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NVC Resources on Self-Connection

Connecting with Ourselves: An NVC Foundation for Inner Trust and Freedom

Connecting with Ourselves: An NVC Foundation for Inner Trust and Freedom

Connecting with Ourselves: An NVC Foundation for Inner Trust and Freedom

with Inbal Kashtan

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 01/2009

Article
4 - 6 minutes
01/2009

True inner freedom arises from self-connection. Without self-connection, we're mostly acting from habits, and those habits do not necessarily attend to our own needs. Here's a practice you can explore in your daily life to deepen your relationship with yourself, and experience true choice and inner freedom.

Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • Circa 2005

Article
6 - 9 minutes
Circa 2005

Connection requests focus on the quality of connection between people instead of on any particular strategy or solution. While the core motivation for a connection request may be connection with the other person, varied internal states and needs may help guide us toward different types of connection requests. Self-connection and understanding of our motivation in making a connection request can...

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Learning Tool • 3 pages • 2008

Learning Tool
3 pages
2008

NVC practice is based on several key assumptions and intentions. When we live based on these assumptions and intentions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy, helping us contribute to a world where everyone’s needs are attended to peacefully.

The Unconscious Mind Compared to the Conscious Mind

The Unconscious Mind Compared to the Conscious Mind

The Unconscious Mind Compared to the Conscious Mind

with Miki Kashtan

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • Circa 2007

Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: "I have the understanding that the unconscious is vast compared to conscious mind. When I state 'needs' how well can I depend on there being something beneath my awareness that is actually the motivation?"

What Could I Say or Do When Someone Does Not Talk?

What Could I Say or Do When Someone Does Not Talk?

What Could I Say or Do When Someone Does Not Talk?

with Jim & Jori Manske

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 05/20/2005

Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
05/20/2005

Can you give me advice on what to do when people won't talk to me? I find it very difficult to discover what their needs are that aren't being met! Also, how can I be effective with people who don't actually want to think about why they're being the way they are?

The Basics of Partnership Parenting Using NVC (6 Session Course)

The Basics of Partnership Parenting Using NVC (6 Session Course)

The Basics of Partnership Parenting Using NVC (6 Session Course)

with Ingrid Bauer

Audio • 7 hours, 29 minutes • 03/2010

Audio
7 hours, 29 minutes
03/2010

As parents, we often face challenging situations on a daily basis and struggle to create what we most long for. In this 6 session telecourse recording, you will learn how Nonviolent Communication can support a family culture where cooperation, trust, and peace are nurtured, and children and parents can flourish together.

Rooms in the Same House – Interweaving NVC and Buddhism (6 Session Course)

Rooms in the Same House – Interweaving NVC and Buddhism (6 Session Course)

Rooms in the Same House – Interweaving NVC and Buddhism (6 Session Course)

with Roberta Wall with Barbara Bash

Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 4/5/2017

Audio
6 - 8 hours
4/5/2017

Find renewed aliveness and connection in your daily life through NVC and Buddhist Mindfulness practices. NVC can be lived as a Mindfulness Practice and consciousness that helps us be more present, open and loving to the flow of life within ourselves and in relation to others. Buddhist principles and practices can add depth and insight to NVC practice and consciousness. The first session is...

Hidden Needs

Hidden Needs

Hidden Needs

with Miki Kashtan

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • Circa 2007

Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: "I've been feeling frustrated and angry quite a bit lately over very simple things. Can you help me get to the root of my hidden needs?"

Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out (6 Session Course)

Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out (6 Session Course)

Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out (6 Session Course)

with Mary Mackenzie

Audio • 5 - 7 hours • 10/17/2018

Audio
5 - 7 hours
10/17/2018

Ever wish you knew how you might experience more choice when you've been triggered, instead of being trapped in old habits and unmet needs? Wish you could REALLY heal old internal messages that tell you you're not good enough… not loveable… or not deserving? Join veteran CNVC Certified Trainer, Mary Mackenzie, for this 6-session course designed to deepen your ability to connect with self and...

