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NVC Mediation Level 1 Training: Mediating Conflict for Yourself and Others (8 Session Course)

Audio • 11 - 14 hours
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
11 - 14 hours
This telecourse recording provides an experience with the language, skills and consciousness of NVC applied to mediating all types of conflict whether you are one of the people in conflict or you are supporting others in conflict. The first session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy.

I'll Work on Me, You Work on You

with Jim Manske
Article • 5-8 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5-8 minutes
As a beginner in NVC, you might find your attempts to practice your NVC only increases conflict, disconnection and upset in your interactions with people. Or perhaps people start seeing you as inauthentic. From there, you may find yourself sinking deeper into self-judgement. In this article, Jim Manske shows us how to shift these potential unintended outcomes, into deeper NVC consciousness that...

The Price of Nice

Article • 12 - 16 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
12 - 16 minutes
Have you been nice? Well then you must be enjoying the reward: depression, intermittent explosiveness, job meaninglessness, ambiguous anxiety, low resentment and subtle self hate. The antidotes: honesty, passion and compassion.

The Value of Taking a Step Back

Article • 6 - 9 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes
Have you ever gotten a fishing line all tangled up? You got so frustrated you just started yanking on the different loops of line, which of course made the knots and tangles even tighter and more difficult to untangle. Wouldn’t it be great if you could notice the minute you were starting to tangle things up in a discussion with your loved one?

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 4. Invite People to Say No

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
When asking for support from another, you are most likely to enjoy receiving that support when the person giving support is giving from the heart—from a place of joy or delight. Inviting them to say "no" is a way of encouraging an authentic response, a response you can trust more fully.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 10. Take It to the Trees

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
One of the most important things you can do to live a meaningful and rewarding life filled with vitality is reclaim your emotions. Eric offers a tip to reclaim your emotions, rescuing you from the numb and deadening state of “fine."

Where Do Jackal Voices Come From?

Article • 6 - 9 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes
The human brain is a conservative organ that comprises different systems with varying degrees of conscious awareness, which evolved in three basic stages of human history (the lizard-squirrel-monkey brain.) In my understanding, we could say, the brain has strong needs for understanding, order, predictability and meaning. In fact, one of its key functions is to process experiences, and predict...

Healing the Blame that Binds

Article • 4 -6 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 -6 minutes
Blame is the game that protects me from the understanding that the cause of all my emotional distress, fear, shame and guilt comes from the part of me I call "the inner voice." As long as I keep the big bony finger of blame pointed in your direction, I can remain unaware of the fact that it is what I am telling myself about your behavior that is stimulating my painful reactions.

Dealing with Hecklers and People You Don’t Like When Facilitating

Video • 1 hour, 3 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 3 minutes
Listen to Mary tackle one of the greatest challenges of facilitating an NVC group: How do you deal with hecklers and people you don't like? Mary offers insightful tips and helpful guidance.

Dialogues with Our Shame

Video • 45 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
45 minutes
During this session, Giorgos will walk you through a series of short, meditative practices and exercises designed to help you practice noticing, experiencing, and bringing shame to light — transforming it from a burden to a playful fellow as well as a portal to self-knowledge and internal freedom. You'll discover how the deep power of human connectedness can dilute the fogginess of sensitive...

Dealing with Loss: Engaging with Someone’s Grief for the World

Video • 1 hour, 46 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 46 minutes
When faced with someone’s grief for the world, how do you engage with them in a way that is informed? In this session, Kristin suggests exploring what they might be grieving… what they’re afraid of losing… and what it is that they love.

Demands vs Requests

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Trainer tip: Demands are more likely to limit the possibilities and create distance between people. The trick to asking something as a request is valuing everyone’s needs equally. When you value everyone’s needs equally, then you are more willing to come to solutions that satisfy everyone. It thus opens possibilities and helps build connection.

 
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