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NVC Resources with Miki Kashtan


Can I?

Article • 8 - 12 minutes • 9/28/2021
Article
8 - 12 minutes
9/28/2021
Children often ask adults “Can I…?” This question is so common that we carry it with us into adulthood, often addressing each other in the same way -- and more so with those we see as authority figures. However, let's unpack how this phrasing can reaffirm power differences. And see how, instead, we can transform paradigms of power in a way that invites dialogue, and co-creates an outcome that...

Flow, Decision-Making, And Conflict

Article • 22 - 33 minutes • 9/24/2021
Article
22 - 33 minutes
9/24/2021
Trust, flow, information sharing, and learning is reduced in conflict. Conflict can indicate incapacity in at least one of five systems that every group, community, or organization needs to function. Attending to conflict at systems-level helps reduce over relying on momentary connection that isn’t anchored in decisions about what comes next. When there's enough agreed upon systems within...

Responding to Breakdown of Trust in Police: Capitalism, Racism, and Creative Compassion

Article • 39 - 60 minutes • 09/2020
Article
39 - 60 minutes
09/2020
If we're to have a better future, our biggest task will be to reexamine what the police are, their place in the system, and more. Police violence exists by systemic design. The myths of where the problems and symptoms lie with the police, capitalism, laws, government, citizens, class and racism --plus the relationship between all these-- is what keeps oppression ongoing on a mass scale. For...

Using Role Plays for Sharing NVC (3 Session Course)

Audio • 3 - 4 hours • 12/16/2016
Audio
3 - 4 hours
12/16/2016
You've probably witnessed and participated in role plays that were powerful tools for inspiration, integration, or healing. You've likely also been in contexts where role plays fell flat, leaving people frustrated, confused, or disengaged. If you're sharing NVC with others – or are envisioning yourself going there in the future – you'll want to take this class, where the focus is on how to...

Taking on the World: How to Become a Change Agent (12 Session Course)

Audio • 14 - 18 hours • 01/16/2011
Audio
14 - 18 hours
01/16/2011
Are you eager to translate your vision of a world where everyone’s needs matter into a tangible reality? Do you long to discover your unique role in responding to the challenges of our times? If, so join Miki for 12 sessions that will propel you on your way! The first session of this course is free for all to enjoy. nvctraining.com

Do We Stand a Chance?

Article • 5-7 minutes • 09/2020
Article
5-7 minutes
09/2020
With a world in crisis, steeped in incomprehensible violence, how do we then live? What, if anything, could turn this around? If we're all dying, let us die loving everyone, including ourselves and our former enemies. Let us come together behind wanting everyone to be free. Let us align means with ends as we envision a world that, against all odds, moves towards working for all of life. Let us...

Love in the Time of COVID-19

Article • 7 - 11 minutes • 11/2020
Article
7 - 11 minutes
11/2020
Love keeps the thread of connection intact in times when all around us we see the human fabric becoming threadbare. When we dig deep with love into guessing what others care about that had given rise to their actions, it changes us. It brings us closer to understanding the incomprehensible -- and closer to vision, imagination, humility, curiosity, commonality, and loving action. Read on for...

Finding Systemic Solutions to Systemic Problems

Article • 23 - 34 minutes • 07/2020
Article
23 - 34 minutes
07/2020
Society gives us short-sighted explanations about human nature, life and what’s (un)changeable. The coronavirus pandemic is disrupting that explanation. Our current social order upholds impoverishment, police brutality, and is leading us towards our extinction. Change begins with people mobilizing resources towards a vision that holds systemic care for all, plus engages shared risk and...

Intention and Effect

Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 08/2013
Article
12 - 18 minutes
08/2013
When someone expresses upset about our actions, and we focus on our intention being seen and understood (e.g. "I didn’t mean to hurt you”) it doesn't support the speaker in being heard more deeply with care. Here we'll explore this dynamic in a way that supports more clarity and the possibility of greater personal liberation. Read on for more.

