able to recognize this --and ideally engage open-heartedly, with curiosity, make clear requests, imagining what they want, no matter how their expression was framed -- we have more opportunity to support the longevity of our relationships, and to decrease our loneliness when together.
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- Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
- Duration Read time: 5 - 7 minutes
- Production Date 05/2020
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Working for racial justice is a shift in perspective—a shift in understanding and empathy that leads to a change in our actions: to listen instead of talk, to follow instead of lead, to yield rather than dominate. And to accept that I will continue to mess up. Part of working to undo racism is having the humility to know when our own understanding is limited. Read on for more this, and how it relates to meditation -- plus personal and collective liberation.
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- Duration Read time:5 - 8 minutes
- Production Date 06/2020
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- Black Lives Matter
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- social justice
- white centering
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- white fragility
- white guilt
- meditation
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- microaggression
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Anger can result in violence or in a movement towards positive change. We can see this happen in the push for racial justice. When you perceive anger as a form of violence your nervous system becomes activated. Your perspective narrows and old conditioning can take over leading to overwhelm, defensiveness, hatred, or violence. Read on for four ways to to respond to our own or others' anger in a way that mobilizes desired change.
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Listen in as Mary deftly demonstrates a self-empathy process based on NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). This unique process uses very few words, yet enables you to remain focused and grounded when you are feeling unable to think clearly, or are feeling agitated or even scared.
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- Duration 00:11 hours:minutes
- Production Date 11/7/2018
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The existing unequal risks and impacts people of certain race, class and identities face in society is magnified in these strenuous times -- especially with things such as illness, financial well being, discrimination, attacks, and death. As responsive NVC practitioners we can stand in solidarity with those who are differentially impacted. Read on for this, and additional ways to spot common pitfalls of doing so.
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- Skill Level Advanced Skill Level
- Duration Read time: 15 - 23 minutes
- Production Date 05/2020
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- bystander
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It’s essential to give ourselves time to grapple with the complex feelings surrounding the brutality of state-sanctioned racism and violence. But if all we do is reflect and attend to our emotions we fail to show up, where and when it counts. So let's not perpetuate the violence by standing idly. Instead, here's ten things you can do to move into concrete action to address the continued, untenable, and horrific violence of racism. A list of resources is included.
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- Duration Read time:7 - 11 minutes
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- white privilege
- privilege
- Privilege blindness
- racism
- Justice
- ally
- complicity
- intervention
- social change
- nonviolent direct action
- complacency
- Solidarity
- resource list
- Black Lives Matter
Amidst racial violence, there are things that NVC can offer. And there are places where NVC culture needs to be more vigilant. Here are examples of where, amidst incredible loss and pain, "allies" and communities commonly (and often unknowingly) create false equivalences, minimization and re-injure those who've been historically marginalized -- even when they offer empathy, or aim to stay "safe". Read on to cultivate greater understanding and ways to respond differently.
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- Duration Read time: 23 - 34 minutes
- Production Date 06/2020
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- Advanced Skill Level
- Roxy
- Roxy Manning
- Manning
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- equity
- privilege
- power
- social change
- Justice
- Systemic
- impact
- social responsibility
- dominant culture
- Norms
- equality
- oppression
- Myth
- Introductory Skill Level
- erasure
- minority
- Black Lives Matter
- social movement
- racism
- prejudice
- marginalization
- microaggression
- BIPOC
- POC
- people of color
- George Floyd
- Police
- False equivalence
- Minimization
- NVC culture
- status quo
- ally
- bias
- empathy
- intervention
- bystander
- conplicit
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- complicity
- Solidarity
