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NVC Resources on Connection

Connection, Connection, Connection

Connection, Connection, Connection

Connection, Connection, Connection

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes •

Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes

Trainer tip: Do you get into “right fights”? You know you’re in one when you’re arguing with somebody in order to be right or because you want to win. What needs do I hope to meet from winning or being right? Notice if you enter into a right fight today and shift your focus to your needs and connecting with the other person's needs.

Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Article • 6 - 9 minutes •

Article
6 - 9 minutes

Connection requests focus on the quality of connection between people instead of on any particular strategy or solution. While the core motivation for a connection request may be connection with the other person, varied internal states and needs may help guide us toward different types of connection requests. Self-connection and understanding of our motivation in making a connection request can...

Workplace Series: When Purpose Trumps Connection

Workplace Series: When Purpose Trumps Connection

Workplace Series: When Purpose Trumps Connection

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 6 minutes •

Audio
6 minutes

In most business environments, purpose holds a higher priority than connection. Listen to Miki discuss the strategy of using minimum connection to remain true to the purpose at hand, and how the purpose of empathy may differ in the workplace.

Facilitating Connection

Facilitating Connection

Facilitating Connection

with Jim & Jori Manske

Audio • 59 minutes •

Audio
59 minutes

Expressing ourselves honestly is sometimes scary because we can't predict where the conversation will go after we've made ourselves vulnerable. This recording will demonstrate how the power of our honesty is enhanced by ending on a clear and present request.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 2. Cultivate Connection before Asking for Action

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 2. Cultivate Connection before Asking for Action

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 2. Cultivate Connection before Asking for Action

with Eric Bowers

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Learn when to use the two types of requests in the practice of Nonviolent Communication: Action Requests and Connection Requests. Both are important when working through conflict or difficult situations and for building connection.

Crafting Connection Requests

Crafting Connection Requests

Crafting Connection Requests

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Practice Exercise • 2 - 3 minutes •

Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes

Try this four step exercise for making connection requests to support understanding, and to learn what effect your words had on the listener. In this exercise you'll choose a situation where you have clarity about what outcome will really work for you (your solution request), but where you imagine your desired outcome may not work for the other person, and/or are not sure there is sufficient...

Written Check-in and Self Connection Exercise

Written Check-in and Self Connection Exercise

Written Check-in and Self Connection Exercise

with Jim & Jori Manske

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Tap into feelings, needs and requests for greater self connection with the six steps in this worksheet.

Create The Level Of Connection You Want: 3 Types Of Boundaries

Create The Level Of Connection You Want: 3 Types Of Boundaries

Create The Level Of Connection You Want: 3 Types Of Boundaries

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes •

Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes

One way of simplifying decision-making in relationships is clarity about the level of contact and connection you want with the people you interact with. This means knowing what you want and don’t want to share, the kinds of activities you do and don’t do together, how often, etc. This can help you chose how to best support your needs in that context, and help you to remember to set life-serving...

Connection Time

Connection Time

Connection Time

with Rodger Sorrow

Audio • 22 minutes •

Audio
22 minutes

Rodger Sorrow introduces us to "Connection Time," a practice for you and a significant other to deepen, broaden and mend your relationship with each other.

Sowing the Quilt of Connection

Sowing the Quilt of Connection

Sowing the Quilt of Connection

with Jim & Jori Manske

Audio • 1 hour, 3 minutes •

Audio
1 hour, 3 minutes

Jim Manske offers practices to stay in dialogue without defensiveness, especially when it's difficult. Listen to Jim discuss the refining of our commitment to connection and how to respond to others' defensiveness too.

Observation: The Awareness of the Thoughts, Stories and Core Beliefs to Enhance Connection

Observation: The Awareness of the Thoughts, Stories and Core Beliefs to Enhance Connection

Observation: The Awareness of the Thoughts, Stories and Core Beliefs to Enhance Connection

with John Kinyon

Audio • 2 hours, 10 minutes •

Audio
2 hours, 10 minutes

In this recorded telecourse, John Kinyon, world renowned CNVC Certified Trainer, guides you through processes to strengthen your capacity for mindful presence and awareness of your thinking, and to develop the skills to translate thoughts into observations.

