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Creating Real Challenges—Are you Game?

Intermediate Skill Level • Article • Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
Read time: 4 - 6 minutes
A challenge is an expansion of making a clear, positive doable request — and, when given, the person feels deeply seen by the challenger. A challenge isn't just about getting someone to take action on something important to them; it's a fierce form of empathy that supports people in connecting with their life force, and integrates it into their lives with action. A real challenge is tied to the...

Intrinsic Need for Respect

with Susan Skye
Intermediate Skill Level • Audio • 00:13 hours:minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
00:13 hours:minutes
In this short but profound audio, Susan Skye unpacks the various ways one may view (and experience) the need for respect. By deepening your understanding of respect, you will enjoy greater choice and clarity in your own experience of respect and in making a request of others.

The Needs Underneath a Need for “Fairness”

Advanced Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 2 pages
Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 pages
Ask the Trainer: "I'm practicing with 'transforming the pain of unmet needs into the beauty of the need.' In identifying my unmet needs, I come up with 'fairness.' However, fairness isn't on the needs list! I'm wondering what needs might be underneath 'fairness.'"

Are You Living Your True Potential?

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5-8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5-8 minutes
How can we live up to our true potential, a life filled with relationships and experiences that truly meet our needs? In this article, Mary offers us a way to bring about inner transformation that can lead to seeing ourselves, others and life differently -- for greater agency, empowerment and choice.

The Cause of Our Feelings

with John Kinyon and Miki Kashtan
Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 3 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3 pages
Ask the Trainer: “I would love some clarity about the NVC perspective on the cause of our feelings. It seems to me that my needs may be met or not, but the cause of my painful feelings is my story around the situation.”

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

with Jim Manske
Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 5-8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 5-8 minutes
As a beginner in NVC, you might find your attempts to practice your NVC only increases conflict, disconnection and upset in your interactions with people. Or perhaps people start seeing you as inauthentic. From there, you may find yourself sinking deeper into self-judgement. In this article, Jim Manske shows us how to shift these potential unintended outcomes, into deeper NVC consciousness that...

Navigating Conflict (Complete Course)

Beginner Skill Level • Audio • 6 - 9 hours
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
6 - 9 hours
Join veteran Mediators and Facilitators, Jori and Jim Manske in using Nonviolent Communication and mediation skills for transforming conflict into connection between yourself and others. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

Prevent Misunderstanding - One Simple Strategy

Beginner Skill Level • Article • Read time: 2-3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
Read time: 2-3 minutes
Misunderstandings can be painful. We can easily avoid this by checking what the other person understood from what we said, and ask the other person to do the same. Doing this is especially important when it comes to planning, shared decision-making, and when emotions are strong. Also, the more someone knows you, the more they think they already know what you mean -- which can get in the way of...

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 13. The Eight Most Powerful Things You Can Do to Build an Inspiring Relationship

Beginner Skill Level • Trainer Tip • 4 pages
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
4 pages
What are the most powerful things I can do to build an inspired relationship? I answered the question with romantic relationships in mind; however, I believe the answer below applies to all important relationships.

 
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