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NVC Resources with Miki Kashtan



Using Role Plays for Sharing NVC (complete course)

Audio • 3 - 4 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
3 - 4 hours
You've probably witnessed and participated in role plays that were powerful tools for inspiration, integration, or healing. You've likely also been in contexts where role plays fell flat, leaving people frustrated, confused, or disengaged. If you're sharing NVC with others – or are envisioning yourself going there in the future – you'll want to take this class, where the focus is on how to...

Taking on the World: How to Become a Change Agent (Complete Course)

Audio • 14 - 18 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
14 - 18 hours
Are you eager to translate your vision of a world where everyone’s needs matter into a tangible reality? Do you long to discover your unique role in responding to the challenges of our times? If, so join Miki for 12 sessions that will propel you on your way! The first session of this course is free for all to enjoy. nvctraining.com

The Blame-Free State (Complete Course)

Audio • 6 - 8 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
6 - 8 hours
Blame can become a terrible habit – one that’s extremely costly both personally, socially and culturally. When you play The Blame Game there are usually only losers. Nobody wins, not really. Learn how to move out of blame into peace – whether it involves others, yourself or situations. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Love in the Time of COVID-19

Article • Read time: 7 - 11 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 7 - 11 minutes
Love keeps the thread of connection intact in times when all around us we see the human fabric becoming threadbare. When we dig deep with love into guessing what others care about that had given rise to their actions, it changes us. It brings us closer to understanding the incomprehensible -- and closer to vision, imagination, humility, curiosity, commonality, and loving action. Read on for...

Intention and Effect

Article • Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
Advanced Skill Level
Article
Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
When someone expresses upset about our actions, and we focus on our intention being seen and understood (e.g. "I didn’t mean to hurt you”) it doesn't support the speaker in being heard more deeply with care. Here we'll explore this dynamic in a way that supports more clarity and the possibility of greater personal liberation. Read on for more.

Is Nonviolent Use of Force an Oxymoron?

Article • Read time: 37 - 56 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 37 - 56 minutes
What do we actually mean by “use of force” and what counts as such? Here's a template that will be unpacked in this article: "Use of force is consistent with nonviolence to the extent that we use the least amount of force possible, with the most love possible, aiming at (re)creating conditions for dialogue; that we make the choice using as much nonreactive discernment as possible, with as much...

Nonviolence In The Face of Rape or Assault

Article • Read time: 1 - 2 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 1 - 2 minutes
Here's a brief anecdote showing how one woman was able transform a situation, where a man was about to assault or rape her. She responded in a creative way that lead them both to see each others' humanity -- navigating them both to safety. As part of her ingenuity he ended up spending the night in her house, in another room.

Addressing Needs Beyond Market Economies. (Part 2/9 from the "Apart and Together" series)

Article • Read time: 22 - 31 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 22 - 31 minutes
Within the pandemic, limitations of our market economies are more visible. Extreme need is exposed when the economy is collapsing and so many people are without jobs. We can now see how it’s possible to direct resources where they are most needed, solely out of care and interconnection. This is a call to explore a more viable way of living, that centers relationship over transaction.

Responding to Opportunity in Extreme Times. (Part 1/9 from the "Apart and Together" series)

Article • Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
This pandemic is an immense opportunity, and a dire catastrophe in the making. It’s a crisis within many planetary crises — during which, our habits as individuals, and as a collective, are challenged because they don’t sustain us. Now we are pushed to respond freshly and join forces in ways that seemed impossible before.

Mourning Our Way to Acceptance

Article • Read time: 7 - 11 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 7 - 11 minutes
When something happens that we don't like no amount of resentment nor magical thinking will make it disappear. Instead, we can mourn to dissolve our own resistance, resentment, and numbness of resignation. Mourning can allow us to feel pain with acceptance, and without needing to be okay with what happened. Acceptance can bring us to a place where even all the anguish in the world is fully, part...

Abusive Relationships and Nonviolence

Article • Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
Intermediate Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 8 - 12 minutes
In order to bring in more nonviolence into the world, we need to take our own needs seriously and recognize that no amount of seeing someone’s innocence would mean putting up with more of their harmful behavior. We need to disentangle compassion towards another from the willingness to tolerate more harmful actions. At times this means finding enough self-love, support, or clarity, to take...

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? - Part 2

Article • Read time: 18 - 27 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 18 - 27 minutes
We can't alone (nor with lone communities) transform the hidden structures of violence and domination. Dialogue alone isn't disruptive enough. We can easily be in dialogue with Trump supporters while the planet burns up, millions are still hungry, and we go extinct. NVC seriously risks reinforcing vast inequities and abuses if we're not radically engaging systemic constraints, and impacts of our...

Dialogue with Anyone About Anything (complete course)

Audio • 4 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
4 hours
A chosen, interdependent world… In most cases, that's sure not the world we live in today, is it. But it could be the world we live in tomorrow. And you can choose to be part of bringing that better world to life – to be part of a gradual, joyful transformation – simply by using the dynamic, living power of Dialogue. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Moving from Fault to Cause: Looking for Systemic Solutions to White Supremacy

Article • Read time: 13 - 19 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 13 - 19 minutes
We can see throughout many examples in history that when we look for "who" is at fault, and thereby seek social change through shaming that person (or that group), it tends to lead to disastrous long term consequences. Even if it works in the short term. Instead, if we want to end cycles of violence we can seek to understand systemic causes and context of individuals' behaviour. And from there,...

Expressing Our Pain Without Blame

Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
The more we can stay present with our hurt, and own our interpretations, we are more likely to express what's important to us without blame and also to become resilient. From there, the listener can have more space to offer their full presence and empathy. Read on for more.

Ego, Mind, and Culture

Article • Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 10 - 15 minutes
The “mind” or our “ego” are often depicted as a static entity, an unchangable part of human nature, and as obstacles or negative parts of ourselves to overcome. This view creates maligning, a split within us, while remaining invisibly part and parcel of authority-based societies --the dominant culture and institutions into which we are born. Instead, I want to advocate an integration of reason...

The Nuts and Bolts of Not Taking Things Personally

Article • Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 12 - 18 minutes
Why is it so difficult to not take things personally? It's because everything reinforces the sense that whatever is being said is indeed about us – both from without and from within. However, we can get better at not taking things personally with a practice of shifting our focus by being open to multiple interpretations, understanding that our reaction is about our own need, and noticing how the...

The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us

Article • Read time: 16 - 24 minutes
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 16 - 24 minutes
We can choose our stories of interpretation, and how to respond. And while stories of self-sufficiency can (to a degree) give us more influence over our own lives, they don't erase oppression, war, nor climate change. When stories omit a lens that includes impacts of interdependence, oppression, and structural inequities, stories can also keep us disconnected and blocked from compassion for self...

Can the Social Order Be Transformed through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication - Part 1 of 2

Article • Read time: 15 - 23 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 15 - 23 minutes
By focusing on NVC process and practice without factoring in the interdependent, systemic dimension we unwittingly diminish the power of NVC. We reinforce the dominant paradigm, rather than challenging it -- making NVC one more tool for compliance. NVC principles can turn against its own purpose in cruel ways. NVC could also empower social change. We'll need our attention on this matter if we...

Becoming a Change Agent Everywhere You Go (Complete Course)

Audio • 6 - 8 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
6 - 8 hours
Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed – or locked into passivity? This course offers you a way out. Learn to change the way you perceive leadership, and you’ll help yourself respond more powerfully and proactively every day of your life – wherever you are – and whomever you’re with! The preview session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

 
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