Attachment and Connection as a Foundation for Parenting--and Life!

Attachment and Connection as a Foundation for Parenting--and Life!

Attachment and Connection as a Foundation for Parenting--and Life!

with Ingrid Bauer

Audio • 40 minutes •

Audio
40 minutes

Ingrid shares about the three primary keys of parenting & NVC, two child rearing models, developmental needs for children and how to foster secure attachment.

Power Relations and Connection Across Differences in US Society: An NVC Perspective (4 Session Course)

Power Relations and Connection Across Differences in US Society: An NVC Perspective (4 Session Course)

Power Relations and Connection Across Differences in US Society: An NVC Perspective (4 Session Course)

with Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning

Audio • 3 hours, 17 minutes •

Audio
3 hours, 17 minutes

Join CNVC Certified Trainers Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning, for a passionate and intimate exploration of how NVC can support personal and social transformation in the area of power relations and social divisions.

The Tao of Empathy: Breath, Body, Needs, Self Connection Exercise

The Tao of Empathy: Breath, Body, Needs, Self Connection Exercise

The Tao of Empathy: Breath, Body, Needs, Self Connection Exercise

with John Kinyon

Video • 9 minutes •

Video
9 minutes

John introduces his Self-Connection Exercise as a mindful way of coming to awareness via OFNR. Breath: immediately observable, a reminder to observe. Body: feeling the body, awareness of sensations. Needs: an experience of wholeness that expands awareness of the totality of experience. Listen.

Awareness of Marginalization Can Support Connection

Awareness of Marginalization Can Support Connection

Awareness of Marginalization Can Support Connection

with Bob Wentworth

Article • 7 - 11 minutes •

Article
7 - 11 minutes

With abundant evidence that most people have unconscious biases against people --even when that bias runs counter to their own values-- there's a strong chance you recreate this disconnect with people far more often than you recognize. So even with a high degree of NVC skills you may behave in a way that seems "NVC" but also reproduces the painful patterns that marginalized people all-too-often...

Cradle of Compassion (Connecting with Request Energy)

Cradle of Compassion (Connecting with Request Energy)

Cradle of Compassion (Connecting with Request Energy)

with Jim & Jori Manske

Trainer Tip • 3 - 5 minutes •

Trainer Tip
3 - 5 minutes

Here are two practices for connecting with "request energy". One of them helps us practice in the moment (7 steps). The other one helps us connect to ourselves (11 steps).

Connecting Across the COVID-19 Pandemic Vaccination Divide

Connecting Across the COVID-19 Pandemic Vaccination Divide

Connecting Across the COVID-19 Pandemic Vaccination Divide

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 1 hour, 25 minutes •

Audio
1 hour, 25 minutes

Miki leads course participants in an exploration of connecting and understanding those with seemingly polar opposite beliefs and perspectives about COVID-19 pandemic vaccination. Miki demonstrates that to live nonviolently, we must include those whom we so strongly disagree with.

Exploring Your Connection To Life And To Your Life Purpose

Exploring Your Connection To Life And To Your Life Purpose

Exploring Your Connection To Life And To Your Life Purpose

with Robert Gonzales

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes •

Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes

Here are some questions to support you in exploring your connection to life, your life purpose. Here we briefly touch upon what blocks you, your gratitude, strengths, passions, and what you’re committed to.

Functional Empathy that Supports Connection and Efficiency

Functional Empathy that Supports Connection and Efficiency

Functional Empathy that Supports Connection and Efficiency

with Roxy Manning

Video • 1 min •

Video
1 min

Have you ever been in a meeting where the agenda is full and someone gets triggered? Did you get stuck in an empathy spiral and a never ending meeting? Roxy Manning shares the difference between healing empathy functional empathy.

Connecting When Worldviews Conflict (4 Session Course)

Connecting When Worldviews Conflict (4 Session Course)

Connecting When Worldviews Conflict (4 Session Course)

with John Kinyon and Matthew Rich

Audio • 6 hours •

Audio
6 hours

John Kinyon and Matthew Rich examine the ways in which people’s worldviews can be different and why this often creates conflict.

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