Parenting and Anger: Walking the Ultimate Path to Peace (5 Session Course)

Parenting and Anger: Walking the Ultimate Path to Peace (5 Session Course)

Parenting and Anger: Walking the Ultimate Path to Peace (5 Session Course)

with John Kinyon and Stephanie Bachmann Mattei

Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 11/10/2011

Audio
6 - 8 hours
11/10/2011

John and Stephanie combine mediating conflict, parenting and study of brain science to this ground-breaking course recording on how to funnel your anger and your child’s anger toward mutual caring and peace. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy. nvctraining.com

Valuing My Needs When I Habitually Don't

Valuing My Needs When I Habitually Don't

Valuing My Needs When I Habitually Don't

with John Kinyon

Audio • 9 minutes • 11/15/2011

Audio
9 minutes
11/15/2011

Listen to John answer an NVC Library member's question about what we can do when we habitually place other's needs ahead our own. Healing and change can be reached through compassionate self-connection, needs awareness, mourning and mindfulness.

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

with Jim Manske

Article • 5-8 minutes • 12/2017

Article
5-8 minutes
12/2017

As a beginner in NVC, you might find your attempts to practice your NVC only increases conflict, disconnection and upset in your interactions with people. Or perhaps people start seeing you as inauthentic. From there, you may find yourself sinking deeper into self-judgement. In this article, Jim Manske shows us how to shift these potential unintended outcomes, into deeper NVC consciousness that...

Apologizing in NVC Language

Apologizing in NVC Language

Apologizing in NVC Language

with Jim & Jori Manske

Audio • 8 minutes • Circa 2007

Audio
8 minutes
Circa 2007

In this brief audio, Jim Manske uses a live situation to demonstrate how to use the NVC process in an apology. Jim starts by identifying the four steps to self-connection before expressing your apology.

Facilitating Connection

Facilitating Connection

Facilitating Connection

with Jim & Jori Manske

Audio • 59 minutes • 04/28/2010

Audio
59 minutes
04/28/2010

Expressing ourselves honestly is sometimes scary because we can't predict where the conversation will go after we've made ourselves vulnerable. This recording will demonstrate how the power of our honesty is enhanced by ending on a clear and present request.

Owning Your Own Experience

Owning Your Own Experience

Owning Your Own Experience

with Jim & Jori Manske

Audio • 25 minutes • 07/2011

Audio
25 minutes
07/2011

Listen to Jim and Jori Manske share how we are conditioned to disconnect from our own feelings and how we can unlearn this habit to experience more full and rich inner lives.

Developing Discernment

Developing Discernment

Developing Discernment

with Jim & Jori Manske

Audio • 43 minutes • 07/2011

Audio
43 minutes
07/2011

Listen to Jim and Jori Manske share their understanding of discernment to gain clarity, insight, and wisdom for making life-serving distinctions and choices.

Self-Connection Exercise for Well Being and Interconnectedness

Self-Connection Exercise for Well Being and Interconnectedness

Self-Connection Exercise for Well Being and Interconnectedness

with Jim & Jori Manske

Audio • 6 minutes • 11/03/2010

Audio
6 minutes
11/03/2010

Jim leads a self-connection exercise focused on how our lives are interwoven with people we love, acquaintances, people unknown to us, and even those who have come before us or will come after us.

The Heart of Conflict (6 Session Course)

The Heart of Conflict (6 Session Course)

The Heart of Conflict (6 Session Course)

with Jim & Jori Manske

Audio • 8 hour, 50 minutes • 03/25/2009

Audio
8 hour, 50 minutes
03/25/2009

Join CNVC Certified Trainers and Mediators Jori and Jim Manske in an exploration of using Nonviolent Communication in the context of Mediation and Conflict Resolution. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy. nvctraining.com

Self-Connection Exercise: Awareness

Self-Connection Exercise: Awareness

Self-Connection Exercise: Awareness

with Jim & Jori Manske

Audio • 9 minutes • 09/17/2013

Audio
9 minutes
09/17/2013

Join Jim Manske as he leads you through a self-connection exercise to guide you toward welcoming whatever enters into your awareness.

How to Interrupt

How to Interrupt

How to Interrupt

with Jeff Brown

Trainer Tip • 3 - 5 minutes • Circa 2007

Trainer Tip
3 - 5 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: "I feel a lot of fear or nervousness about approaching a neighbor who uses 'wastebasket talk.' Once she's engaged, there are only two techniques that interrupt the flow: leaving or interrupting."

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