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NVC Resources on Vulnerability


How to Invite Shared Vulnerability

Article • 3-4 minutes • 8/2019
Article
3-4 minutes
8/2019
Shared vulnerability can build more intimacy, mutuality, being seen and heard, empathy, or community. Inviting shared vulnerability means earning another’s trust that you can consistently offer attentive, curious, and compassionate listening. Here are four strategies to invite shared vulnerability.

How To Create Supportive Conditions For Sharing Vulnerably

Practice Exercise • 5 - 7 minutes • 02/11/2022
Practice Exercise
5 - 7 minutes
02/11/2022
Sharing more vulnerably provides opportunities for fulfilling connection. As social beings we rely on feedback to see our effect on others. We can get that feedback through body language, facial cues and words. To expand your capacity to share more vulnerably you can create supportive conditions and timing. You can ask for feedback by making in-the-moment requests of others and yourself before...

Overcoming Unworthiness to Express Vulnerable Honesty

Audio • 9 minutes • 02/03/2009
Audio
9 minutes
02/03/2009
Does unworthiness keep you from expressing vulnerably and honestly? Afraid of being "found out?" Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she explores this topic with a workshop participant to discern stories from needs, recognize the tension between self-acceptance and personal development and sit with the discomfort of self-acceptance.

Practice Tracking Various Living States of Being

Practice Exercise • 3 - 5 minutes • 12/30/2021
Practice Exercise
3 - 5 minutes
12/30/2021
Use this exercise to identify what state you're in at any moment, and as an exercise to grow capacity for self-awareness and self-compassion. Identify what happened, thoughts, sensations, feelings, longings, etc. Includes a table that outlines three states of being: Protective/Defensive, Vulnerability, Essence.

Integrating Inner And Outer

Practice Exercise • 1-2 minutes • 1/17/2022
Practice Exercise
1-2 minutes
1/17/2022
This exercise brings forth presence, awareness, and witnessing regarding what you observe. And also the inner form of experiencing: thinking, feeling, sensing, longing, and noticing any inner resistance. This exercise is designed to allow self-compassion to clear the inner space, and to help you feel it as a flow of energy, presence to the other, and bring in a more relaxed experience and more...

Wishing For More Maturity & Skill In Others

Practice Exercise • 3-5 minutes • 12/2/2021
Practice Exercise
3-5 minutes
12/2/2021
In some situations you might expect people to show a degree of maturity or skill. When they don't, your anger-fueled response doesn't lead to lasting improved relationship change. Instead, find someone who retains focus on your feelings and needs rather than colluding with you about what should(n't) be. This can support greater acceptance, grief, vulnerability, groundedness and discernment,...

The Freedom of Committing to a Path

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 02/03/2012
Article
5 - 8 minutes
02/03/2012
In June, 1996, I had an epiphany. In a motel room in Indiana, the night before returning home from a solo camping trip in Michigan and Canada, I discovered how much I had lost in my life because of so fiercely protecting myself. Up until that day, bringing forth my vulnerable self was to be avoided at all costs, which kept me numb much of the time, disconnected from myself and from much of...

Speaking the Unspoken Conversation (6 Session Course)

Audio • 7 hours, 10 minutes • 03/19/2014
Audio
7 hours, 10 minutes
03/19/2014
Reveal, own and share the inner chatter that plays over and over in your head, in between the words you speak aloud. Arnina Kashtan will help you discover, embrace and open up the places inside that you’ve hidden and judged.

Opening to Intimacy

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 10/2005
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
10/2005
Trainer tip: Do you have behavioral patterns that block intimacy? When we are feeling our most vulnerable, we often want intimacy but also tend to keep it at bay. Acknowledge your need for intimacy, and find people you can trust to love you as you are.

Courage

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 07/2017
Article
4 - 6 minutes
07/2017
In listening to what our emotions tell us, and embracing what we do not know, we begin the path of courage. Even though our culture tells us not to, revealing our imperfections is where we can deeply connect. Living our lives more courageously honest, can shift us towards inspiring one another. Read on for how some people experienced this in coming together to transform one woman's heroine...

What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 12/2018
Article
6 - 9 minutes
12/2018
The impulse to say "I love you" is an opportunity to check-in both with our level of presence (eg. are we saying it by rote?) and also with what we really mean in that moment (eg. what are the needs and real purpose deep beneath the word "love"?). This can invite us to explore a deeper, more heartfelt way of communicating and being...

Five Core Principles of Living Compassion and the Relationship of Needs to Spirituality

Audio • 8 minutes • 10/09/2013
Audio
8 minutes
10/09/2013
Listen to Robert describe the five core principles of Living Compassion and the relationship of needs to spirituality. Great material for reflection and reference!

Cooperating with the Life Principle: Living the Heart of Life Unfolding (8 Session Course)

Video • 6 hours • 11/19/2014
Video
6 hours
11/19/2014
If you're interested in learning specifically how and what you can do to live compassionately – with plenty of hands-on practice time – this course is for you. Observe actual demonstrations of Robert guiding participants through the transformational territory of healing and integration.