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NVC Resources with Dian Killian


Transforming Society Through Organizations

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 9/1/2021
Article
6 - 9 minutes
9/1/2021
When we apply and practice NVC over a number of months in an organization, it can create group norms that make learning go deep faster. These new norms can impact people's interactions with others both inside and outside of work. From here, there's potential for people to start seeing value when they share these skills and experiences. This may create a ripple effect of interest in applying NVC...

Sitting With Not Knowing: Embracing the Heart of Nonviolent Communication

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 7/2017
Article
3 - 5 minutes
7/2017
Sitting with not knowing is an NVC skill because its the opposite of reactivity. In our haste to find relief from the discomfort of not knowing, we often become defensive, jump to conclusions, and blame and criticize others. Sitting with not knowing requires us to suspend our distrust, tolerate fear and uncertainty - creating space within us. NVC provides a way forward to enter into a space of...

NVC at Work: Transforming Organizations with Nonviolent Communication (6 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 09/14/2016
Audio
6 - 8 hours
09/14/2016
Listen and learn how to: Talk about NVC in a way that has meaning and relevance for companies and organizations, showing a clear ROI (return on investment). Draw on different applications of NVC for the workplace: addressing change in management, management issues / styles, morale / teamwork, employee retention, etc. Create a value-based training proposal (with different service and product...

Empathy Hacking: The Art and Science of Empathy Guessing

Video • 45 minutes • 11/17/2018
Video
45 minutes
11/17/2018
Empathy guessing when I was new to NVC seemed magical and mysterious. How could that other person have known that about me? And seen inside me — often in ways I'd missed myself. While empathy is both intuitive and an art, there is also a science to it. In this brief yet fascinating introduction to Dian's course, Empathy Hacking, you'll learn a super-practical way to demystify empathy guessing...

What Do You Deserve? And Do You Really Want to Deserve Anything?

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 8/2017
Article
5 - 8 minutes
8/2017
We can trick ourselves into keeping the status quo, feeling unworthy, and blocking access to critical awareness necessary that allows for new creative solutions to emerge -- when we think in terms of who has "earned" or “deserved” what.

Self-Management = More Joy at Work

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 9/2016
Article
5 - 8 minutes
9/2016
Want to manage more effectively with more ease and joy and get your staff to make changes? The first, crucial step is to learn how to change your behavior to impact what's happening. For example, we can get the inner clarity we need to reframe questions we ask ourselves, recap, make clear requests, give concrete feedback, etc. This article expands on how self-management can increase influence...

Curiosity, The Art of Waiting, and Finding Peace

Article • 7 - 11 minutes • 12/2018
Article
7 - 11 minutes
12/2018
Sitting with uncertainty can be very uncomfortable and evoke anxiety. Or it can be a practice that brings in the curiosity and inner spaciousness that allows for creative solutions to emerge, and that help us to relax our attachment to outcomes. Here's a closer look...

Embracing the Body: Learning Compassion as a “Felt-Sense”

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 2/2014
Article
5 - 8 minutes
2/2014
Our "felt-sense" can provide crucial information about our experience and our lives. It can also help us integrate and retain information. This can also bring greater access to internal resources, choice, open heartedness, collaboration and creative solutions. From there, profound insight and transformation can follow. Here's how we can harness that...

The NVC Model: A Map to Your Intentions

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 4/2014
Article
4 - 6 minutes
4/2014
The more we practice NVC by “rote” --going through OFNR (“Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests”) on automatic-- the more likely our NVC practice would lead to disconnection. The purpose of our NVC practice is to use this NVC "map" (OFNR) to support us in integrating the consciousness of the NVC (eg. operating with the intention to connect, collaborate, etc). Once we let the map drop away, we...

What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 12/2018
Article
6 - 9 minutes
12/2018
The impulse to say "I love you" is an opportunity to check-in both with our level of presence (eg. are we saying it by rote?) and also with what we really mean in that moment (eg. what are the needs and real purpose deep beneath the word "love"?). This can invite us to explore a deeper, more heartfelt way of communicating and being...

Empathy in the Face of Powerful Structures

Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 1/2018
Article
12 - 18 minutes
1/2018
Here's an inspiring story of one citizen (the author) who faced a police officer and judge in court to contest a transit ticket... and inspired structural changes in the way one aspect of New York City transit operates. She inspires change with her application of empathy for self and others, acknowledgement, connecting requests -- and an inspiring vision of understanding, shared reality and...

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 1/2018
Article
12 - 18 minutes
1/2018
Why does NVC practice, and NVC training/coaching, appear to be not enough to bridge divides between people? This article takes a look at the trickle down effect of our societal conditioning, what we can add to our NVC lense, and what we can do "upstream" when NVC doesn't seem to be enough. Additionally, the article talks about unseen constraints that men, women and minority groups face in...

NVC Conversations About Privilege and Power-Over

Article • 9 - 14 minutes • 2/2018
Article
9 - 14 minutes
2/2018
Some people in the NVC community consider the words "privilege" and "power" triggering and/or evaluative. From this perspective, how can the concepts of "privilege" and "power" be considered part of the NVC teaching? This writing piece examines the power and privilege debate. It also discusses what the author sees as Marshall Rosenberg and Gandhi's stance on the subject...

Street NVC: Bringing Your NVC Practice into Everyday Life! (4 Session Course)

Audio • 3 - 4 hours • 04/19/2012
Audio
3 - 4 hours
04/19/2012
Listen to CNVC Certified Trainer Dian Killian show you how to easily step into the mindset of an NVC practice—the spirit of connection and collaboration—that will support you in authentically connecting with others. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Hit the Ground Running: How to Build and Sustain your NVC Business

Video • 1 hour, 10 minutes • 07/05/2017
Video
1 hour, 10 minutes
07/05/2017
Listen in as Dian shares her vision for spreading NVC through the world, and engages with participants in sharing their visions, and the areas in which they are seeking support. This session stresses the value of visioning work.

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