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Workplace Series: Two Strategies for Adapting NVC into the Workplace

Workplace Series: Two Strategies for Adapting NVC into the Workplace

Workplace Series: Two Strategies for Adapting NVC into the Workplace

with Miki Kashtan
Audio • 6 minutes • 
Audio
6 minutes
Listen to Miki discuss two strategies for bringing NVC into the workplace in ways most likely to be well received. First Miki explains why it's best to focus more on needs than feelings in business environments. Second, she talks about unpacking needs into phrases as a way of enhancing workplace connection.
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Differentiating Needs from Strategies

Differentiating Needs from Strategies

Differentiating Needs from Strategies

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Trainer tip: When we focus on needs further possibilities are more likely to open up. When we focus on a particular strategy, our world can feel scarce and conflicts can arise. Resolution comes when we value everyone’s needs and seek mutually satisfying solutions. We can ask for support towards this outcome.
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Aligning Our Strategies with Our Values

Aligning Our Strategies with Our Values

Aligning Our Strategies with Our Values

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: What do you value the most? Take a look at your actions and notice the values that your actions demonstrate (not what you want them to show, but what they do show), and see if they are in alignment. Where there is a gap take steps to create actions that are in alignment with your values.
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Find Space Between Needs And Strategies

Find Space Between Needs And Strategies

Find Space Between Needs And Strategies

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Practice Exercise • 4-6 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
4-6 minutes
Confidence, flexibility, creativity and equanimity may become more possible when you would like someone to meet a particular need, can trust that you can meet that need with someone else, and can accept a “no” to your requests. You can allow grief or disappointment to arise, and naturally turn towards a relationship in which those needs can be met. In some cases this may lead to the dissolution...
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Empathy And Strategies For Overwhelm

Empathy And Strategies For Overwhelm

Empathy And Strategies For Overwhelm

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Practice Exercise • 4-6 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
4-6 minutes
Making decisions from overwhelm can be costly for you and others. Instead, to get distance name overwhelm as it comes. Apply self-compassion. Be suspicious of your impulse to withdraw. Find ways to meet your needs. Tell others about your overwhelm. This may allow more support, connection and trust-building. Plan what to do to meet your needs next time you're overwhelmed. Tweak your plan.
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3 Strategies for Working With Worry

3 Strategies for Working With Worry

3 Strategies for Working With Worry

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 4-6 minutes • 
Article
4-6 minutes
Follow worry to the underlying universal need and discern wise action. To get there, we can try out prayer, wishes, savoring the need, or compassionate witnessing. If you notice and name the aspects of worry continuously, the compassionate witnessing practice will interrupt the habitual spinning of worry-filled stories. There are at least six things you can witness with curiosity. Read on for...
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Prevent Misunderstanding--One Simple Strategy

Prevent Misunderstanding--One Simple Strategy

Prevent Misunderstanding--One Simple Strategy

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 2-3 minutes • 
Article
2-3 minutes
Misunderstandings can be painful. We can easily avoid this by checking what the other person understood from what we said, and ask the other person to do the same. Doing this is especially important when it comes to planning, shared decision-making, and when emotions are strong. Also, the more someone knows you, the more they think they already know what you mean -- which can get in the way of...
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Going Deep: Understanding Your Own and Others’ Deeper Motivations

Going Deep: Understanding Your Own and Others’ Deeper Motivations

Going Deep: Understanding Your Own and Others’ Deeper Motivations

with Alan Rafael Seid
Practice Exercise • n/a • 
Practice Exercise
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One of the premises in NVC is that behind all behavior and expressions are Universal Human Needs as the deeper motivators. And one of the key distinctions in NVC is that between Needs and Strategies. Try Alan's exercise called "Peeling the Layers of the Onion, " a process for uncovering these needs — the deeper motivations — that underlie words and behaviors we may find disturbing or puzzling.
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Connecting to Humanity

Connecting to Humanity

Connecting to Humanity

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: The next time you are in conflict and catch yourself thinking that the other person doesn’t care about the same things you do, consider what needs she may be trying to meet with her actions. You may be surprised to find that both of you choose different strategies to meet the same needs.
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