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NVC Resources on Mourning


Connecting with Spiritual Clarity

with Jim Manske
Article • 2 - 3 minutes • 11/2019
Article
2 - 3 minutes
11/2019
We can cultivate spiritual clarity through bringing attention to our intentions, mourning, gratitude, and the dynamic flow of feelings and needs. This can bring more autonomy, choice and liberate the energy of connection and contribution. We can also awaken our hearts to see the reality that our well-being is mutually interdependent. Read on for more.

Mourning Our Way to Acceptance

Article • 7 - 11 minutes • 04/2013
Article
7 - 11 minutes
04/2013
When something happens that we don't like no amount of resentment nor magical thinking will make it disappear. Instead, we can mourn to dissolve our own resistance, resentment, and numbness of resignation. Mourning can allow us to feel pain with acceptance, and without needing to be okay with what happened. Acceptance can bring us to a place where even all the anguish in the world is fully,...

Is Nonviolent Use of Force an Oxymoron?

Article • 37 - 56 minutes • 05/2020
Article
37 - 56 minutes
05/2020
What do we actually mean by “use of force” and what counts as such? Here's a template that will be unpacked in this article: "Use of force is consistent with nonviolence to the extent that we use the least amount of force possible, with the most love possible, aiming at (re)creating conditions for dialogue; that we make the choice using as much nonreactive discernment as possible, with as much...

Grief and Mourning for the World

Article • 5-7 minutes • 10/2020
Article
5-7 minutes
10/2020
As you witness injustices in the world, tension, anger, hopelessness, despair and more, may rise up in you. These feelings may lead to reactive thinking that doesn't contribute to healing nor wise action. Mourning is a universal need. If your culture pushed away grief and its emotional expression, you may have habits that block your access to the aliveness of grief. Read on for ways to give...

Life Force and the Spirituality of Human Needs (6 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 9 hours • 10/9/2013
Audio
6 - 9 hours
10/9/2013
Your needs and your values are your Life Force: the river that flows through your spirit and your life, giving life and light to your being. Explore this river with Robert, and map out routes that support your growth. Gain a deeper understadning and acceptance of the spirituality and beauty of needs and values. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Contributing to Emotional Safety Without Giving Up Honesty

Article • 5 - 7 minutes • 02/2020
Article
5 - 7 minutes
02/2020
Even in a conflict, you can offer emotional safety without being enmeshed -- and you can do this without sliding into strategies to gain power over another. You can prioritize connection, express your intention, make space for mutuality, honestly reveal what you care about and propose a way forward. This means caring for your needs regardless of their response -- and mourning if their response...

Finding Your Way Through Hard Times

Article • 2 - 3 minutes • 09/2020
Article
2 - 3 minutes
09/2020
What have you lost this year during this COVID-19 pandemic? Are you grieving too? Recognition of loss can helped contextualize our emotions. When we can meet grief with understanding, patience and tenderness, when we create space to mourn our losses -- and to begin to process, heal and metabolize loss. This can helps us make sense of change and orient to a new reality. Grief is a longing for...

Steps Towards Meaningful Action

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 07/2019
Article
4 - 6 minutes
07/2019
We're in difficult times - possibly at the brink of extinction. What can we do in response? Some nonlinear steps: A.) Notice what isn't working; B.) Mourn so that we can move "towards" from an expanded space inside; C.) Analyze to bring a fuller understanding of what's happening and what's needed; D.) Reframe our inner and outer narratives; E.) Discern what we can contribute; F.) Care; and G.)...

How To Deal With Ourselves When We Are Less Than Perfect

Practice Exercise • 30 minutes • 10/7/2021
Practice Exercise
30 minutes
10/7/2021
How we treat ourselves when we fall short of our own ideals, desires and hopes can profoundly affect the quality of our lives. Learn how to identify your triggers and reactions, to mourn falling short, and to practice self-connection and self-empathy.