Trainer Tip: The exchange of resources, that is, exchanging money for an item or service, is enhanced and better appreciated when we are connected to its personal value rather than its cost. Trainer Tip What is a cynic? A man who knows the price ofeverything and the value of nothing.—Oscar Wilde How much is that class worth to you? How about that blouse or new wallet? So many of us decide worth based on outside influences. When we make spending decisions, I suggest we base them on the value we receive from that item or service. I have a massage therapist who comes to my house and gives the best massage I have ever experienced. She charges me forty-five dollars for a ninety-minute massage. I pay her sixty dollars. Not because I have to, but because I receive so much value from the massage that it doesn’t meet my need for integrity to pay her forty-five dollars. Similarly, when I was starting as a trainer of Nonviolent Communication, I interned with a trainer in another city. He allowed me to go to all his trainings for free as part of my internship. Many times I paid him for the classes because I received so much value from them and because I wanted to contribute to his life. The exchange of resources, that is, exchanging money for an item or service, is enhanced and better appreciated when we are connected to its personal value. Consider shifting your focus from what something costs to the value it brings to your life. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press.