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NVC Resources on Mourning



Celebrating Mourning

Article • 3 - 5 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
In a recent vacation in a Mexican village, I was surprised to find myself in the midst of a community in mourning. Two days before I came, a 21-year-old girl had died in a car accident. Everyone in the town knew her and was openly affected by her death.

Grief and Mourning for the World

Article • 5-7 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5-7 minutes
As you witness injustices in the world, tension, anger, hopelessness, despair and more, may rise up in you. These feelings may lead to reactive thinking that doesn't contribute to healing nor wise action. Mourning is a universal need. If your culture pushed away grief and its emotional expression, you may have habits that block your access to the aliveness of grief. Read on for ways to give...

Is Nonviolent Use of Force an Oxymoron?

Article • 37 - 56 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
37 - 56 minutes
What do we actually mean by “use of force” and what counts as such? Here's a template that will be unpacked in this article: "Use of force is consistent with nonviolence to the extent that we use the least amount of force possible, with the most love possible, aiming at (re)creating conditions for dialogue; that we make the choice using as much nonreactive discernment as possible, with as much...

Connecting with Spiritual Clarity

with Jim Manske
Article • 2 - 3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
2 - 3 minutes
We can cultivate spiritual clarity through bringing attention to our intentions, mourning, gratitude, and the dynamic flow of feelings and needs. This can bring more autonomy, choice and liberate the energy of connection and contribution. We can also awaken our hearts to see the reality that our well-being is mutually interdependent. Read on for more.

Mourning Our Way to Acceptance

Article • 7 - 11 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
7 - 11 minutes
When something happens that we don't like no amount of resentment nor magical thinking will make it disappear. Instead, we can mourn to dissolve our own resistance, resentment, and numbness of resignation. Mourning can allow us to feel pain with acceptance, and without needing to be okay with what happened. Acceptance can bring us to a place where even all the anguish in the world is fully,...

Contributing to Emotional Safety Without Giving Up Honesty

Article • 5 - 7 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 7 minutes
Even in a conflict, you can offer emotional safety without being enmeshed -- and you can do this without sliding into strategies to gain power over another. You can prioritize connection, express your intention, make space for mutuality, honestly reveal what you care about and propose a way forward. This means caring for your needs regardless of their response -- and mourning if their response...

Life Force and the Spirituality of Human Needs (6 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 9 hours
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
6 - 9 hours
Your needs and your values are your Life Force: the river that flows through your spirit and your life, giving life and light to your being. Explore this river with Robert, and map out routes that support your growth. Gain a deeper understadning and acceptance of the spirituality and beauty of needs and values. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: Three Necessities for Integrating NVC

Audio • 1 hour, 11 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
1 hour, 11 minutes
Inspired by a talk given by Marshall Rosenberg, Jim offers an interactive exploration of powerful strategies for making NVC an integral part of your everyday life.

Finding Your Way Through Hard Times

Article • 2 - 3 minutes
Introductory Skill Level
Article
2 - 3 minutes
What have you lost this year? Are you grieving too? Recognition of loss can helped contextualize our emotions. When we can meet grief with understanding, patience and tenderness, when we create space to mourn our losses -- and to begin to process, heal and metabolize loss. This can helps us make sense of change and orient to a new reality. Grief is a longing for what we love.

Steps Towards Meaningful Action

Article • 4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
We're in difficult times - possibly at the brink of extinction. What can we do in response? Some nonlinear steps: A.) Notice what isn't working; B.) Mourn so that we can move "towards" from an expanded space inside; C.) Analyze to bring a fuller understanding of what's happening and what's needed; D.) Reframe our inner and outer narratives; E.) Discern what we can contribute; F.) Care; and G.)...

Dealing with Loss: Engaging with Someone’s Grief for the World

Video • 1 hour, 46 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 46 minutes
When faced with someone’s grief for the world, how do you engage with them in a way that is informed? In this session, Kristin suggests exploring what they might be grieving… what they’re afraid of losing… and what it is that they love.