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NVC Resources on Intention


Intention and Effect

Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 08/2013
Article
12 - 18 minutes
08/2013
When someone expresses upset about our actions, and we focus on our intention being seen and understood (e.g. "I didn’t mean to hurt you”) it doesn't support the speaker in being heard more deeply with care. Here we'll explore this dynamic in a way that supports more clarity and the possibility of greater personal liberation. Read on for more.

Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

Learning Tool • 3 pages • 2008
Learning Tool
3 pages
2008
NVC practice is based on several key assumptions and intentions. When we live based on these assumptions and intentions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy, helping us contribute to a world where everyone’s needs are attended to peacefully.

The NVC Model: A Map to Your Intentions

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 4/2014
Article
4 - 6 minutes
4/2014
The more we practice NVC by “rote” --going through OFNR (“Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests”) on automatic-- the more likely our NVC practice would lead to disconnection. The purpose of our NVC practice is to use this NVC "map" (OFNR) to support us in integrating the consciousness of the NVC (eg. operating with the intention to connect, collaborate, etc). Once we let the map drop away, we...

The Three Most Common Pitfalls in Nonviolent Communication

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 06/2017
Article
5 - 8 minutes
06/2017
We're more likely to sacrifice trust, connection, and relationship quality when (1.) We use NVC to focus on being seen, understood, heard, or meeting our own needs in a way that eclipses our view and understanding of others needs; (2.) We don't clearly examine our intentions; and (3.) We use the NVC form so rigidly that it becomes difficult for others to connect with us authentically.

Zero Step

Video • 54 minutes • 11/12/2016
Video
54 minutes
11/12/2016
Jim and Jori’s Zero Step helps you focus your attention on your intention to connect, and then affirms your intention to live in the present. Listen in as they demonstrate the process — and learn about the benefits of using and cultivating it!

Grounded Responses for Challenging Comments

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 09/2019
Article
3 - 5 minutes
09/2019
When someone responds with painful sarcasm, criticism, or dismissal you can respond with empathy, or with clarity about your intention, need and request. If you're unable to do this, later you can privately write what they said, identify the feelings and needs of both of you, then write possible responses. This can help you remember to stay with your intention and what’s true for you without...

Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before Important Conversations

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 11/2019
Article
5 - 8 minutes
11/2019
What's my intention? What needs am I trying to meet? What do I want the other person to know or understand? How can I say it in a way they are most likely to hear? These are four questions we can use in preparation for an important conversation. Read on for more on this, plus four accompanying practices.

Greeting the Holidays with an Open, Joyful Heart

with Christine King, Faye Landey, Liv Larsson, Mary Mackenzie and Rita Herzog
Audio • 1 hour, 24 minutes • 12/19/2013
Audio
1 hour, 24 minutes
12/19/2013
Please join us as we take a look at what disrupts our joy during the holidays… and discuss the delicious possibilities that abound when we declare our intention to "Greet the Holidays with an Open, Joyful Heart."

How to Interrupt

with Jeff Brown
Trainer Tip • 3 - 5 minutes • Circa 2007
Trainer Tip
3 - 5 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: "I feel a lot of fear or nervousness about approaching a neighbor who uses 'wastebasket talk.' Once she's engaged, there are only two techniques that interrupt the flow: leaving or interrupting."

How I Continue to Mess Up Being an Ally

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 06/2020
Article
5 - 8 minutes
06/2020
Working for racial justice is a shift in perspective—a shift in understanding and empathy that leads to a change in our actions: to listen instead of talk, to follow instead of lead, to yield rather than dominate. And to accept that I will continue to mess up. Part of working to undo racism is having the humility to know when our own understanding is limited. Read on for more this, and how it...

Colloquial NVC Options

Learning Tool • 2 pages • 01/2010
Learning Tool
2 pages
01/2010
How can we express ourselves in a way that supports a natural flow of connection while maintaining a focus on NVC consciousness? This handout from CNVC Certified Trainer, Miki Kashtan, offers seven options that support NVC enthusiasts in evolving from classical to colloquial NVC language.

The Blame-Free State (5 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 10/23/2014
Audio
6 - 8 hours
10/23/2014
Blame can become a terrible habit – one that’s extremely costly both personally, socially and culturally. When you play The Blame Game there are usually only losers. Nobody wins, not really. Learn how to move out of blame into peace – whether it involves others, yourself or situations. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change

Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 12/2017
Article
12 - 18 minutes
12/2017
What could be, more often than not, overlooked when we think about or represent NVC or Marshall Rosenberg's work? This article busts some commonly held ideas and approaches to NVC. It challenges us to widen the lens of what it really means to be "life-serving", or speaking and hearing the "language of life". And it also speaks to how thinking can deepen feeling and relatedness...

Covert Compassion

with Jeff Brown
Audio • 7 minutes • 05/15/2014
Audio
7 minutes
05/15/2014
Interested in bringing NVC consciousness to your workplace, but want to use a natural and conversational way of speaking? Listen in as Jeff describes three specific skills you can apply immediately: #1: How to express your understanding of a co-worker’s needs; #2: How to apply the three dimensions of needs in a business setting; and #3: How to make a Symbiotic Request that acknowledges holding...