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NVC Resources on Mourning

Celebrating Mourning

Celebrating Mourning

Celebrating Mourning

with Christine King

Article • 3 - 5 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

In a recent vacation in a Mexican village, I was surprised to find myself in the midst of a community in mourning. Two days before I came, a 21-year-old girl had died in a car accident. Everyone in the town knew her and was openly affected by her death.

How Do I Love Those Who Hate Me?

How Do I Love Those Who Hate Me?

How Do I Love Those Who Hate Me?

with Roxy Manning

Article • 6 - 9 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes

There are times when someone judges us, or meets us with prejudice, and its easier for us to respond by hating them, or judging ourselves as not good enough. How can we love another person instead without excusing their actions? Roxy tells us her story with wonderment, grief and mourning.

Grief and Mourning for the World

Grief and Mourning for the World

Grief and Mourning for the World

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 5-7 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
5-7 minutes

As you witness injustices in the world, tension, anger, hopelessness, despair and more, may rise up in you. These feelings may lead to reactive thinking that doesn't contribute to healing nor wise action. Mourning is a universal need. If your culture pushed away grief and its emotional expression, you may have habits that block your access to the aliveness of grief. Read on for ways to give...

Is Nonviolent Use of Force an Oxymoron?

Is Nonviolent Use of Force an Oxymoron?

Is Nonviolent Use of Force an Oxymoron?

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 37 - 56 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
37 - 56 minutes

What do we actually mean by “use of force” and what counts as such? Here's a template that will be unpacked in this article: "Use of force is consistent with nonviolence to the extent that we use the least amount of force possible, with the most love possible, aiming at (re)creating conditions for dialogue; that we make the choice using as much nonreactive discernment as possible, with as much...

Connecting with Spiritual Clarity

Connecting with Spiritual Clarity

Connecting with Spiritual Clarity

with Jim Manske

Article • 2 - 3 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
2 - 3 minutes

We can cultivate spiritual clarity through bringing attention to our intentions, mourning, gratitude, and the dynamic flow of feelings and needs. This can bring more autonomy, choice and liberate the energy of connection and contribution. We can also awaken our hearts to see the reality that our well-being is mutually interdependent. Read on for more.

Diving Deeper Into the Spiral of Life (6 Session Course)

Diving Deeper Into the Spiral of Life (6 Session Course)

Diving Deeper Into the Spiral of Life (6 Session Course)

with Robert Gonzales

Audio • 6 hours, 2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
6 hours, 2 minutes

We invite you to dive into this voyage, where you and Robert will swim ever deeper into the Spiral of Life, coming face-to-face with your divine Life Force – that essential living energy that permeates all.

Mourning Our Way to Acceptance

Mourning Our Way to Acceptance

Mourning Our Way to Acceptance

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 7 - 11 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
7 - 11 minutes

When something happens that we don't like no amount of resentment nor magical thinking will make it disappear. Instead, we can mourn to dissolve our own resistance, resentment, and numbness of resignation. Mourning can allow us to feel pain with acceptance, and without needing to be okay with what happened. Acceptance can bring us to a place where even all the anguish in the world is fully,...

Contributing to Emotional Safety Without Giving Up Honesty

Contributing to Emotional Safety Without Giving Up Honesty

Contributing to Emotional Safety Without Giving Up Honesty

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 5 - 7 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 7 minutes

Even in a conflict, you can offer emotional safety without being enmeshed -- and you can do this without sliding into strategies to gain power over another. You can prioritize connection, express your intention, make space for mutuality, honestly reveal what you care about and propose a way forward. This means caring for your needs regardless of their response -- and mourning if their response...

Life Force and the Spirituality of Human Needs (6 Session Course)

Life Force and the Spirituality of Human Needs (6 Session Course)

Life Force and the Spirituality of Human Needs (6 Session Course)

with Robert Gonzales

Audio • 6 - 9 hours

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
6 - 9 hours

Your needs and your values are your Life Force: the river that flows through your spirit and your life, giving life and light to your being. Explore this river with Robert, and map out routes that support your growth. Gain a deeper understadning and acceptance of the spirituality and beauty of needs and values. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Mourning Our Losses

Mourning Our Losses

Mourning Our Losses

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Mourning enables us to heal the pain and gain clarity about how to meet our needs in the present moment.

Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: Recovering from Reactivity

Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: Recovering from Reactivity

Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: Recovering from Reactivity

with Jim & Jori Manske

Audio • 30 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
30 minutes

Join CNVC Certified Trainers Jim and Jori Manske for this session that will help you minimize your reactivity and live in greater choice.

Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: Three Necessities for Integrating NVC

Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: Three Necessities for Integrating NVC

Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: Three Necessities for Integrating NVC

with Jim & Jori Manske

Audio • 1 hour, 11 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
1 hour, 11 minutes

Inspired by a talk given by Marshall Rosenberg, Jim offers an interactive exploration of powerful strategies for making NVC an integral part of your everyday life.

Finding Your Way Through Hard Times

Finding Your Way Through Hard Times

Finding Your Way Through Hard Times

with Oren Jay Sofer

Article • 2 - 3 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Article
2 - 3 minutes

What have you lost this year? Are you grieving too? Recognition of loss can helped contextualize our emotions. When we can meet grief with understanding, patience and tenderness, when we create space to mourn our losses -- and to begin to process, heal and metabolize loss. This can helps us make sense of change and orient to a new reality. Grief is a longing for what we love.

Living the Self-in-Life: Presence and Self-Compassion

Living the Self-in-Life: Presence and Self-Compassion

Living the Self-in-Life: Presence and Self-Compassion

with Robert Gonzales

Audio • 30 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
30 minutes

During this very moving session, you'll dive into Robert's exercises for supporting connection to your true self as opposed to your conditioned self.

Steps Towards Meaningful Action

Steps Towards Meaningful Action

Steps Towards Meaningful Action

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 4 - 6 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes

We're in difficult times - possibly at the brink of extinction. What can we do in response? Some nonlinear steps: A.) Notice what isn't working; B.) Mourn so that we can move "towards" from an expanded space inside; C.) Analyze to bring a fuller understanding of what's happening and what's needed; D.) Reframe our inner and outer narratives; E.) Discern what we can contribute; F.) Care; and G.)...

NVC Life Hacks 6: Mourning

NVC Life Hacks 6: Mourning

NVC Life Hacks 6: Mourning

with Shantigarbha Warren

Video • 4 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
4 minutes

Mourning is not just a process that happens after someone dies: it's an experience we go through with loss of any kind. Here, Shantigarbha offers us seven tips for working with mourning and healing.

Mourning Our Disappointments

Mourning Our Disappointments

Mourning Our Disappointments

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Taking time to mourn our regrets and unmet needs can lead to a deeper self-connection and feelings of peace.

Valuing My Needs When I Habitually Don't

Valuing My Needs When I Habitually Don't

Valuing My Needs When I Habitually Don't

with John Kinyon

Audio • 9 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
9 minutes

Listen to John answer an NVC Library member's question about what we can do when we habitually place other's needs ahead our own. Healing and change can be reached through compassionate self-connection, needs awareness, mourning and mindfulness.

Living Room Radio Show (Parts 1-3)

Living Room Radio Show (Parts 1-3)

Living Room Radio Show (Parts 1-3)

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 16 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
16 minutes

Miki Kashtan hosts Living Room Radio Show on KPFA Radio 94.1FM in Berkeley, California, USA. Listen as she works with guests of the show to deal with some of their personal struggles.

Dealing with Loss: Engaging with Someone’s Grief for the World

Dealing with Loss: Engaging with Someone’s Grief for the World

Dealing with Loss: Engaging with Someone’s Grief for the World

with Kristin Masters

Video • 1 hour, 46 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 46 minutes

When faced with someone’s grief for the world, how do you engage with them in a way that is informed? In this session, Kristin suggests exploring what they might be grieving… what they’re afraid of losing… and what it is that they love.

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