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How to Meet Hurt and Pain From the Past

Article • 2 - 4 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
2 - 4 minutes

Past hurt and pain can get triggered even when it doesn't have much to do with the present. When that happens we can gain perspective by self reflecting, engaging self empathy, grounding an "anchor", noticing the present-moment safety, naming needs and making requests.


The Neuroscience of Privilege, Power and Status

Article • 15 - 22 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
Article
15 - 22 minutes
Our brains tend to see those outside our circle of belonging as non-human. This occurs reflexively when we have more advantages than others. When we notice people that look like us, we'll think about them, wonder about them, and imagine their lives, and empathize more -- but not so for those of other affiliations, classes, "races", etc. Working with this is crucial if we want to live nonviolently. Read on for 7 related practices.

What am I Willing to Pay for My Freedom?

Audio • 00:13 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:13 hours:minutes

Arnina Kashtan works with a course participant to explore the question, "What am I Willing to Pay for My Freedom?" Arnina leads her in a process of self-inquiry to identify some the factors that leave her bound to conditioned behaviors, offering a path to freedom.

This recording is available for all to listen to and enjoy.


Acknowledging Other People’s Reality

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Even if we don't agree, acknowledging others' realities can help demonstrate that we're including their feelings and needs in the conversation. Creating space for your reality and theirs can also bring a sense of connection, understanding, inclusion, abundance and fullness in life. Try it today. Read on for an example.


How to Respect Boundaries When Offering Empathy

Article • 6 - 9 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes

Sometimes the empathy you offer may stimulate disconnect or a sense of boundary crossing for the other person. To identify what might have contributed to the disconnect you can look for the signs, the level of attunement and the context, and examine what's happening in you. Read on for more.


How to Create Your Own Teaching Activities

Video • 49 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
49 minutes

Listen as Mary Mackenzie shares an eight step path to create your own NVC learning activities, based on your own NVC learning experience. In this session, Mary uses the value of requests and observations as teaching examples.


Making Requests and Avoiding Demands

Practice Exercise • 5 - 10 minutes
All Skill Levels
Practice Exercise
5 - 10 minutes

Sylvia Haskvitz offers a practical and effective approach to making requests. Learn the two questions that can clarify your motivation for making a request, three ways to discern a request from a demand, and five possible reasons for meeting requests.


Don't Call Me White!

Article • 12-18 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
Article
12-18 minutes

The notion of "micro-aggressions" may be levied by those in the dominant class - for example white folks may talk about receiving micro-aggressions when a (legitimately) angry BIPOC references them as "white". This shuts down the conversation and feeds a myth that everyone's pain about race is equal. It doesn't foster dialogue that moves us towards a more equitable, compassionate world. Read on for more about the complexity.


Timing of a request

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Stating our observations, feelings and needs can still be heard as criticism if we don't follow it up right away with a specific, doable request. Ending your statement with a request for what you want can clarify the situation and reduce the chances that you'll be met with defensiveness. Read on for an example.


Understanding Earned Authority and Dissolving Projections Through Boundaries and Shared Humanity

Article • 6 - 9 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes

Someone may give more weight to your ideas, decisions, and directives based on your experience and what you've learned. This could influence them to project their ideals, fears, hopes, and more onto you. In this case, you can help transform this and contribute to their connection to their own agency, authenticity, and self-trust -- while supporting their ability to learn from what you have to offer.


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