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NVC Resources on Listening



Listening as an Essential Leadership Skill

Audio • 8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
8 minutes
Lorraine perceives NVC-based listening to be an essential skill to cultivate for success in the business world. A key exercise for building your listening muscle is to work with your judgments of others by translating those judgments from “What’s wrong with them?” to “What's important to me?”

Honor Your Need to be Heard

Article • Read time: 2-3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 2-3 minutes
When you want to be heard, first check if your listener is available. This honors yourself, and the other person’s choice about listening. You need to be clear about wanting a particular quality of listening, and that you are willing to wait if that isn’t available in the moment. Read on for how to ask for listening in a way that can build trust that your request isn't a demand.

How To Listen and Find Aliveness in Containment

Article • Read time: 5-9 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5-9 minutes
Physical distancing is opportunity to creatively to meet your needs in new ways. In this containment, with very few cues from others and the environment you now have a rare opportunity with less external distraction to rethink what's truly supportive -- and make significant changes to the less noticable habits of mind, standards and "should's". Applying questions and noticing certain symptoms...

The Value of Taking a Step Back

Article • 4 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 pages
Have you ever gotten a fishing line all tangled up? You got so frustrated you just started yanking on the different loops of line, which of course made the knots and tangles even tighter and more difficult to untangle. Wouldn’t it be great if you could notice the minute you were starting to tangle things up in a discussion with your loved one?

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements (Part 2 of 2)

with Mary Mackenzie and Roxy Manning
Article • Read time: 22-35 mins
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 22-35 mins
In part two, of this two-part transcript, clinical psychologist and organizational consultant, Roxy Manning, Ph.D., offers a way we can help people from marginalized groups free more of their energy for greater joy, meaning and contribution to our groups, social change movements, and organizations. Roxy and Mary Mackenzie also show that while there's often that risk of inadvertently creating...

Opening Hearts in Israel, Palestine, India and Sri Lanka

Article • 11 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Article
11 pages
CNVC Certified Trainer Shantigarbha Warren offers a report of his recent NVC training trip to Israel/Palestine, India and Sri Lanka and clarifies how NVC can support social change in three very different contexts. Included is an exercise, based on Gandhi’s teaching.

How to Invite Shared Vulnerability

Article • Read time: 3-4 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 3-4 minutes
Shared vulnerability can build more intimacy, mutuality, being seen and heard, empathy, or community. Inviting shared vulnerability means earning another’s trust that you can consistently offer attentive, curious, and compassionate listening. Here are four strategies to invite shared vulnerability.

Responding to Anger

Article • Read time: 5-8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5-8 minutes
When someone wants to speak angrily about another, do you want to move away, try to calm them, argue, set a boundary, or offer empathy? What supports you to stay self connected? You can set boundaries regarding listening so that you're less likely to defend the other party, or attempt to talk your friend down from their judgments, thereby escalating the situation. Disagreements can also ignite...

Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

Article • Read Time: 4 - 6 minutes
Applied NVC
Article
Read Time: 4 - 6 minutes
If you’re interested in improving your relationships, advancing in your career, or enhancing your capacity for change in life in general, communication is a powerful lever. Presence, listening, bringing curiosity and care, focusing on what matters, and pausing with silence, are all key. Read on for five foundational and advanced core practices you can start using today to improve your...

VIVENCIA: The Art of Empathic Intelligence (complete course)

Audio • 9 hours, 54 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
9 hours, 54 minutes
In this telecourse recording, you'll learn to differentiate between cerebral empathy and intuitive empathic listening. Awaken your sensitivity towards body sensations and inner feelings to recognize the clear inner clues to your empathic connection.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 16. Help Others Build Their Own Truth-Finding Neural Pathways

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Along with it’s potential for helping others calm their emotions and feel deeply understood, the Nonviolent Communication process of empathetic listening can help someone increase their capacity for finding their own truth.

 
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