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NVC Resources on Enemy Images

Martin Luther King Jr: Seeing the Redeeming Qualities in Others

Martin Luther King Jr: Seeing the Redeeming Qualities in Others

Martin Luther King Jr: Seeing the Redeeming Qualities in Others

with Eddie Zacapa

Article • 3 - 5 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
3 - 5 minutes

For us to open the door to seemlingly impossible societal changes, we need to find and transform enemy images in order to influence and collaborate with those who seem to be standing in our way. Here's an anecdote to show that this is what lead to Martin Luther King Jr's success in creating social change.

Enemy Images

Enemy Images

Enemy Images

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes

Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: Judging others can affect our ability to communicate effectively with that person, or enjoy the relationship. Translating the static judgments (enemy images) we have of others into our own and others' feelings and needs can help us move into greater understanding, healing, and relief -- which can foster compassion and connection. Read on for more.

Taking on the World: How to Become a Change Agent (12 Session Course)

Taking on the World: How to Become a Change Agent (12 Session Course)

Taking on the World: How to Become a Change Agent (12 Session Course)

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 14 - 18 hours

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
14 - 18 hours

Are you eager to translate your vision of a world where everyone’s needs matter into a tangible reality? Do you long to discover your unique role in responding to the challenges of our times? If, so join Miki for 12 sessions that will propel you on your way! The first session of this course is free for all to enjoy. nvctraining.com

Healing and Reconciliation (7 Session Course)

Healing and Reconciliation (7 Session Course)

Healing and Reconciliation (7 Session Course)

with Ike Lasater and John Kinyon

Audio • 7 - 9 hours

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
7 - 9 hours

Old emotional hurts and pains can easily erupt when you’re in the throes of conflict – even if you’re the mediator. Wouldn’t it be lovely if you could avoid all of that, and instead create more peace and happiness for yourself, your family, your co-workers and your community? The introductory session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy:

How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Be Helpful in These Transformative Times?

How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Be Helpful in These Transformative Times?

How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Be Helpful in These Transformative Times?

with Roxy Manning

Article • 23 - 34 minutes

All Skill Levels
Article
23 - 34 minutes

Amidst racial violence, there are things that NVC can offer. And there are places where NVC culture needs to be more vigilant. Here are examples of where, amidst incredible loss and pain, "allies" and communities commonly (and often unknowingly) create false equivalences, minimization and re-injure those who've been historically marginalized -- even when they offer empathy, or aim to stay...

Enemy Images Process and Exercise

Enemy Images Process and Exercise

Enemy Images Process and Exercise

with Jeff Brown

Practice Exercise • N/A

Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
N/A

Ask the Trainer: "What guidance do you have for working with enemy images? Can you say some things about processes and/or exercises that can bring relief from this trap?"

Responding to the Call of Our Times - Mentoring, Teaching and Coaching with Miki Kashtan

Responding to the Call of Our Times - Mentoring, Teaching and Coaching with Miki Kashtan

Responding to the Call of Our Times - Mentoring, Teaching and Coaching with Miki Kashtan

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 1 hour, 11 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
1 hour, 11 minutes

Listen as Miki works with participants. Topics: how small requests serve interdependence; NVC process vs purpose; how to respond when empathy is used to create distance; coping with verbal aggression, and more! Check it Out.

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome

with Mary Mackenzie

Article • 7-10 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
7-10 minutes

When you or anyone is upset, what could underneath the trigger? There may be more than is immediately visible. This article invites us to explore what it looks like to inquire deeper, take self-responsibility, examine our assumptions, attachments, interpretations, and "certainties" that could be hidden behind the needs that are aching to be attended to...

NVC Mediation Level 1 Training: Mediating Conflict for Yourself and Others (8 Session Course)

NVC Mediation Level 1 Training: Mediating Conflict for Yourself and Others (8 Session Course)

NVC Mediation Level 1 Training: Mediating Conflict for Yourself and Others (8 Session Course)

with John Kinyon

Audio • 11 - 14 hours

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
11 - 14 hours

This telecourse recording provides an experience with the language, skills and consciousness of NVC applied to mediating all types of conflict whether you are one of the people in conflict or you are supporting others in conflict. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

What Are Enemy Images?

What Are Enemy Images?

What Are Enemy Images?

with Liv Larsson

Audio • 5 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
5 minutes

In this compelling interview with Liv Larsson, CNVC Certified Trainer from Sweden, the NVC concept of enemy images — how they develop, what they represent and how they affect our relationships with others and self — is explored.

