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NVC Resources on Attention


The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention

The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention

The Radical Act of Reclaiming Attention

with Oren Jay Sofer
Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 
Article
5 - 8 minutes
Given all that we are facing today as a society and a species, amongst some of the things we need is a well nourished heart. To nourish our hearts we need to discern where to wisely put our attention. Here are three practices to reclaim your attention, and replenish your reserves, so that you have the inner resources to do the work that is calling you. They are: train the mind, nourish the...
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Paying Attention In Troubled Times

Paying Attention In Troubled Times

Paying Attention In Troubled Times

with Rachelle Lamb
Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 
Article
5 - 8 minutes
Our world is facing stressful times. And the more stress you experience, the less resourced you can become. But consider that you're not messed up, but rather, the challenges you bear is a response to manufactured environments and culture that are more hostile than they are kind towards our human souls and bodies. And so, let’s be clear. Let’s be discerning. Let’s be compassionate. Let’s pay...
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Practicing Non-Reactivity

Practicing Non-Reactivity

Practicing Non-Reactivity

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 
Article
3 - 5 minutes
For this practice assume that reactivity is arising any time you are distracted and not enjoying something. Practice throughout the day by focusing your attention for a few moments on something specific that you find pleasing. Notice the sensation of joy or pleasure in your body, and hold attention there longer than usual. This interrupts tension and contraction. Keep remembering to do this....
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Getting Our Need for Love Met

Getting Our Need for Love Met

Getting Our Need for Love Met

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: List specific things that would signify love to you. Based on who the other person is and who you are, how could your need for love be met? Being specific is important. General statements, such as “I just want you to love me” or “I would like you to be more attentive and listen to me more” won’t work. (S)he may already think (s)he is attentive. What would being attentive look like...
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Using an Anchor in Self-Empathy

Using an Anchor in Self-Empathy

Using an Anchor in Self-Empathy

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 
Article
5 - 8 minutes
An anchor awakens parts of you that can access a bigger perspective. Also, it can reduce your reactivity, increase conscious relating, and support self-compassion. An anchor helps you get a little bit bigger than the reactivity you are experiencing so that you can access a wiser discernment. It is simple, and can be done anytime and anywhere. Learn to direct your attention to develop your...
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Zero Step

Zero Step

Zero Step

with Jim & Jori Manske
Video • 54 minutes • 
Video
54 minutes
Jim and Jori’s Zero Step helps you focus your attention on your intention to connect, and then affirms your intention to live in the present. Listen in as they demonstrate the process — and learn about the benefits of using and cultivating it!
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Practicing Unconditional Self-Acceptance When I Want Change

Practicing Unconditional Self-Acceptance When I Want Change

Practicing Unconditional Self-Acceptance When I Want Change

with Robert Gonzales
Audio • 8 minutes • 
Audio
8 minutes
In moments where we would like to see change, personal growth or spiritual transformation, rather than immediately acting to make a change, Robert suggests we practice unconditional self-acceptance through a spacious presence to our inner experience. Robert asks us to give our attention and spacious awareness to our own judgments, inner contractions, and other experiences we often regard as...
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Calling Out / Calling In

Calling Out / Calling In

Calling Out / Calling In

with Roxy Manning
Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 
Article
12 - 18 minutes
When someone's in immense pain and uses words that are hard to hear, see if you can bring in as much attention and compassion as you would to someone who was cut with a sword. Focusing on what's important to them, and not so much on how it was said. This may support greater understanding and healing. Otherwise, we risk prioritizing needs, norms, and inequities of the dominant culture, over...
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Inviting Depth in Conversation

Inviting Depth in Conversation

Inviting Depth in Conversation

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 
Article
3 - 5 minutes
Conversation can become more satisfying with depth. Depth is occurs when connection unfolds towards a depth of intimacy, presence, attunement, sensing -- and silent attentive connection where another is attentively seen and heard. Inviting this level of sharing in conversation relies on at least three major elements: attentive silence, the desire to connect and be known, and focus on present...
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Intention and Effect

Intention and Effect

Intention and Effect

with Miki Kashtan
Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 
Article
12 - 18 minutes
When someone expresses upset about our actions, and we focus on our intention being seen and understood (e.g. "I didn’t mean to hurt you”) it doesn't support the speaker in being heard more deeply with care. Here we'll explore this dynamic in a way that supports more clarity and the possibility of greater personal liberation. Read on for more.
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Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

with Oren Jay Sofer
Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 
Article
4 - 6 minutes
If you’re interested in improving your relationships, advancing in your career, or enhancing your capacity for change in life in general, communication is a powerful lever. Presence, listening, bringing curiosity and care, focusing on what matters, and pausing with silence, are all key. Read on for five foundational and advanced core practices you can start using today to improve your...
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Unconditional Self-Acceptance: A Simple Daily Practice

Unconditional Self-Acceptance: A Simple Daily Practice

Unconditional Self-Acceptance: A Simple Daily Practice

with Robert Gonzales
Practice Exercise • 3 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
3 minutes
Here's a daily self-acceptance practice you can bring into your life whenever you are experiencing pain, tension, contraction, lack of fulfillment, or unmet needs or values. Giving your often undesired experiences space can be a path to greater inner connection and peace.
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Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before Important Conversations

Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before Important Conversations

Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before Important Conversations

with Oren Jay Sofer
Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 
Article
5 - 8 minutes
What's my intention? What needs am I trying to meet? What do I want the other person to know or understand? How can I say it in a way they are most likely to hear? These are four questions we can use in preparation for an important conversation. Read on for more on this, plus four accompanying practices.
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