Grounding in Interconnection and Solidarity

Article • 10 - 15 minutes • 04/2020
Article
10 - 15 minutes
04/2020
Human health is connected to health of ecosystems and other societies. Our wellness and liberation is found in our interconnection, kinship, reverence for life, and solidarity. Solidarity erodes through narratives, practices and policies that separate us from each other -- and this impacts societal functioning. The breakdown creates conditions for pandemic, racism, police brutality,...

Is Nonviolent Use of Force an Oxymoron?

Article • 37 - 56 minutes • 05/2020
Article
37 - 56 minutes
05/2020
What do we actually mean by “use of force” and what counts as such? Here's a template that will be unpacked in this article: "Use of force is consistent with nonviolence to the extent that we use the least amount of force possible, with the most love possible, aiming at (re)creating conditions for dialogue; that we make the choice using as much nonreactive discernment as possible, with as much...

Nonviolence In The Face of Rape or Assault

Article • 1 - 2 minutes • 12/2016
Article
1 - 2 minutes
12/2016
Here's a brief anecdote showing how one woman was able transform a situation, where a man was about to assault or rape her. She responded in a creative way that lead them both to see each others' humanity -- navigating them both to safety. As part of her ingenuity he ended up spending the night in her house, in another room.

Addressing Needs Beyond Market Economies

Article • 22 - 31 minutes • 05/2020
Article
22 - 31 minutes
05/2020
Within the pandemic, limitations of our market economies are more visible. Extreme need is exposed when the economy is collapsing and so many people are without jobs. We can now see how it’s possible to direct resources where they are most needed, solely out of care and interconnection. This is a call to explore a more viable way of living, that centers relationship over transaction.

Responding to Opportunity in Extreme Times

Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 04/2020
Article
12 - 18 minutes
04/2020
This pandemic is an immense opportunity, and a dire catastrophe in the making. It’s a crisis within many planetary crises — during which, our habits as individuals, and as a collective, are challenged because they don’t sustain us. Now we are pushed to respond freshly and join forces in ways that seemed impossible before.

Mourning Our Way to Acceptance

Article • 7 - 11 minutes • 04/2013
Article
7 - 11 minutes
04/2013
When something happens that we don't like no amount of resentment nor magical thinking will make it disappear. Instead, we can mourn to dissolve our own resistance, resentment, and numbness of resignation. Mourning can allow us to feel pain with acceptance, and without needing to be okay with what happened. Acceptance can bring us to a place where even all the anguish in the world is fully,...

Abusive Relationships and Nonviolence

Article • 8 - 12 minutes • 03/2012
Article
8 - 12 minutes
03/2012
In order to bring in more nonviolence into the world, we need to take our own needs seriously and recognize that no amount of seeing someone’s innocence would mean putting up with more of their harmful behavior. We need to disentangle compassion towards another from the willingness to tolerate more harmful actions. At times this means finding enough self-love, support, or clarity, to take...

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? - Part 2

Article • 18 - 27 minutes • 02/2020
Article
18 - 27 minutes
02/2020
We can't alone (nor with lone communities) transform the hidden structures of violence and domination. Dialogue alone isn't disruptive enough. We can easily be in dialogue with Trump supporters while the planet burns up, millions are still hungry, and we go extinct. NVC seriously risks reinforcing vast inequities and abuses if we're not radically engaging systemic constraints, and impacts of...

Dialogue with Anyone About Anything (4 Session Course)

Audio • 4 hours • 11/21/2014
Audio
4 hours
11/21/2014
A chosen, interdependent world… In most cases, that's sure not the world we live in today, is it. But it could be the world we live in tomorrow. And you can choose to be part of bringing that better world to life – to be part of a gradual, joyful transformation – simply by using the dynamic, living power of Dialogue. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy

Article • 13 - 19 minutes • 09/2017
Article
13 - 19 minutes
09/2017
We can see throughout many examples in history that when we look for "who" is at fault, and thereby seek social change through shaming that person (or that group), it tends to lead to disastrous long term consequences. Even if it works in the short term. Instead, if we want to end cycles of violence we can seek to understand systemic causes and context of individuals' behaviour. And from there,...