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Guidelines And Suggestions For Empathy Buddy Calls

Beginner Skill Level •  Trainer Tip •  4 - 6 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
4 - 6 minutes

Here are 10 tips for empathy buddy practice. It includes a handout identifying 15 non-empathy responses to step aside from when you practice.


When Hearing A “No”: Demanding Versus Persisting

Beginner Skill level •  Trainer Tip •  2 - 3 minutes
Beginner Skill level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes

Trainer Tip: When they say "no", acknowledge what people are saying "yes" to. From there, you persist towards a resolution that values both party's needs, without demand. Persisting is when we try to meet needs by continuing to connect with another. Demanding is when we insist someone do something, or else face negative repercussions. Showing care and willingness to work with people can help them to want to collaborate and resolve conflict.


Somatic-Based Empathy

Beginner Skill Level •  Practice Exercise •  1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1-2 minutes

Use this interactive empathy exercise to track the relationship and shifting of body sensations, feelings and needs as you note them out loud.


Transforming Children's Anger

Beginner Skill Level •  Article •  3 - 5 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

What parent hasn't experienced a surge of protectiveness when your child hurts their sibling? Our cultural training calls us to immediately take two roles: the judge, determining who was wrong and what the consequences will be, and the police, enforcing the consequences. These thankless jobs often result in frustration, resentment, pain, for all. Read on for an example of how empathy transformed a child's impulse to hit another child.


Empathic Attuned Listening Practices

Beginner Skill Level •  Video •  10 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
10 minutes

Being heard is a core human need. But what if you don't like what the other person is saying: how do you hold onto your awareness of their humanity? Find out in this demonstration from Kathy Simon's course, Connect Across Differences.


Acknowledging Other People’s Reality

Beginner Skill Level •  Trainer Tip •  1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Even if we don't agree, acknowledging others' realities can help demonstrate that we're including their feelings and needs in the conversation. Creating space for your reality and theirs can also bring a sense of connection, understanding, inclusion, abundance and fullness in life. Try it today. Read on for an example.


How to Respect Boundaries When Offering Empathy

Beginner Skill Level •  Article •  6 - 9 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes

Sometimes the empathy you offer may stimulate disconnect or a sense of boundary crossing for the other person. To identify what might have contributed to the disconnect you can look for the signs, the level of attunement and the context, and examine what's happening in you. Read on for more.


Safe Experimentation

Beginner Skill Level •  Trainer Tip •  1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Instead of trying for perfection, let’s try safe experimentation: Acknowledge that whenever we try a new behavior, it’s bound to take us a few times before we get it right. Read on for how we can do this. We'll use learning empathy as an example.


Healing From Betrayal

All Skill Levels •  Article •  5- 8 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
5- 8 minutes

Repairing betrayal may include rebuilding self trust, getting support, empathy on both sides over time, and new agreements. Even though your (in)actions don't "cause" someone's behavior, acknowledging any part you played in creating conditions for the behaviors to arise, can support repair. Trust builds slowly as new skills, ways of relating and experiences that reflect honesty, self responsibility, and respect are consistent over time.


Signs of Healthy Differentiation With Empathy

All Skill Levels •  Article •  4- 6 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
4- 6 minutes

If you ask for or give empathy and are met with accusations of codependency, there are a number of things you can do to check that you are coming from a place of healthy differentiation. You can see if you're doing so from a place of healthy differentiation -- and notice signs of healthy differentiation when you offer empathy. You can also bring a profound respect for differences, and clear boundaries. Read on for more.


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