NVC Resources with Godfrey Spencer

Punishment, Needs and the Protective Use of Force

Ask the Trainer: For many years I have been using crime and punishment (reward and consequences) to discipline because it was the only thing I knew. I knew deep in my heart it was alienating me...

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On Love and Empathy

Ask the Trainer: Is there any difference between the concept or experience of "love" and that of "empathy?"

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Judging Feelings

Ask the Trainer: Is it a good idea to use NVC on persistent guilt, anger or depression without the aid of others?

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Connecting With Your Husband

Ask the Trainer: My question is about wanting to empathize more with my husband. Sometimes we connect very deeply, other times he slips back into "jackal talk..."

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Use of Consequences to Change Behavior

Ask the Trainer: How do I respond to people who believe that consequences are necessary to change behavior?

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Meeting Needs While Caretaking

Ask the Trainer: Can all needs be met when illness limits the capacity of one person to meet the needs of her partner?

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Connecting with Someone Who Has Cancer

Ask the Trainer: I feel overwhelmed thinking of writing to someone with cancer. What can I do?

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Protective Use of Force with Children

Ask the Trainer: Can you help me connect with my needs behind the protective use of force I use with my children?

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