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NVC Resources with Inbal Kashtan

Parenting With A Focus On The Long-Term Goal

Parenting With A Focus On The Long-Term Goal

Parenting With A Focus On The Long-Term Goal

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Notice when you're tempted to wield physical, emotional, and intellectual power to get your children to do what you want. This coercion or force may bring short term ease, but long term it can be counterproductive. Ask yourself “What do I want my child to do?” and “What do I want my child’s reasons for doing it to be?”. Then consider ways to help them connect to their intrinsic...

The NVC Tree Of Life

The NVC Tree Of Life

The NVC Tree Of Life

with Inbal Kashtan

Learning Tool • 1-2 minutes •

Learning Tool
1-2 minutes

This one page colour handout illustrates the focus options or intention options for connection: empathy (verbal and non-verbal), self expression, and self connection (opening our heart to self and/or others). It also offers some suggestions for how to say these things to self and others.

Working With “No” To Deepen Self-Connection

Working With “No” To Deepen Self-Connection

Working With “No” To Deepen Self-Connection

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes •

Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes

Use this exercise to stay in dialogue and connect to needs while facing a “no”. Identify a situation where you have low confidence that you'll get your needs met, and it'll be hard hearing a “no” to your request. Explore your response to the “no” by working with feelings, needs, request and alternate strategies. Thus you can work towards meeting your needs while also releasing the idea that...

Working With Our Mixed “Yes”

Working With Our Mixed “Yes”

Working With Our Mixed “Yes”

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Practice Exercise • 1-2 minutes •

Practice Exercise
1-2 minutes

For this exercise choose a situation in which you have said a “yes” to someone‛s request but you didn't experience your “yes” as given freely or joyfully. Then explore judgements, feelings, needs, and alternate strategies that come up in relation to your “yes”, your “no”, and in relation to what the other person might be experiencing.

Miki Kashtan And Inbal Kashtan’s Additional NVC Key Differentiations

Miki Kashtan And Inbal Kashtan’s Additional NVC Key Differentiations

Miki Kashtan And Inbal Kashtan’s Additional NVC Key Differentiations

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Article • 10 - 15 minutes •

Article
10 - 15 minutes

Here are 14 more key differentiations that are not, at time of publishing this, on the CNVC key differentiations list. They can be used to support people who are on the path of learning and integrating NVC in making sense of their own understanding of their journey and where they are within it. And it can be used to support people who share NVC with others in offering brief information in...

Working With Anger: An Exercise

Working With Anger: An Exercise

Working With Anger: An Exercise

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Practice Exercise • 2 -3 minutes •

Practice Exercise
2 -3 minutes

Fully connecting to the deeper need under the anger can transform and release the anger, without requiring the other person to do anything differently. From there, you can reach an understanding of the other person's experience, feelings and needs underlying the actions that stimulated your anger to re-establish connection with your own and the other person's humanity.

Compassionate Connection: Nonviolent Communication with Children

Compassionate Connection: Nonviolent Communication with Children

Compassionate Connection: Nonviolent Communication with Children

with Inbal Kashtan

Article • 12 - 18 minutes •

Article
12 - 18 minutes

Every interaction with children contains messages about who they are, who we are, and what life is like. By engaging attachment parenting and NVC we give them rare gifts in society: to know their parents well, to discover the effects of their actions without being blamed for them, and to experience the power of contributing to meeting others' needs, and the power to move towards mutually...

What Is NVC? Approaches to NVC

What Is NVC? Approaches to NVC

What Is NVC? Approaches to NVC

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Learning Tool • 2-3 minutes •

Learning Tool
2-3 minutes

Here's a table outlining eight ideas people have regarding what NVC "is". It provides columns for the principle, related needs and strategies of the NVC approach. You can add to the table your own ideas for NVC approaches. Included are five sets of reflection questions to explore what speaks to you, what would expand your range of options, what brings up discomfort, and more.

Transforming Children's Anger

Transforming Children's Anger

Transforming Children's Anger

with Inbal Kashtan

Article • 3 - 5 minutes •

Article
3 - 5 minutes

What parent hasn't experienced a surge of protectiveness when your child hurts their sibling? Our cultural training calls us to immediately take two roles: the judge, determining who was wrong and what the consequences will be, and the police, enforcing the consequences. These thankless jobs often result in frustration, resentment, pain, for all. Read on for an example of how empathy...

