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NVC Resources on Listening

Listening as an Essential Leadership Skill

Listening as an Essential Leadership Skill

Listening as an Essential Leadership Skill

with Lorraine Aguilar

Audio • 8 minutes •

Audio
8 minutes

Lorraine Aguilar perceives NVC-based listening to be an essential skill to cultivate for success in the business world. A key exercise for building your listening muscle is to work with your judgments of others by translating those judgments from “What’s wrong with them?” to “What's important to me?”

The Art of Listening: Kathleen Macferran at TEDx Ranier

The Art of Listening: Kathleen Macferran at TEDx Ranier

The Art of Listening: Kathleen Macferran at TEDx Ranier

with Kathleen Macferran

Video • 15 minutes •

Video
15 minutes

In this thought provoking talk, Kathleen Macferran explores the power of listening to open doors and potentially to transform people. This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences.

Parenting Series: Listening for the Needs

Parenting Series: Listening for the Needs

Parenting Series: Listening for the Needs

with Inbal Kashtan

Video • 15 minutes •

Video
15 minutes

Using her own and participants' examples, Inbal illuminates parents on where they might be struggling with connecting to their children's needs, especially in situations where the children are responding to the parent's request.

Create Choiceful Listening

Create Choiceful Listening

Create Choiceful Listening

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Practice Exercise • 2-3 minutes •

Practice Exercise
2-3 minutes

Often, honoring someone’s choice supports more connection. Thus, checking in with someone’s choice to listen or not (offering autonomy) sets the stage for being heard more fully. On the other hand, when someone has the perception that you are talking to them without considering their choice, resentful listening might result. Here are ways to mindfully check in about choiceful listening before...

Street NVC: "Street Ease" Empathy Exercise

Street NVC: "Street Ease" Empathy Exercise

Street NVC: "Street Ease" Empathy Exercise

with Dian Killian

Practice Exercise • 5 minutes •

Practice Exercise
5 minutes

Listen to CNVC Certified Trainer Dian Killian guide and ease you into a more natural expression of empathy. This is a three person exercise. Listen in and then give it a try!

Learning How to Listen

Learning How to Listen

Learning How to Listen

with Oren Jay Sofer

Article • 3 - 5 minutes •

Article
3 - 5 minutes

Listening is a cornerstone of dialogue and a powerful metaphor for spiritual practice. When we’re willing and able to listen, we open a conduit that allows connection and understanding to happen.

Connecting with Someone Who Has Cancer

Connecting with Someone Who Has Cancer

Connecting with Someone Who Has Cancer

with Godfrey Spencer

Trainer Tip • 6 minutes •

Trainer Tip
6 minutes

Ask the Trainer: I feel overwhelmed thinking of writing to someone with cancer. What can I do?

Witnessing Humanity

Witnessing Humanity

Witnessing Humanity

with Arnina Kashtan

Audio • 40 minutes •

Audio
40 minutes

CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan talks about what she calls "witnessing humanity," touching on the gift of presence, empathy vs. identification and staying present in the face of intensity.

Listen to the Universe

Listen to the Universe

Listen to the Universe

with Christine King and Jean Morrison

Practice Exercise • N/A •

Practice Exercise
N/A

Listen to the Universe is a fun group exercise to explore how we focus our attention and interpret what we experience.

NVC Life Hacks 2: How Not to Listen

NVC Life Hacks 2: How Not to Listen

NVC Life Hacks 2: How Not to Listen

with Shantigarbha Warren

Video • 4 minutes •

Video
4 minutes

In this, the second in a series on applying NVC to daily life, Shantigarbha offers five tips for recognizing where communication is likely to go awry.

How To Listen and Find Aliveness in Containment

How To Listen and Find Aliveness in Containment

How To Listen and Find Aliveness in Containment

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 5-9 minutes •

Article
5-9 minutes

Physical distancing is opportunity to creatively to meet your needs in new ways. In this containment, with very few cues from others and the environment you now have a rare opportunity with less external distraction to rethink what's truly supportive -- and make significant changes to the less noticable habits of mind, standards and "should's". Applying questions and noticing certain symptoms...

