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NVC Resources on Judgment

Releasing Our Judgments

Releasing Our Judgments

Releasing Our Judgments

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: It's impossible to value other people’s needs and remain compassionate if we simultaneously harbor judgments. If we're willing to shift this behavior we can translate our judgments into acknowledging how something affects us. Once I got into the habit of this, my judgments began to subside dramatically. It became easy to love people and feel compassion for them, and I experienced a...

Getting Past Our Judgments

Getting Past Our Judgments

Getting Past Our Judgments

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Using NVC as a tool to transform our judgments can revolutionize our perceptions and relationships.

Saying Thank You without Judgment

Saying Thank You without Judgment

Saying Thank You without Judgment

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: From the NVC perspective, everything someone says or does is either a “please” or a “thank you". In our culture, saying “thank you” usually involves an appreciation in the form of judgment or evaluation. Remember, whether we judge someone as good or bad, judgments and evaluations can create disconnect or tension. Instead, notice how their actions have enriched life, and what...

Observing without Judgment

Observing without Judgment

Observing without Judgment

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Today, identify the facts, without adding your ideas about why people behave in certain ways. Then consider connecting with the person about what was going on with them. You will find that the more you observe life without judgment and evaluation, the more open you will be to hearing and connecting with other people.

Sometimes I Can’t Get Past My Judgments

Sometimes I Can’t Get Past My Judgments

Sometimes I Can’t Get Past My Judgments

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Whether we listen to our own or the other person’s needs first, connecting to needs can help us release judgments of others, see their humanness, help us to begin to hear them and ultimately connect to them. Be aware today of times when you are judging someone. Then be aware of your own needs to improve your connection to them.

Moralistic Judgments

Moralistic Judgments

Moralistic Judgments

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: When we express moralistic judgments we are implying that other people are wrong or bad because they don’t act in ways that are in harmony with our values. Judging the situation or people can create distance and hurt. Instead, we can express our needs and how we're affected, bringing greater connection and healing. Today, notice how often you judge, and how you feel when you judge.

Understanding Judgments

Understanding Judgments

Understanding Judgments

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: Whenever we judge someone else in any way, we create a barrier and distance between us and the other person. Instead, consider shifting from judging other people to awareness of how their behavior affects your feelings and needs. This can make a profound difference in your ability to live peacefully. Read on for more.

Getting Beyond Our Judgments So We May Connect

Getting Beyond Our Judgments So We May Connect

Getting Beyond Our Judgments So We May Connect

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Thinking someone is bad, wrong, or evil can make it more difficult to connect with them. If we focus on this kind of thinking, we stay in the problem or conflict. The minute we step out of judgement and listen for the needs underlying their actions, we begin working for the solution. Put your focus in the direction of the result you want. Read on for an example.

Losing Our Judgments

Losing Our Judgments

Losing Our Judgments

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: Various life circumstances that can seem to be something that we don't want, and we may think of them as bad. And then later the situation may reveal that it's a circumstance that we do want, and we may think of it as good. Instead, of evaluating our day as good or bad we can acknowledge the feelings and needs that are present. Read on for a few anecdotes that illustrate this.

Without Judgment or Blame

Without Judgment or Blame

Without Judgment or Blame

with Bridget Belgrave

Audio • 27 minutes •

Audio
27 minutes

Bridget Belgrave, CNVC Certified Trainer from the United Kingdom, talks with an interviewer after he attends an NVC and Dance Floors workshop with her. The interviewer shares his reaction to the term "Nonviolent Communication."

The Compass - Taking Responsibility in the Face of Guilt and Judgment

The Compass - Taking Responsibility in the Face of Guilt and Judgment

The Compass - Taking Responsibility in the Face of Guilt and Judgment

with Arnina Kashtan

Audio • 1 hour, 3 minutes •

Audio
1 hour, 3 minutes

The Compass – Arnina Kashtan's in-depth transformational process – is specifically designed to support you in reliably deepening your understanding of your own and others' conditioning, and finding ways to reclaim your full connection with yourself.

Practicing Unconditional Self-Acceptance When I Want Change

Practicing Unconditional Self-Acceptance When I Want Change

Practicing Unconditional Self-Acceptance When I Want Change

with Robert Gonzales

Audio • 8 minutes •

Audio
8 minutes

In moments where we would like to see change, personal growth or spiritual transformation, rather than immediately acting to make a change, Robert suggests we practice unconditional self-acceptance through a spacious presence to our inner experience. Robert asks us to give our attention and spacious awareness to our own judgments, inner contractions, and other experiences we often regard as...

From Suffering to Aliveness: Not Fighting Reality

From Suffering to Aliveness: Not Fighting Reality

From Suffering to Aliveness: Not Fighting Reality

with Bob Wentworth

Audio • 26 minutes •

Audio
26 minutes

How we relate to life parallels how we relate to others! Learn how to have a more healthy way of relating to situations and people when your needs are not being met. Bob Wentworth offers some wisdom on moving from suffering to aliveness through not fighting what is.

"I'm Not Good Enough" and Other Leadership Myths

"I'm Not Good Enough" and Other Leadership Myths

"I'm Not Good Enough" and Other Leadership Myths

with Roxy Manning

Article • 7-11 mins •

Article
7-11 mins

Do you yearn to step forward in leadership, but know you're holding back? Clinical psychologist, organizational consultant, and speaker, Roxy Manning, PhD, shows us that more than external factors, its our internal beliefs and fears that provide the main barrier to moving forward. She does this by taking us through three myths of leadership, and weaves in anecdotes to illustrate how tapping our...

Comparing Ourselves to Others

Comparing Ourselves to Others

Comparing Ourselves to Others

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: Comparisons are a form of judgment. The minute we compare ourselves to other people, we are setting ourselves up for pain and discouragement. We are setting them up too, and erecting a barrier between ourselves and them. Instead, notice how you feel about other people’s assets or foibles, and what needs come up for you. Read on for more.

Self-Righteous Anger

Self-Righteous Anger

Self-Righteous Anger

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Have you ever noticed that some of your behaviors ensure that your needs for peace and relief won’t be met? Take judgments for instance. The more we have, the less peaceful and happy we feel.

Nothing but the Facts

Nothing but the Facts

Nothing but the Facts

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: There's often a large gap between what we experience, and the story we make up about it. Noticing how our judgments and assumptions cloud our observations can be critical to creating a connection with others and maintaining a Nonviolent Communication consciousness.

Key Differentiations in Nonviolent Communication

Key Differentiations in Nonviolent Communication

Key Differentiations in Nonviolent Communication

with Sylvia Haskvitz

Audio • 1 hour •

Audio
1 hour

Veteran CNVC Certified Trainer, Sylvia Haskvitz, reviews the key distinctions (sometimes referred to as the key differentiations) in Nonviolent Communication.

Enemy Images Process and Exercise

Enemy Images Process and Exercise

Enemy Images Process and Exercise

with Jeff Brown

Practice Exercise • N/A •

Practice Exercise
N/A

Ask the Trainer: "What guidance do you have for working with enemy images? Can you say some things about processes and/or exercises that can bring relief from this trap?"

Expressing Anger Peacefully

Expressing Anger Peacefully

Expressing Anger Peacefully

with Raj Gill

Audio • 1 hour, 16 minutes •

Audio
1 hour, 16 minutes

In this prerecorded telecourse, Raj Gil uses an interactive dialogue and proven exercises to help you develop a profoundly healthy response to anger, right in the moment.

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