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Restoring Togetherness

Video • 14 minutes
All Skill Levels
Video
14 minutes

Struggling to navigate needs between the vaccinated and unvaccinated? How can we disagree and still understand each other? Listen in as a participant engages with Miki about her struggle to choreograph people's divergent needs around vaccines, and enjoy Miki's tip for reflecting back understanding when we disagree!


Naturalizing NVC Language: Approaching a Difficult Conversation

Video • 3 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
3 minutes

How do you repair a relationship when you've already said things you regret, and want to reconnect with explaining or defending yourself? Listen as Miki Kashtan offers two valauble tips.


Six Ways That Support You Being Heard

Practice Exercise • 6 - 9 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
6 - 9 minutes

When you don't have a sense of being heard you can apply skills to help you can interrupt cycles of reactivity and resentment, and create connection. Let's look at six ways that will support you in being heard. These are clarity about the topic and needs; supportive conditions; respect for autonomy; sharing your intention; attending to emotional security; and making clear requests.


Understanding The Difference Between Life-Serving Boundaries And Threats

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes

When someone's behavior costs us, we may attempt to negotiate as much as possible. After some rounds of this, if there's no change we may reach a tolerance limit. So we may set a boundary for self care and clarity about what's unworkable. But depending on intentions and the way its said, this may or may not be a punishment to get even. Here, clarity about intentions, feelings, needs, actions and dialogue may support us.


Exercise For Saying "No" And Staying Connected

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes

Ever have a hard time saying "no" to someone, or feel obligated to say yes? Here's an exercise that can help you notice where you are placing yourself as someone who "has to" say yes; the needs in the other person making the request; what you want to say "yes" to (regarding your needs and theirs) by saying "no"; what prevents you from saying "yes"; plus your request and how you might express it.


Supporting Our Loved Ones In Living Authentically

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Sometimes the people in our lives don’t yet have the skills to speak directly about what they want. When this happens we can make guesses about how they feel and what they want. This can lead to greater connection and chances we all can be more satisfied with our interactions.


I Want To Connect More Than I Want To Be Right

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: We have a better chance of getting our needs met if we prioritize connecting with one another's needs more than being right. This way we can reduce the chances of conflict arising. We also increase the possibility we can find ways everyone’s needs can be met.


Time And Money: Reflection Questions and Exercise

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes

Use these reflection questions and exercise to practice moving from a place of scarcity to empowerment and conscious choice regarding money and time. The exercise will ask you to identify your thoughts, feelings, and needs. And it will ask you to identify both what to mourn and what next actions you want to take. It includes a feelings and needs sheet.


Working With Anger: An Exercise

Practice Exercise • 2 -3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
2 -3 minutes

Fully connecting to the deeper need under the anger can transform and release the anger, without requiring the other person to do anything differently. From there, you can reach an understanding of the other person's experience, feelings and needs underlying the actions that stimulated your anger to re-establish connection with your own and the other person's humanity.


Guidelines And Suggestions For Empathy Buddy Calls

Trainer Tip • 4 - 6 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
4 - 6 minutes

Here are 10 tips for empathy buddy practice. It includes a handout identifying 15 non-empathy responses to step aside from when you practice.


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