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Punitive Use of Force

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • Read time: 1-2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
Read time: 1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: What is motivating your (in)actions? Are you doing something in the name of supporting deeper heartfelt needs, free of judgement or blame? Or are you bringing in consequences based on viewing the other person as having "bad behaviour"?

Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

Introductory Skill Level • Learning Tool • N/A
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
N/A
This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?”

How to Survive the Holidays: 6 Communication Tips

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read Time: 6 - 10 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read Time: 6 - 10 minutes
For many, spending time with relatives over the holidays may be challenging. In addition to the love and care we may feel, family gatherings can bring up old hurts or expose painful differences. How many family meals have been marred by tense silence or devolved into harsh argument?

Increasing Your Capacity to Feel

Introductory Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Introductory Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
What's really going on underneath the surface when we bring or encounter blame, judgements, pain -- and thereby the inability to empathise, be present, attuned, or responsive? Why does this happen even if one or more people in a relationship dynamic is working hard at bringing in an NVC response? This article addresses these and more questions from the perspective of how our brains are affected...

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements (Part 1 of 2)

with Mary Mackenzie and Roxy Manning
All Skill Levels • Article • Read time: 23-35 mins
All Skill Levels
Article
Read time: 23-35 mins
In this transcript, clinical psychologist and organizational consultant, Roxy Manning, PhD, offers ways for us to increase our capacity to (1) See things that we otherwise wouldn't; (2) Bring more relevance to our groups, organizations and social change movements; (3) Talk openly about microaggressions: statements or (in)actions that (inadvertently) minimize, diminish or negate somebody's...

Transforming Power Relations: The Invisible Revolution

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • 9 pages
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
9 pages
Miki explains how teachers and administrators can become more effective in relating to themselves, other faculty and staff, and they can contribute more to students' ability to feel connected and energized. Nonviolent Communication provides specific tools to empower ourselves and others to live more in line with our values and deeper needs.

Bridging the Gap: Practical Support for Parents of Grown Sons and Daughters (Complete Course)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 4 - 6 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
4 - 6 hours
Learn tools to help you reconnect and repair your relationship with your adult children. Whether the issues are estrangement, lack of trust, conflict, dependence, miscommunication or any other challenge that impacts you with your grown sons and daughters, your heart will find comfort and ease through this course. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Let it RAIN!

with Jim Manske
Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5 - 8 minutes
This article outlines a four-part transformation process to help us recognize what's giving rise to our suffering and resentment -- and transform it into more freedom, creativity, and choice.

Self Responsibility

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 6 - 9 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 6 - 9 minutes
Being self-responsible is about empowerment — via noticing what is potentially in our locus of control, getting to know ourselves better, looking at our own role in how we experience life, and making conscious choices to act within our own power. This requires us to be mindful in relating our stories to our needs. Read on for more on this, and the various pifalls within thinking about self...

Bridging the Gap: Practical Support for Parents of Grown Sons and Daughters (Part 4)

Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:51 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:51 hours:minutes
Learn tools to help you reconnect and repair your relationship with your adult children. Whether the issues are estrangement, lack of trust, conflict, dependence, miscommunication or any other challenge that impacts you with your grown sons and daughters, your heart will find comfort and ease through this course.

 
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