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NVC Resources on Observation


Observing: Practicing the distinction between "observation" and "observation mixed with evaluation"

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes • 1/2020
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes
1/2020
Recalling Krishnamurti, Marshall referred to the capability of distinguishing observation vs observation mixed with evaluation as "the highest form of human intelligence." Read on for an exercise to help practice the skill of observation in combination with mindful walking.

Observation, the First Component of Nonviolent Communication

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer tip: People often presume why something happened before checking with the other person. Instead, if we were to name the facts of what happened through observation without adding in our own judgments or reasons why we think it happened, we can more easily open the possibility for deeper connection with the other person. Read on for more on making observations.

Mediating Conflict Conversations with Observation, Feeling, Need, and Request

Audio • 44 minutes • 11/17/2018
Audio
44 minutes
11/17/2018
Mediating a conflict conversation can be challenging – but with tools and practice, that challenge can be transformed. If you're curious about the specific steps needed to achieve that transformation, join John for an exploration of his non-dual mindfulness practice.

Can NVC Be Learned Without Learning Observation, Feeling, Need and Request?

with Bridget Belgrave, Jeff Brown and Mary Mackenzie
Audio • 44 minutes • 03/2012
Audio
44 minutes
03/2012
In this enlightening Trainer Conversation, three veteran CNVC Certified Trainers discuss whether NVC can be learned without first learning Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests (OFNR). The conversation naturally meanders as the trainers grapple with the question, eventually covering a wide-range of topics including the spirituality and true essence of NVC.

Observation: The Awareness of the Thoughts, Stories and Core Beliefs to Enhance Connection

Audio • 2 hours, 10 minutes • 06/2010
Audio
2 hours, 10 minutes
06/2010
In this recorded telecourse, John Kinyon, world renowned CNVC Certified Trainer, guides you through processes to strengthen your capacity for mindful presence and awareness of your thinking, and to develop the skills to translate thoughts into observations.

Increasing Presence Through Observations

Practice Exercise • 00:26 hours:minutes • 01/2010
Practice Exercise
00:26 hours:minutes
01/2010
John Kinyon leads participants through two Observation Exercises to strengthen their ability to be present. Through the exercises, John distinguishes the difference between feelings, which are emotions felt inside the body, and observations which are witness to our experience.

How To Stay Grounded In A Reactive Moment: Observing, Anchoring And Reflecting

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 9/29//2021
Article
4 - 6 minutes
9/29//2021
To shift reactivity by moving yourself from the position of experiencer to observer, name what’s happening. This can help you access other skills for managing reactivity. Also, create a strong emotional anchor.

Observing without Judgment

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: Today, identify the facts, without adding your ideas about why people behave in certain ways. Then consider connecting with the person about what was going on with them. You will find that the more you observe life without judgment and evaluation, the more open you will be to hearing and connecting with other people.

Nothing but the Facts

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005
Trainer Tip: There's often a large gap between what we experience, and the story we make up about it. Noticing how our judgments and assumptions cloud our observations can be critical to creating a connection with others and maintaining a Nonviolent Communication consciousness.

Group Feedback

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • Circa 2007
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: "I'm part of a small, self-led NVC group that's been working together for almost two years. We are experiencing some growing pains in that we're still not certain how and under what circumstances to make requests, especially negative ones."

NVC “Reality TV” (4 Session Course)

with Catherine Cadden and Jesse Wiens
Audio • 3 hours, 44 minutes • 05/2009
Audio
3 hours, 44 minutes
05/2009
If role-play, hearing conversations modeled, and dialogue practice is how you learn, this 4-part telecourse recording is for you! Learn the art of entering into, staying in, and bowing out of “the dance” of communication, playing with your real-life situations using the four components of Nonviolent Communciation as the foundation.