Feedback without Criticism (5 Session Course)

Feedback without Criticism (5 Session Course)

Feedback without Criticism (5 Session Course)

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 8 - 11 hours

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
8 - 11 hours

This 5-session telecourse recording is designed to support you in learning what makes giving and receiving feedback challenging and how you can turn these experiences into opportunities for learning, connection, and effective functioning. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Integral Awareness and Practice for NVC Practitioners: Deepening NVC with Ken Wilber’s Integral Framework (6 Session Course)

Integral Awareness and Practice for NVC Practitioners: Deepening NVC with Ken Wilber’s Integral Framework (6 Session Course)

Integral Awareness and Practice for NVC Practitioners: Deepening NVC with Ken Wilber’s Integral Framework (6 Session Course)

with Alan Seid

Audio • 7 hours, 30 minutes

Advanced Skill Level
Audio
7 hours, 30 minutes

This telecourse recording gives NVC Practitioners a guided tour of Ken Wilber’s work, a meta-theory (theory of theories) that includes as much knowledge and wisdom from as many sources as possible. You will explore how NVC and Integral Framework mesh, overlap and complement each other.

Parenting and Anger: Walking the Ultimate Path to Peace (5 Session Course)

Parenting and Anger: Walking the Ultimate Path to Peace (5 Session Course)

Parenting and Anger: Walking the Ultimate Path to Peace (5 Session Course)

with John Kinyon and Stephanie Bachmann Mattei

Audio • 6 - 8 hours

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
6 - 8 hours

John and Stephanie combine mediating conflict, parenting and study of brain science to this ground-breaking course recording on how to funnel your anger and your child’s anger toward mutual caring and peace. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy. nvctraining.com

Practical Ideas to Keep Workplace Relationships Satisfying

Practical Ideas to Keep Workplace Relationships Satisfying

Practical Ideas to Keep Workplace Relationships Satisfying

with Sylvia Haskvitz

Article • 4 - 6 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes

Workplace relationships are complex. Each employee brings their unique self to work. Their background, perspective, emotional triggers, and working style. Add to this the dynamics of power relations, and the fact that often workplace communication now takes place at our computer keyboards rather than face-to-face. Sylvia Haskvitz offers practical tips to make today's complex workplace...

Living Without Enemies

Living Without Enemies

Living Without Enemies

with Arnina Kashtan

Audio • 1 hour, 18 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
1 hour, 18 minutes

Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she explores enemy images to increase your capacity to embrace life more fully. Free yourself from the “us-them” paradigm and experience true compassion for the people whose actions most trouble you.

Inner Maps of Conflict

Inner Maps of Conflict

Inner Maps of Conflict

with John Kinyon

Audio • 9 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
9 minutes

In this brief audio segment, John Kinyon offers a guided tour of our inner maps of conflict, including interpersonal mediation, chooser/educator, enemy images and making amends maps.

How to Interrupt

How to Interrupt

How to Interrupt

with Jeff Brown

Trainer Tip • 3 - 5 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3 - 5 minutes

Ask the Trainer: "I feel a lot of fear or nervousness about approaching a neighbor who uses 'wastebasket talk.' Once she's engaged, there are only two techniques that interrupt the flow: leaving or interrupting."

Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: The Power of Forgiveness

Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: The Power of Forgiveness

Taste of Compassionate Leadership Series: The Power of Forgiveness

with Rodger Sorrow

Audio • 48 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Audio
48 minutes

Delve into the power of forgiveness with Rodger Sorrow! Listen in as Rodger explores 3 areas: asking for forgiveness, when it's hard to forgive, and forgiving ourselves.

Houses of Healing: Kathleen Macferran at TEDx

Houses of Healing: Kathleen Macferran at TEDx

Houses of Healing: Kathleen Macferran at TEDx

with Kathleen Macferran

Video • 15 minutes

Beginner Skill Level
Video
15 minutes

Are we really safer when we put those who harm others behind bars and forget about them? Explore turning our prisons into houses of healing and creating connections that lead to greater safety for our communities.

Transforming Anger: The Enemy Image Process and Learning/Growth Spiral

Transforming Anger: The Enemy Image Process and Learning/Growth Spiral

Transforming Anger: The Enemy Image Process and Learning/Growth Spiral

with John Kinyon

Audio • 1 hour, 11 minutes

Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
1 hour, 11 minutes

Transforming anger is a key practice for returning to conscious presence and connection with self and others when triggered into a reaction. Join John Kinyon to learn this essential life skill through the Enemy Image Process and Learning/Growth Spiral.

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