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NVC Resources on Protective Use of Force


Is Nonviolent Use of Force an Oxymoron?

Article • 37 - 56 minutes • 05/2020
Article
37 - 56 minutes
05/2020
What do we actually mean by “use of force” and what counts as such? Here's a template that will be unpacked in this article: "Use of force is consistent with nonviolence to the extent that we use the least amount of force possible, with the most love possible, aiming at (re)creating conditions for dialogue; that we make the choice using as much nonreactive discernment as possible, with as much...

Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change

Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 12/2017
Article
12 - 18 minutes
12/2017
What could be, more often than not, overlooked when we think about or represent NVC or Marshall Rosenberg's work? This article busts some commonly held ideas and approaches to NVC. It challenges us to widen the lens of what it really means to be "life-serving", or speaking and hearing the "language of life". And it also speaks to how thinking can deepen feeling and relatedness...

Unpacking OFNR - Requests

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 11/2020
Article
5 - 8 minutes
11/2020
Many believe it's only a true NVC request when we can ask for what we need without urgency or insistence. But what if we're the target of oppression and hate in a world with systemic inequality? Is it still nonviolence to abdicate power by allowing the person enacting harm to be the one to decide whether harm continues? The intensity of the need, degree of harm, and how chronically unmet the...

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? - Part 2

Article • 18 - 27 minutes • 02/2020
Article
18 - 27 minutes
02/2020
We can't alone (nor with lone communities) transform the hidden structures of violence and domination. Dialogue alone isn't disruptive enough. We can easily be in dialogue with Trump supporters while the planet burns up, millions are still hungry, and we go extinct. NVC seriously risks reinforcing vast inequities and abuses if we're not radically engaging systemic constraints, and impacts of...

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

Learning Tool • 3 pages • 2008
Learning Tool
3 pages
2008
NVC practice is based on several key assumptions and intentions. When we live based on these assumptions and intentions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy, helping us contribute to a world where everyone’s needs are attended to peacefully.

No Need Left Behind: All Needs Matter in the Classroom - Including the Teachers!

with Lore Baur
Audio • 37 minutes • 08/16/2014
Audio
37 minutes
08/16/2014
CNVC Certified Trainer Lore Baur shares how, as a teacher, the classroom is a laboratory for learning NVC and incorporating the NVC consciousness into the classroom. Topics discussed include empathy, permission to educate, protective use of force, corrective action, choice & options and re-do.

Adding Active Bystander Skills to Your NVC Toolkit

with Lore Baur
Video • 44 minutes • 11/17/2018
Video
44 minutes
11/17/2018
CNVC Certified Trainer Lore Baur asks: "Have you ever seen something happen that made you feel uncomfortable and you didn't know what to do?" That's the "bystander effect:" a well-researched and commonly experienced phenomenon. Training can help you overcome it, enabling you to discern what to do and how to support others in ways that reduce trauma and increase safety.

What Could I Say or Do When Someone Does Not Talk?

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 05/20/2005
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
05/20/2005
Can you give me advice on what to do when people won't talk to me? I find it very difficult to discover what their needs are that aren't being met! Also, how can I be effective with people who don't actually want to think about why they're being the way they are?

How To Deal With Ourselves When We Are Less Than Perfect

Practice Exercise • 30 minutes • 10/7/2021
Practice Exercise
30 minutes
10/7/2021
How we treat ourselves when we fall short of our own ideals, desires and hopes can profoundly affect the quality of our lives. Learn how to identify your triggers and reactions, to mourn falling short, and to practice self-connection and self-empathy.

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication - Part 1 of 2

Article • 15 - 23 minutes • 09/2019
Article
15 - 23 minutes
09/2019
By focusing on NVC process and practice without factoring in the interdependent, systemic dimension we unwittingly diminish the power of NVC. We reinforce the dominant paradigm, rather than challenging it -- making NVC one more tool for compliance. NVC principles can turn against its own purpose in cruel ways. NVC could also empower social change. We'll need our attention on this matter if we...