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NVC Resources on Healing

Healing Old Pain

Healing Old Pain

Healing Old Pain

with Robert Gonzales

Video • 41 minutes •

Video
41 minutes

Watch this heartwarming video as Robert Gonzales works with a volunteer to heal old pain over a situation with her grandmother. By playing the grandmother role, and using three different role play scenarios, Robert guides the woman through three stages of healing.

Houses of Healing: Kathleen Macferran at TEDx

Houses of Healing: Kathleen Macferran at TEDx

Houses of Healing: Kathleen Macferran at TEDx

with Kathleen Macferran

Video • 15 minutes •

Video
15 minutes

Are we really safer when we put those who harm others behind bars and forget about them? Explore turning our prisons into houses of healing and creating connections that lead to greater safety for our communities.

Reconciliation & Healing of Interpersonal Pain: Working with Marshall Rosenberg’s Four Part Process

Reconciliation & Healing of Interpersonal Pain: Working with Marshall Rosenberg’s Four Part Process

Reconciliation & Healing of Interpersonal Pain: Working with Marshall Rosenberg’s Four Part Process

with John Kinyon

Audio • 2 hours, 5 minutes •

Audio
2 hours, 5 minutes

Experience John Kinyon's application of NVC Founder Marshall Rosenberg's 4-part model of reconciliation and healing, a model he developed over the course of decades of work with people around the world who have experienced the deep pain of violence.

Healing and Reconciliation (7 Session Course)

Healing and Reconciliation (7 Session Course)

Healing and Reconciliation (7 Session Course)

with Ike Lasater and John Kinyon

Audio • 7 - 9 hours •

Audio
7 - 9 hours

Old emotional hurts and pains can easily erupt when you’re in the throes of conflict – even if you’re the mediator. Wouldn’t it be lovely if you could avoid all of that, and instead create more peace and happiness for yourself, your family, your co-workers and your community?

Healing And Repair After A Triggering Comment

Healing And Repair After A Triggering Comment

Healing And Repair After A Triggering Comment

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Practice Exercise • 6-9 minutes •

Practice Exercise
6-9 minutes

How to get past the sting of a painful comment? Get empathy from self or another. Then connect with the commenter's feelings and needs. The more you can do this the less personally you may take it. Then work together on specific, do-able, authentic agreement about doing something differently next time, the kind that will enable you both to shift out of reactivity. Three things need to be in...

Healing From Betrayal

Healing From Betrayal

Healing From Betrayal

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 5- 8 minutes •

Article
5- 8 minutes

Repairing betrayal may include rebuilding self trust, getting support, empathy on both sides over time, and new agreements. Even though your (in)actions don't "cause" someone's behavior, acknowledging any part you played in creating conditions for the behaviors to arise, can support repair. Trust builds slowly as new skills, ways of relating and experiences that reflect honesty, self...

Healing Addiction With Unconscious Contract Work

Healing Addiction With Unconscious Contract Work

Healing Addiction With Unconscious Contract Work

with Sarah Peyton

Article • 5 - 8 minutes •

Article
5 - 8 minutes

An addiction to something (eg. opioids, fats, sugars, salts, cigarettes, coffee, alcohol, etc.) or a compulsion (eg. gambling, shopping, working, sex or love addictions) is often an unconscious attempt to soothe trauma - fear, loneliness and shame that's frozen in unconscious memory. The addiction or compulsion is a substitute for what we really need. It is an endless craving that's never...

Self-Empathy: A Direct Route to Personal Healing

Self-Empathy: A Direct Route to Personal Healing

Self-Empathy: A Direct Route to Personal Healing

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: It is true that we cannot fully understand other people until we understand ourselves. Gain understanding and healing through self-empathy within the Compassionate Communication process.

Healing a Repetitive Reactive Dynamic

Healing a Repetitive Reactive Dynamic

Healing a Repetitive Reactive Dynamic

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 3-5 minutes •

Article
3-5 minutes

In healing reactivity try identifying your most common complaints, wishes, or requests. Or when you tend to defend, justify, get angry, or protect. Find the tender needs. You can recall when you experienced deep nourishment of that need. Several times a week nourish your tender needs. Be clear about the strategy to address needs by answering key questions. Read on for more.

Understanding and Healing from Bullying, Giving and Receiving

Understanding and Healing from Bullying, Giving and Receiving

Understanding and Healing from Bullying, Giving and Receiving

with Sarah Peyton

Article • 6 - 9 minutes •

Article
6 - 9 minutes

When bullying occurs, if we do our own healing, our brains can become more sharp and present and willing to take action to connect and to begin to shift and mitigate the harm that trauma does in our world. We can reduce trauma inflicted upon others when we recognize the patterns of abuse and bullying, hold zero tolerance for it, bring in support for both sides of the conflict, and take action...

Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out (6 Session Course)

Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out (6 Session Course)

Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out (6 Session Course)

with Mary Mackenzie

Audio • 5 - 7 hours •

Audio
5 - 7 hours

Ever wish you knew how you might experience more choice when you've been triggered, instead of being trapped in old habits and unmet needs? Wish you could REALLY heal old internal messages that tell you you're not good enough… not loveable… or not deserving? Join veteran CNVC Certified Trainer, Mary Mackenzie, for this 6-session course designed to deepen your ability to connect with self and...

Healing the Blame that Binds

Healing the Blame that Binds

Healing the Blame that Binds

with Kelly Bryson

Article • 4 -6 minutes •

Article
4 -6 minutes

Blame is the game that protects me from the understanding that the cause of all my emotional distress, fear, shame and guilt comes from the part of me I call "the inner voice." As long as I keep the big bony finger of blame pointed in your direction, I can remain unaware of the fact that it is what I am telling myself about your behavior that is stimulating my painful reactions.

Healing Worthlessness and Finding Belonging

Healing Worthlessness and Finding Belonging

Healing Worthlessness and Finding Belonging

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 4- 6 minutes •

Article
4- 6 minutes

With worthlessness comes the idea of not belonging or not being worthy of belonging. In this context, belonging is more than an identity with a particular group. It is the sort of belonging that enables you to get other fundamental needs met, including safety, support, nourishment, and love. Unconscious attempts win worthiness and belonging often effectively blocks the very thing its pursuing....

Healing Codependency

Healing Codependency

Healing Codependency

with Erin Merrihew

Article • 5 - 10 minutes •

Article
5 - 10 minutes

We all fall into codependency sometimes — it’s in our wiring. And when we do, it’s a sign that we’re looking for security the only way we know how in that moment: by looking outside of ourselves. At its core, codependency is the act of leaving ourselves and looking outward to find our sense of self. So to heal codependent patterns we need focus on coming back to ourselves and engage in...

An Introduction to Self-Compassion (10 Session Course)

An Introduction to Self-Compassion (10 Session Course)

An Introduction to Self-Compassion (10 Session Course)

with Robert Gonzales

Audio • 11 hours, 12 minutes •

Audio
11 hours, 12 minutes

In this 10 session telecourse recording, world renowned CNVC Certified Trainer Robert Gonzales will help you discover a new level of self-acceptance that can lead to profound emotional healing and a deeper spiritual presence.

Self-Empathy: A Guided Tour and Experience (Parts 1-2)

Self-Empathy: A Guided Tour and Experience (Parts 1-2)

Self-Empathy: A Guided Tour and Experience (Parts 1-2)

with Mary Mackenzie and Raj Gill

Audio • 19 minutes •

Audio
19 minutes

Experience the remarkable healing power of self-empathy, guided by CNVC Certified Trainers, Mary Mackenzie and Raj Gill. In this audio course, the trainers lead participants through a demonstration and then supplement the learning with discussion and answers to questions.

NVC Life Hacks 6: Mourning

NVC Life Hacks 6: Mourning

NVC Life Hacks 6: Mourning

with Shantigarbha Warren

Video • 4 minutes •

Video
4 minutes

Mourning is not just a process that happens after someone dies: it's an experience we go through with loss of any kind. Here, Shantigarbha offers us seven tips for working with mourning and healing.

Trauma and Sanctuary

Trauma and Sanctuary

Trauma and Sanctuary

with Bob Wentworth

Article • 3 - 5 minutes •

Article
3 - 5 minutes

One clue we have trauma is when we respond in a way we don't want (eg. being reactive, self sabotaging, etc). Even when we have high level NVC skills our trauma-related mechanisms can activate, and we can lose access to well honed NVC skills. Read on for approaches that involve healing trauma, and approaches that involve managing the effects of trauma and preventing additional trauma.

Simple Interventions for Chronic Reactivity

Simple Interventions for Chronic Reactivity

Simple Interventions for Chronic Reactivity

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 6-9 minutes •

Article
6-9 minutes

For each reactive pattern there is a perceived threat to a tender need. Knowing these tender needs helps us figure out how to interrupt these patterns and creating new ways of perceiving and relating to life. In addition to knowing the need, knowing the healing response and the primary reactive behavior helps with transformation.

Grief and Mourning for the World

Grief and Mourning for the World

Grief and Mourning for the World

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 5-7 minutes •

Article
5-7 minutes

As you witness injustices in the world, tension, anger, hopelessness, despair and more, may rise up in you. These feelings may lead to reactive thinking that doesn't contribute to healing nor wise action. Mourning is a universal need. If your culture pushed away grief and its emotional expression, you may have habits that block your access to the aliveness of grief. Read on for ways to give...

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