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NVC Resources with Roxy Manning

Unpacking Observations

Unpacking Observations

Unpacking Observations

with Roxy Manning

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

Many people consider a true observation as something that all can agree on. Some people use the video camera analogy – a true observation is “what a video camera can see and hear.” This perpetuates the myth of the neutral, unbiased observer. There are three layers of observation: External, Internal, and Systemic. Understanding these layers is key to connecting with the depth of the needs, and...

A More Expansive Understanding of Observations

A More Expansive Understanding of Observations

A More Expansive Understanding of Observations

with Roxy Manning

Audio • 11 minutes •

Audio
11 minutes

Listen to Roxy expand our notion of making observations to include our internal observations and social and cultural contexts.

Responding to a Painful Comment

Responding to a Painful Comment

Responding to a Painful Comment

with Roxy Manning

Video • 44 minutes •

Video
44 minutes

How do you carry on a conversation when someone’s comment has had an impact on you? And what happens when two intentions clash because of different perspectives? Here’s Roxy’s powerful, common sense approach.

About Privilege...

About Privilege...

About Privilege...

with Roxy Manning

Article • 8-12 minutes •

Article
8-12 minutes

"Privilege" has many meanings, which can bring confusion. Here are questions essential to navigating challenges in NVC community about "privilege": How to call attention to times when language is used to divide and not connect? Where are people coming from when they say "privilege"? How to focus on using whatever language supports the depth of connection we seek with the heart of the people in...

One World, Many Experiences: Embracing Diversity in Teaching NVC

One World, Many Experiences: Embracing Diversity in Teaching NVC

One World, Many Experiences: Embracing Diversity in Teaching NVC

with Roxy Manning

Article • 9 - 14 minutes •

Article
9 - 14 minutes

In treating everyone the same, we perpetuate inequities. If we want NVC consciousness to spread globally, it's crucial to acknowledge how various demographics are have varying capacities, and are differentially perceived, treated and impacted. Modifying our NVC teachings can increase equity and reduce the frequent judgement, disbelief, denial, insistence, non-resonance and re-marginalization...

Don't Call Me White!

Don't Call Me White!

Don't Call Me White!

with Roxy Manning

Article • 12-18 minutes •

Article
12-18 minutes

The notion of "micro-aggressions" may be levied by those in the dominant class - for example white folks may talk about receiving micro-aggressions when a (legitimately) angry BIPOC references them as "white". This shuts down the conversation and feeds a myth that everyone's pain about race is equal. It doesn't foster dialogue that moves us towards a more equitable, compassionate world. Read on...

Unpacking OFNR - Requests

Unpacking OFNR - Requests

Unpacking OFNR - Requests

with Roxy Manning

Article • 5 - 8 minutes •

Article
5 - 8 minutes

Many believe it's only a true NVC request when we can ask for what we need without urgency or insistence. But what if we're the target of oppression and hate in a world with systemic inequality? Is it still nonviolence to abdicate power by allowing the person enacting harm to be the one to decide whether harm continues? The intensity of the need, degree of harm, and how chronically unmet the...

From Awareness to Action: Creating Bridges Across Differences (6 Session Course)

From Awareness to Action: Creating Bridges Across Differences (6 Session Course)

From Awareness to Action: Creating Bridges Across Differences (6 Session Course)

with Roxy Manning

Audio • 10 -12 hours •

Audio
10 -12 hours

For many people, attempting to connect with others across differences can feel akin to walking through a minefield. With humility, tenderness, and courage, Roxy challenges your perspectives and encourages you to open your heart and mind. Roxy uses concrete examples and visual tools to illustrate complex concepts.

Lonely Together

Lonely Together

Lonely Together

with Roxy Manning

Article • 5 - 7 minutes •

Article
5 - 7 minutes

When conflict or criticism occurs, we can notice two layers of meaning to create connection: the content and the needs the speaker is holding. When we are able to recognize this --and ideally engage open-heartedly, with curiosity, make clear requests, imagining what they want, no matter how their expression was framed -- we have more opportunity to support the longevity of our relationships,...

Empathic, Powerful Responses To COVID-19 Inequities

Empathic, Powerful Responses To COVID-19 Inequities

Empathic, Powerful Responses To COVID-19 Inequities

with Roxy Manning

Article • 15 - 23 minutes •

Article
15 - 23 minutes

The existing unequal risks and impacts people of certain race, class and identities face in society is magnified in these strenuous times -- especially with things such as illness, financial well being, discrimination, attacks, and death. As responsive NVC practitioners we can stand in solidarity with those who are differentially impacted. Read on for this, and additional ways to spot common...

How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Be Helpful in These Transformative Times?

How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Be Helpful in These Transformative Times?

