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NVC Resources on Healing


Healing Old Pain

Healing Old Pain

Healing Old Pain

with Robert Gonzales
Video • 41 minutes • Circa 2007
Video
41 minutes
Circa 2007
Watch this heartwarming video as Robert Gonzales works with a volunteer to heal old pain over a situation with her grandmother. By playing the grandmother role, and using three different role play scenarios, Robert guides the woman through three stages of healing.
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Reconciliation & Healing of Interpersonal Pain: Working with Marshall Rosenberg’s Four Part Process

Reconciliation & Healing of Interpersonal Pain: Working with Marshall Rosenberg’s Four Part Process

Reconciliation & Healing of Interpersonal Pain: Working with Marshall Rosenberg’s Four Part Process

with John Kinyon
Audio • 2 hours, 5 minutes • 12/07/2009
Audio
2 hours, 5 minutes
12/07/2009
Experience John Kinyon's application of NVC Founder Marshall Rosenberg's 4-part model of reconciliation and healing, a model he developed over the course of decades of work with people around the world who have experienced the deep pain of violence.
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Healing and Reconciliation (7 Session Course)

Healing and Reconciliation (7 Session Course)

Healing and Reconciliation (7 Session Course)

with Ike Lasater and John Kinyon
Audio • 7 - 9 hours • 01/20/2015
Audio
7 - 9 hours
01/20/2015
Old emotional hurts and pains can easily erupt when you’re in the throes of conflict – even if you’re the mediator. Wouldn’t it be lovely if you could avoid all of that, and instead create more peace and happiness for yourself, your family, your co-workers and your community?
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Healing From Betrayal

Healing From Betrayal

Healing From Betrayal

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 5- 8 minutes • 07/2019
Article
5- 8 minutes
07/2019
Repairing betrayal may include rebuilding self trust, getting support, empathy on both sides over time, and new agreements. Even though your (in)actions don't "cause" someone's behavior, acknowledging any part you played in creating conditions for the behaviors to arise, can support repair. Trust builds slowly as new skills, ways of relating and experiences that reflect honesty, self...
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Healing Addiction With Unconscious Contract Work

Healing Addiction With Unconscious Contract Work

Healing Addiction With Unconscious Contract Work

with Sarah Peyton
Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 01/2020
Article
5 - 8 minutes
01/2020
An addiction to something (eg. opioids, fats, sugars, salts, cigarettes, coffee, alcohol, etc.) or a compulsion (eg. gambling, shopping, working, sex or love addictions) is often an unconscious attempt to soothe trauma - fear, loneliness and shame that's frozen in unconscious memory. The addiction or compulsion is a substitute for what we really need. It is an endless craving that's never...
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Healing a Repetitive Reactive Dynamic

Healing a Repetitive Reactive Dynamic

Healing a Repetitive Reactive Dynamic

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 3-5 minutes • 6/2018
Article
3-5 minutes
6/2018
In healing reactivity try identifying your most common complaints, wishes, or requests. Or when you tend to defend, justify, get angry, or protect. Find the tender needs. You can recall when you experienced deep nourishment of that need. Several times a week nourish your tender needs. Be clear about the strategy to address needs by answering key questions. Read on for more.
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Understanding and Healing from Bullying, Giving and Receiving

Understanding and Healing from Bullying, Giving and Receiving

Understanding and Healing from Bullying, Giving and Receiving

with Sarah Peyton
Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 04/2013
Article
6 - 9 minutes
04/2013
When bullying occurs, if we do our own healing, our brains can become more sharp and present and willing to take action to connect and to begin to shift and mitigate the harm that trauma does in our world. We can reduce trauma inflicted upon others when we recognize the patterns of abuse and bullying, hold zero tolerance for it, bring in support for both sides of the conflict, and take action...
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Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out (6 Session Course)

Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out (6 Session Course)

Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out (6 Session Course)

with Mary Mackenzie
Audio • 5 - 7 hours • 10/17/2018
Audio
5 - 7 hours
10/17/2018
Ever wish you knew how you might experience more choice when you've been triggered, instead of being trapped in old habits and unmet needs? Wish you could REALLY heal old internal messages that tell you you're not good enough… not loveable… or not deserving? Join veteran CNVC Certified Trainer, Mary Mackenzie, for this 6-session course designed to deepen your ability to connect with self and...
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Healing Codependency

Healing Codependency

Healing Codependency

with Erin Merrihew
Article • 5 - 10 minutes • 9/2020
Article
5 - 10 minutes
9/2020
We all fall into codependency sometimes — it’s in our wiring. And when we do, it’s a sign that we’re looking for security the only way we know how in that moment: by looking outside of ourselves. At its core, codependency is the act of leaving ourselves and looking outward to find our sense of self. So to heal codependent patterns we need focus on coming back to ourselves and engage in...
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Healing Worthlessness and Finding Belonging

Healing Worthlessness and Finding Belonging

Healing Worthlessness and Finding Belonging

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 4- 6 minutes • 02/2021
Article
4- 6 minutes
02/2021
With worthlessness comes the idea of not belonging or not being worthy of belonging. In this context, belonging is more than an identity with a particular group. It is the sort of belonging that enables you to get other fundamental needs met, including safety, support, nourishment, and love. Unconscious attempts win worthiness and belonging often effectively blocks the very thing its pursuing....
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Healing the Blame that Binds

Healing the Blame that Binds

Healing the Blame that Binds

with Kelly Bryson
Article • 4 -6 minutes • 2000
Article
4 -6 minutes
2000
Blame is the game that protects me from the understanding that the cause of all my emotional distress, fear, shame and guilt comes from the part of me I call "the inner voice." As long as I keep the big bony finger of blame pointed in your direction, I can remain unaware of the fact that it is what I am telling myself about your behavior that is stimulating my painful reactions.
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An Introduction to Self-Compassion (10 Session Course)

An Introduction to Self-Compassion (10 Session Course)

An Introduction to Self-Compassion (10 Session Course)

with Robert Gonzales
Audio • 11 hours, 12 minutes • 02/2011
Audio
11 hours, 12 minutes
02/2011
In this 10 session telecourse recording, world renowned CNVC Certified Trainer Robert Gonzales will help you discover a new level of self-acceptance that can lead to profound emotional healing and a deeper spiritual presence.
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Trauma and Sanctuary

Trauma and Sanctuary

Trauma and Sanctuary

with Bob Wentworth
Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 11/2009
Article
3 - 5 minutes
11/2009
One clue we have trauma is when we respond in a way we don't want (eg. being reactive, self sabotaging, etc). Even when we have high level NVC skills our trauma-related mechanisms can activate, and we can lose access to well honed NVC skills. Read on for approaches that involve healing trauma, and approaches that involve managing the effects of trauma and preventing additional trauma.
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Simple Interventions for Chronic Reactivity

Simple Interventions for Chronic Reactivity

Simple Interventions for Chronic Reactivity

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 6-9 minutes • 2/2018
Article
6-9 minutes
2/2018
For each reactive pattern there is a perceived threat to a tender need. Knowing these tender needs helps us figure out how to interrupt these patterns and creating new ways of perceiving and relating to life. In addition to knowing the need, knowing the healing response and the primary reactive behavior helps with transformation.
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Grief and Mourning for the World

Grief and Mourning for the World

Grief and Mourning for the World

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 5-7 minutes • 10/2020
Article
5-7 minutes
10/2020
As you witness injustices in the world, tension, anger, hopelessness, despair and more, may rise up in you. These feelings may lead to reactive thinking that doesn't contribute to healing nor wise action. Mourning is a universal need. If your culture pushed away grief and its emotional expression, you may have habits that block your access to the aliveness of grief. Read on for ways to give...
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