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NVC Resources on Self-Connection


Working With “No” To Deepen Self-Connection

Working With “No” To Deepen Self-Connection

Working With “No” To Deepen Self-Connection

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan
Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes
Use this exercise to stay in dialogue and connect to needs while facing a “no”. Identify a situation where you have low confidence that you'll get your needs met, and it'll be hard hearing a “no” to your request. Explore your response to the “no” by working with feelings, needs, request and alternate strategies. Thus you can work towards meeting your needs while also releasing the idea that...
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Staying Self-Connected in a Challenging Dialogue

Staying Self-Connected in a Challenging Dialogue

Staying Self-Connected in a Challenging Dialogue

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 6-9 minutes • 
Article
6-9 minutes
When we're judging we're less able to access both what we care about and constructive next actions. Instead, create more internal space and agency starting with connecting to your feelings and needs; then feel your grief or disappointment; followed by getting curious about the other party's needs and context -- and then based on collective needs and the long term effects make requests or take...
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Connecting with Ourselves: An NVC Foundation for Inner Trust and Freedom

Connecting with Ourselves: An NVC Foundation for Inner Trust and Freedom

Connecting with Ourselves: An NVC Foundation for Inner Trust and Freedom

with Inbal Kashtan
Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 
Article
4 - 6 minutes
True inner freedom arises from self-connection. Without self-connection, we're mostly acting from habits, and those habits do not necessarily attend to our own needs. Here's a practice you can explore in your daily life to deepen your relationship with yourself, and experience true choice and inner freedom.
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Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan
Learning Tool • 3 pages • 
Learning Tool
3 pages
NVC practice is based on several key assumptions and intentions. When we live based on these assumptions and intentions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy, helping us contribute to a world where everyone’s needs are attended to peacefully.
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Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan
Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 
Article
6 - 9 minutes
Connection requests focus on the quality of connection between people instead of on any particular strategy or solution. While the core motivation for a connection request may be connection with the other person, varied internal states and needs may help guide us toward different types of connection requests. Self-connection and understanding of our motivation in making a connection request can...
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W.A.I.T: Practices For Presence And Patience

W.A.I.T: Practices For Presence And Patience

W.A.I.T: Practices For Presence And Patience

with Jim & Jori Manske
Practice Exercise • 2 - 3 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes
With these practices make space before reacting to emotion or external stimulus. This can enable your capacity to respond from your self-connection to universally shared values. With practice you can create the capacity to temporarily put impulsiveness aside, in the service of connection with yourself and others, and in service of more informed and effective strategies.
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Healthy Differentiation: Learning To Be Your Authentic Self

Healthy Differentiation: Learning To Be Your Authentic Self

Healthy Differentiation: Learning To Be Your Authentic Self

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Practice Exercise • 6 - 9 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
6 - 9 minutes
Healthy differentiation is key to personal growth, learning and thriving relationships. When healthy differentiation is present, you can discern what's true for you and what you are and aren't responsible for in an interaction, and can be fully who you are in the presence of others. There are a number of ways you can become aware of and cultivate healthy differentiation. Let’s look at two here:...
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The Tao of Empathy: Breath, Body, Needs, Self Connection Exercise

The Tao of Empathy: Breath, Body, Needs, Self Connection Exercise

The Tao of Empathy: Breath, Body, Needs, Self Connection Exercise

with John Kinyon
Video • 9 minutes • 
Video
9 minutes
John introduces his Self-Connection Exercise as a mindful way of coming to awareness via OFNR. Breath: immediately observable, a reminder to observe. Body: feeling the body, awareness of sensations. Needs: an experience of wholeness that expands awareness of the totality of experience. Listen.
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The Basics of Partnership Parenting Using NVC (6 Session Course)

The Basics of Partnership Parenting Using NVC (6 Session Course)

The Basics of Partnership Parenting Using NVC (6 Session Course)

with Ingrid Bauer
Audio • 7 hours, 29 minutes • 
Audio
7 hours, 29 minutes
As parents, we often face challenging situations on a daily basis and struggle to create what we most long for. In this 6 session telecourse recording, you will learn how Nonviolent Communication can support a family culture where cooperation, trust, and peace are nurtured, and children and parents can flourish together.
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What Could I Say or Do When Someone Does Not Talk?

What Could I Say or Do When Someone Does Not Talk?

What Could I Say or Do When Someone Does Not Talk?

with Jim & Jori Manske
Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
Can you give me advice on what to do when people won't talk to me? I find it very difficult to discover what their needs are that aren't being met! Also, how can I be effective with people who don't actually want to think about why they're being the way they are?
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How to Interrupt

How to Interrupt

How to Interrupt

with Jeff Brown
Trainer Tip • 3 - 5 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
3 - 5 minutes
Ask the Trainer: "I feel a lot of fear or nervousness about approaching a neighbor who uses 'wastebasket talk.' Once she's engaged, there are only two techniques that interrupt the flow: leaving or interrupting."
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