NVC Life Hacks 3: How to Listen

NVC Life Hacks 3: How to Listen

NVC Life Hacks 3: How to Listen

with Shantigarbha Warren

Video • 4 minutes •

Video
4 minutes

In the third in a series on applying NVC to daily life, Shantigarbha follows directly on from Episode 2, showing us that listening isn't a passive activity, and offers five tips for how to improve our listening skills.

VIVENCIA: The Art of Empathic Intelligence (8 Session Course)

VIVENCIA: The Art of Empathic Intelligence (8 Session Course)

VIVENCIA: The Art of Empathic Intelligence (8 Session Course)

with Jorge Rubio

Audio • 9 hours, 54 minutes •

Audio
9 hours, 54 minutes

In this telecourse recording, you'll learn to differentiate between cerebral empathy and intuitive empathic listening. Awaken your sensitivity towards body sensations and inner feelings to recognize the clear inner clues to your empathic connection.

How to Invite Shared Vulnerability

How to Invite Shared Vulnerability

How to Invite Shared Vulnerability

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 3-4 minutes •

Article
3-4 minutes

Shared vulnerability can build more intimacy, mutuality, being seen and heard, empathy, or community. Inviting shared vulnerability means earning another’s trust that you can consistently offer attentive, curious, and compassionate listening. Here are four strategies to invite shared vulnerability.

Responding to Anger

Responding to Anger

Responding to Anger

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 5-8 minutes •

Article
5-8 minutes

When someone wants to speak angrily about another, do you want to move away, try to calm them, argue, set a boundary, or offer empathy? What supports you to stay self connected? You can set boundaries regarding listening so that you're less likely to defend the other party, or attempt to talk your friend down from their judgments, thereby escalating the situation. Disagreements can also ignite...

Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

with Oren Jay Sofer

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

If you’re interested in improving your relationships, advancing in your career, or enhancing your capacity for change in life in general, communication is a powerful lever. Presence, listening, bringing curiosity and care, focusing on what matters, and pausing with silence, are all key. Read on for five foundational and advanced core practices you can start using today to improve your...

From Awareness to Action: Creating Bridges Across Differences (6 Session Course)

From Awareness to Action: Creating Bridges Across Differences (6 Session Course)

From Awareness to Action: Creating Bridges Across Differences (6 Session Course)

with Roxy Manning

Audio • 10 -12 hours •

Audio
10 -12 hours

For many people, attempting to connect with others across differences can feel akin to walking through a minefield. With humility, tenderness, and courage, Roxy challenges your perspectives and encourages you to open your heart and mind. Roxy uses concrete examples and visual tools to illustrate complex concepts.

The Building Blocks of Interpersonal Collaboration (4 Session Course)

The Building Blocks of Interpersonal Collaboration (4 Session Course)

The Building Blocks of Interpersonal Collaboration (4 Session Course)

with System Administrator

Audio • 5 -7 hours •

Audio
5 -7 hours

Don’t know how to effectively work through differences with others in your organization? You are not alone… Like most of us, you simply lack the training and skills – and that’s what you’ll acquire listening to this course recording. Join Miki and learn specific tools and tips that work – for everyone!

Don’t Assume You Know What Other People Need

Don’t Assume You Know What Other People Need

Don’t Assume You Know What Other People Need

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Sometimes when we look to fix someone's problems we think we're doing it to make them feel better, but in reality we are uncomfortable and we want to feel better. Instead of assuming you know what their problem is or what they need, listen deeply. Your listening presence can bring relief to the both of you and provide additional opportunities for healing. And along the way they may...

How To Handle “Predatory Listening”

How To Handle “Predatory Listening”

How To Handle “Predatory Listening”

with Oren Jay Sofer

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

While someone is upset or hurt they may "listen" to us to gather evidence for a rebuttal, to assert or validate a preconceived idea, and so on. When in this "predatory listening" mode, the "listener's" needs overshadow relational values like understanding, connection, or mutuality. In response to this we can consider our purpose, affirm any positive intent or need in what they say, and ask...

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