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NVC Resources on Empathy


Empathy For Children

Empathy For Children

Empathy For Children

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: The better you connect with your child’s needs, the more you will defuse the power struggle. If he wants to behave in a way you don't like, start by understanding what's going on with him by making empathic guesses. Doing this out loud can expand your child’s emotional vocabulary and show that his needs matter to you, and build his trust. Once you learn what's going on with him,...
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NVC Life Hacks 23: Embodied NVC Part Two Empathy Skills

NVC Life Hacks 23: Embodied NVC Part Two Empathy Skills

NVC Life Hacks 23: Embodied NVC Part Two Empathy Skills

with Shantigarbha Warren
Video • 5 minutes • 
Video
5 minutes
Welcome to Part Two of our 3 part Embodied NVC Life Hack series. Last time we looked at rewiring your brain to navigate our primitive mind and sometimes default reactions such as fight, flight or freeze when faced with conflict. In this episode, we're going beyond self-empathy and looking at ways we can empathize with the other person.
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Empathy And Privilege In An Interdependent World

Empathy And Privilege In An Interdependent World

Empathy And Privilege In An Interdependent World

with Miki Kashtan
Article • 16 - 24 minutes • 
Article
16 - 24 minutes
Whether privileged or not, its not easy to see the humanity of others in different social locations, especially if their actions have unwanted impacts and have left behind our humanity. Aiming for “both sides hearing each other” empathically, and to focus on effect rather than intent when we have more privilege, may theoretically lead to liberation. Yet, in practice it can reinforce rather than...
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The Tao of Empathy: Breath, Body, Needs, Self Connection Exercise

The Tao of Empathy: Breath, Body, Needs, Self Connection Exercise

The Tao of Empathy: Breath, Body, Needs, Self Connection Exercise

with John Kinyon
Video • 9 minutes • 
Video
9 minutes
John introduces his Self-Connection Exercise as a mindful way of coming to awareness via OFNR. Breath: immediately observable, a reminder to observe. Body: feeling the body, awareness of sensations. Needs: an experience of wholeness that expands awareness of the totality of experience. Listen.
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Self-Empathy for Self-Evolution (6 Session Course)

Self-Empathy for Self-Evolution (6 Session Course)

Self-Empathy for Self-Evolution (6 Session Course)

with Kelly Bryson
Audio • 7-10 hours • 
Audio
7-10 hours
Join Kelly Bryson and go Psychologically and Spiritually Spelunking into your own Caverns of Consciousness, using the inner mining tools of NVC Self-Empathy, Progoff Journaling processes, Focusing, and individual work. Get self-empathy tools that will help you rejuvenate yourself and your relationships.
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What Could I Say or Do When Someone Does Not Talk?

What Could I Say or Do When Someone Does Not Talk?

What Could I Say or Do When Someone Does Not Talk?

with Jim & Jori Manske
Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
Can you give me advice on what to do when people won't talk to me? I find it very difficult to discover what their needs are that aren't being met! Also, how can I be effective with people who don't actually want to think about why they're being the way they are?
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Empathy in the Face of Powerful Structures

Empathy in the Face of Powerful Structures

Empathy in the Face of Powerful Structures

with Dian Killian
Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 
Article
12 - 18 minutes
Here's an inspiring story of one citizen (the author) who faced a police officer and judge in court to contest a transit ticket... and inspired structural changes in the way one aspect of New York City transit operates. She inspires change with her application of empathy for self and others, acknowledgement, connecting requests -- and an inspiring vision of understanding, shared reality and...
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When We Need Empathy the Most

When We Need Empathy the Most

When We Need Empathy the Most

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: On a scale of 1 to 10, how is your emotional bank account? If it’s lower than you like, consider what you can do right now to bring it closer to balance. Everyone in your life, and most especially you, will benefit from this. Even 15 mins of empathy may nourish you with accompaniment and perspective, even when the issues or circumstances in your life are the same.
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Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous

Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous

Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous

with Rachelle Lamb
Article • 10 - 15 minutes • 
Article
10 - 15 minutes
Getting "feel good" empathy can become an addiction. Even to the point of seeing people who don't offer empathy as "not being NVC". Rachelle urges us to notice how this view of NVC can be seductive, and even dangerous. In this article, she explains how we can expand our compassionate awareness when we go beyond equating NVC with harmony and empathy. She asks us to become more open to noticing...
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Your Resonant Self: Transforming the Critical Inner Voice (6 Session Course)

Your Resonant Self: Transforming the Critical Inner Voice (6 Session Course)

Your Resonant Self: Transforming the Critical Inner Voice (6 Session Course)

with Sarah Peyton
Audio • 8 - 11 hours • 
Audio
8 - 11 hours
Does your inner dialog sound supportive and encouraging - or more like you’re being yelled at by a critical task-master? Gain an understanding of the neuroscience of the left and right hemispheres of the human brain and locate just where this savage inner voice is coming from and how to respond to it with empathy.
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Rooms in the Same House – Interweaving NVC and Buddhism (6 Session Course)

Rooms in the Same House – Interweaving NVC and Buddhism (6 Session Course)

Rooms in the Same House – Interweaving NVC and Buddhism (6 Session Course)

with Roberta Wall & Barbara Bash
Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 
Audio
6 - 8 hours
Find renewed aliveness and connection in your daily life through NVC and Buddhist Mindfulness practices. NVC can be lived as a Mindfulness Practice and consciousness that helps us be more present, open and loving to the flow of life within ourselves and in relation to others. Buddhist principles and practices can add depth and insight to NVC practice and consciousness.
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Tips for the Road Series: Tip 8. Practice Self-Empathy with Your Whole Body

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 8. Practice Self-Empathy with Your Whole Body

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 8. Practice Self-Empathy with Your Whole Body

with Eric Bowers
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
In our fast-paced, busy lives it is tempting to practice NVC mostly with the left hemisphere of the brain, thinking through the steps quickly without slowing down to connect more deeply with feelings and needs. Don't miss an opportunity to integrate the hemispheres of the brain and the valuable information from the neural networks in the heart and gut.
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Empathy And Strategies For Overwhelm

Empathy And Strategies For Overwhelm

Empathy And Strategies For Overwhelm

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
Practice Exercise • 4-6 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
4-6 minutes
Making decisions from overwhelm can be costly for you and others. Instead, to get distance name overwhelm as it comes. Apply self-compassion. Be suspicious of your impulse to withdraw. Find ways to meet your needs. Tell others about your overwhelm. This may allow more support, connection and trust-building. Plan what to do to meet your needs next time you're overwhelmed. Tweak your plan.
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