How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Be Helpful in These Transformative Times?

with Roxy Manning

Article • 23 - 34 minutes •

Article
23 - 34 minutes

Amidst racial violence, there are things that NVC can offer. And there are places where NVC culture needs to be more vigilant. Here are examples of where, amidst incredible loss and pain, "allies" and communities commonly (and often unknowingly) create false equivalences, minimization and re-injure those who've been historically marginalized -- even when they offer empathy, or aim to stay...

Viewing Needs Through an Equity Lens

Viewing Needs Through an Equity Lens

Viewing Needs Through an Equity Lens

with Roxy Manning

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

"All humans share the same needs" -- tragically, this idea can hide the reality that some people with less power in society have needs that go unmet to a greater extent, much longer, and with more dire consequences. Often, when the marginalized bring up experiences related to their membership in a certain group, their pain isn't acknowledged, and focus shifts to the listener's discomfort. The...

Calling Out / Calling In

Calling Out / Calling In

Calling Out / Calling In

with Roxy Manning

Article • 12 - 18 minutes •

Article
12 - 18 minutes

When someone's in immense pain and uses words that are hard to hear, see if you can bring in as much attention and compassion as you would to someone who was cut with a sword. Focusing on what's important to them, and not so much on how it was said. This may support greater understanding and healing. Otherwise, we risk prioritizing needs, norms, and inequities of the dominant culture, over...

Increasing diversity in NVC circles

Increasing diversity in NVC circles

Increasing diversity in NVC circles

with Roxy Manning

Article • 9 - 13 minutes •

Article
9 - 13 minutes

Want to increase diversity, plus improve group dynamics and group functioning? There are things you can do to make NVC settings more welcoming to people of color. Learn more about how to use NVC; attend to impact; help the community understand and demonstrate more awareness; factor in historical context; engage; create a more inclusive climate; and more!

The Power of Authenticity + Care

The Power of Authenticity + Care

The Power of Authenticity + Care

with Roxy Manning

Article • 9 - 13 minutes •

Article
9 - 13 minutes

When we're on the receiving end of pain-stimulating assumptions, a microaggression, or prejudice --when we're reactive and resultingly have self-doubt, guilt or shame in ourselves-- is it possible to be intensely authentic while holding care for everyone in the situation? Can we effectively do this even as a third party witnesses to these things? Self-empathy, empathy, and a commitment to...

How Do I Love Those Who Hate Me?

How Do I Love Those Who Hate Me?

How Do I Love Those Who Hate Me?

with Roxy Manning

Article • 6 - 9 minutes •

Article
6 - 9 minutes

There are times when someone judges us, or meets us with prejudice, and its easier for us to respond by hating them, or judging ourselves as not good enough. How can we love another person instead without excusing their actions? Roxy tells us her story with wonderment, grief and mourning.

Why Don’t They Get It?

Why Don’t They Get It?

Why Don’t They Get It?

with Roxy Manning

Article • 5 - 8 minutes •

Article
5 - 8 minutes

What can we do when someone tells us we're contributing to a pattern we're genuinely not seeing (nor experiencing)? What makes these patterns visible to some people but not others? This article addresses these things by talking about what to factor in when receiving feedback; handling feedback; responding relationally; paying attention to social location; considering impact; plus, broadening...

Leadership Lessons from the Civil Rights Movement

Leadership Lessons from the Civil Rights Movement

Leadership Lessons from the Civil Rights Movement

with Roxy Manning

Article • 6 - 9 minutes •

Article
6 - 9 minutes

When we have few external resources (money, time, health connections, etc), we can still empower ourselves and one another. We can strengthen our internal resources, inspire people to join our cause, build solidarity, and influence others who have external resources to support us and our causes.

"I'm Not Good Enough" and Other Leadership Myths

"I'm Not Good Enough" and Other Leadership Myths

"I'm Not Good Enough" and Other Leadership Myths

with Roxy Manning

Article • 7-11 mins •

Article
7-11 mins

Do you yearn to step forward in leadership, but know you're holding back? Clinical psychologist, organizational consultant, and speaker, Roxy Manning, PhD, shows us that more than external factors, its our internal beliefs and fears that provide the main barrier to moving forward. She does this by taking us through three myths of leadership, and weaves in anecdotes to illustrate how tapping our...

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements

with Mary Mackenzie and Roxy Manning

Article • 23-35 mins •

Article
23-35 mins

In this transcript, clinical psychologist and organizational consultant, Roxy Manning, PhD, offers ways for us to increase our capacity to (1) See things that we otherwise wouldn't; (2) Bring more relevance to our groups, organizations and social change movements; (3) Talk openly about microaggressions: statements or (in)actions that (inadvertently) minimize, diminish or negate somebody's...

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