How have have you suffered by making resolutions, and not going as far with them as you wanted? Join Kristin in setting three intentions instead of resolutions: one for your body, one for a close relationship, and one for the larger world!

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 8 minutes
  • Production Date 11/16/2019
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During this session, Miki defines internalized oppression and explores ways of coping with it. Curious to know how YOU may have unconsciously agreed to internalized oppression, and how the role you are playing in life might be supporting it? Listen in.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 24 minutes
  • Production Date 11/1/2019
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Trainer Tip: When considering your "deal breakers" consider what you want from a relationship rather than how it will look. For instance, maybe my need for abundance can be met by someone who is independently wealthy, so he doesn’t have to “have a good job”. When you shift your focus from strategies to needs, you may be pleasantly surprised what the universe brings. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 1-2 minutes
  • Date Written/Produced 10/2005
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  • Points 2
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Trainer Tip: List specific things that would signify love to you. Based on who the other person is and who you are, how could your need for love be met? Being specific is important. General statements, such as “I just want you to love me” or “I would like you to be more attentive and listen to me more” won’t work. (S)he may already think (s)he is attentive. What would being attentive look like to you? And how will he know if (s)he’s been attentive enough?

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 1-2 minutes
  • Date Written/Produced 10/2005
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  • Points 2
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Trainer Tip: Sometimes we need to empathize with a person before he can hear our anger. Consider that all anger is an expression of an unmet need. If we focus on the need, rather than the actions, we are more likely to connect compassionately with other people. Be aware of opportunities to empathize with someone’s anger today.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 1-2 minutes
  • Date Written/Produced 10/2005
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  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Most reactivity in intimate relationships comes from a lack of confidence in maintaining intimacy, autonomy, or security. What may help is naming what's happening, interrupting shame, and anchoring or reassuring yourself. You can also reflect on the effects of acting from reactivity. Knowing what helps center you, ask your partner to do or say specific things that might help. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 3-5 minutes
  • Date Written/Produced 2/2019
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  • Points 4
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In healing reactivity try identifying your most common complaints, wishes, or requests. Or when you tend to defend, justify, get angry, or protect. Find the tender needs. You can recall when you experienced deep nourishment of that need. Several times a week nourish your tender needs. Be clear about the strategy to address needs by answering key questions. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 3-5 minutes
  • Date Written/Produced 6/2018
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  • Points 2
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Is there someone you wish was more willing? Try guessing what obstacles they might be struggling with. And allow yourself to feel your grief. As you grapple with your own desire for someone to find their willingness, its essential to recognize that this is about you and your needs. You can also express your needs honestly, make requests for how to collaborate, and be responsive to what they want. Read on for more on this, plus four common ways someone’s willingness might be blocked.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration Read time: 4-6 minutes
  • Date Written/Produced 2/2019
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  • Points 2
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We can choose our stories of interpretation, and how to respond. And while stories of self-sufficiency can (to a degree) give us more influence over our own lives, they don't erase oppression, war, nor climate change. When stories omit a lens that includes impacts of interdependence, oppression, and structural inequities, stories can also keep us disconnected and blocked from compassion for self and others -- and perpetuating an oppressive status quo. However, with this lens we can make greater compassion and collective liberation possible. Even as the outcome is unknown.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration Read time: 16 - 24 minutes
  • Date Written/Produced 05/2019
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  • Points 10
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CNVC Certified Trainer Lore Baur asks: "Have you ever seen something happen that made you feel uncomfortable and you didn't know what to do?" That's the "bystander effect:" a well-researched and commonly experienced phenomenon. Training can help you overcome it, enabling you to discern what to do and how to support others in ways that reduce trauma and increase safety.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 44 minutes
  • Production Date 11/17/2018
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  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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