Getting Past the Parenting "Shoulds": Compassionate Parenting Starts With Self-Acceptance

Getting Past the Parenting "Shoulds": Compassionate Parenting Starts With Self-Acceptance

Getting Past the Parenting "Shoulds": Compassionate Parenting Starts With Self-Acceptance

with Inbal Kashtan

Practice Exercise • 3 - 5 minutes •

Practice Exercise
3 - 5 minutes

Without self-acceptance any attempt at growth and transformation, even while parenting, can easily become a path to self-judgments and another yardstick against which to measure ourselves as falling short. Instead, we can practice 1 minute a day or more, or while doing other tasks, to develop the self-compassion and self-acceptance needed to grow both new habits and our capacity to meet our...

Crafting Connection Requests

Crafting Connection Requests

Crafting Connection Requests

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Practice Exercise • 2 - 3 minutes •

Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes

Try this four step exercise for making connection requests to support understanding, and to learn what effect your words had on the listener. In this exercise you'll choose a situation where you have clarity about what outcome will really work for you (your solution request), but where you imagine your desired outcome may not work for the other person, and/or are not sure there is sufficient...

Connecting with Ourselves: An NVC Foundation for Inner Trust and Freedom

Connecting with Ourselves: An NVC Foundation for Inner Trust and Freedom

Connecting with Ourselves: An NVC Foundation for Inner Trust and Freedom

with Inbal Kashtan

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

True inner freedom arises from self-connection. Without self-connection, we're mostly acting from habits, and those habits do not necessarily attend to our own needs. Here's a practice you can explore in your daily life to deepen your relationship with yourself, and experience true choice and inner freedom.

Communicating with Children

Communicating with Children

Communicating with Children

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes •

Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes

Trainer tip: Empathy can offer profound learning opportunities to children, expand their feelings and needs vocabulary, and teach them the positive results of valuing everyone’s needs. Read on for a story that illustrates this.

Parenting with Nonviolent Communication

Parenting with Nonviolent Communication

Parenting with Nonviolent Communication

with Inbal Kashtan

Article • 16 - 24 minutes •

Article
16 - 24 minutes

This article aims to discuss shifting fully from power-over to sharing power in families; turning power struggles into dilemmas. It focuses on the topic of living in a partnership paradigm as a family...

Power Relations and Connection Across Differences in US Society: An NVC Perspective (4 Session Course)

Power Relations and Connection Across Differences in US Society: An NVC Perspective (4 Session Course)

Power Relations and Connection Across Differences in US Society: An NVC Perspective (4 Session Course)

with Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning

Audio • 3 hours, 17 minutes •

Audio
3 hours, 17 minutes

Join CNVC Certified Trainers Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning, for a passionate and intimate exploration of how NVC can support personal and social transformation in the area of power relations and social divisions.

Parenting from Your Heart - Q&A

Parenting from Your Heart - Q&A

Parenting from Your Heart - Q&A

with Inbal Kashtan

Audio • 1 hour, 4 minutes •

Audio
1 hour, 4 minutes

Please join us as we remember the work and life of Inbal Kashtan. She offered this parenting Q&A session in NVC Academy's 2013 Parenting Conference.

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Learning Tool • 3 pages •

Learning Tool
3 pages

NVC practice is based on several key assumptions and intentions. When we live based on these assumptions and intentions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy, helping us contribute to a world where everyone’s needs are attended to peacefully.

The Sweetest Game in Town: Contributing Without Praise

The Sweetest Game in Town: Contributing Without Praise

The Sweetest Game in Town: Contributing Without Praise

with Inbal Kashtan

Trainer Tip • 2-3 minutes •

Trainer Tip
2-3 minutes

Inbal answers a parent's question about praise and offers a perspective on how praise translates into the NVC framework.

Connected Parenting: Making Observations

Connected Parenting: Making Observations

Connected Parenting: Making Observations

with Inbal Kashtan

Audio • 7 minutes •

Audio
7 minutes

In this brief audio snippet, CNVC Certified Trainer and founder of the CNVC Parenting Project, Inbal Kashtan, explores observation in contrast to interpretation, and leads an exercise in observation skills.

Connected Parenting: Everyone's Needs Matter

Connected Parenting: Everyone's Needs Matter

Connected Parenting: Everyone's Needs Matter

with Inbal Kashtan

Audio • 4 minutes •

Audio
4 minutes

In this brief audio snippet, CNVC Certified Trainer and founder of the CNVC Parenting Project, Inbal Kashtan, offers a profound insight that can change how we see and relate to our children.

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