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NVC Resources on Responsibility


Tips for the Road Series: Tip 4. Invite People to Say No

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
When asking for support from another, you are most likely to enjoy receiving that support when the person giving support is giving from the heart—from a place of joy or delight. Inviting them to say "no" is a way of encouraging an authentic response, a response you can trust more fully.

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 11. Catching Hearts

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
When we take a leap in life and put our hearts out into the world in new or bigger ways—sharing a song, dance, or poem, writing a book, competing at a sporting event, giving a speech, and so on—there is greater potential for aliveness but also for shame and pain

Rooms in the Same House – Interweaving NVC and Buddhism (6 Session Course)

with Roberta Wall & Barbara Bash
Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 
Audio
6 - 8 hours
Find renewed aliveness and connection in your daily life through NVC and Buddhist Mindfulness practices. NVC can be lived as a Mindfulness Practice and consciousness that helps us be more present, open and loving to the flow of life within ourselves and in relation to others. Buddhist principles and practices can add depth and insight to NVC practice and consciousness.

The Heart and Science of Empathy (5 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 
Audio
6 - 8 hours
Join CNVC Certified Trainer Eric Bowers in journeying through the world of Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) as he expands on the theories and tools from his book Meet Me In Hard-to-Love Places: The Heart and Science of Relationship Success. You'll discover why IPNB and NVC complement each other so well, especially in the powerful practice of Somatic-Based Resonant Empathy.

Change Is Afoot: A New Paradigm For First Responses After Difficult Events

Article • 9 - 14 minutes • 
Article
9 - 14 minutes
One way to understand trauma is it means we got a blow greater than our nervous system can tolerate – then we move into hyperarousal, and then hypoarousal or dissociation. This cycle can continue long after. Here, we're not able to fully process emotional cues, information, our body, and others. It's important we consider re-writing the cultural paradigm of separation so that our trauma doesn't...

Empathic, Powerful Responses To COVID-19 Inequities

Article • 15 - 23 minutes • 
Article
15 - 23 minutes
The existing unequal risks and impacts people of certain race, class and identities face in society is magnified in these strenuous times -- especially with things such as illness, financial well being, discrimination, attacks, and death. As responsive NVC practitioners we can stand in solidarity with those who are differentially impacted. Read on for this, and additional ways to spot common...

Understanding Selfishness, Self-Responsibility, and Self-Care

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 
Article
6 - 9 minutes
What we refer to as "selfishness" is action taken without concern for the impact or cost of that action. Self-responsibility, on the other hand, includes actively living from the truth of interdependence, care for your and others needs, thriving of all, and more. We can access clarity of self care when we have open flexibility, curiosity, and responsiveness. Read on for more on the indicators...

Shaping the NVC Community Response to the Russia-Ukraine War

Video • 1 hour, 39 minutes • 
Video
1 hour, 39 minutes
Hear first-hand how Ukrainian trainers are supporting their communities Discover practical ways the worldwide NVC community may support the Ukrainian people Listen as the trainers discuss the difference between NVC philosophy and NVC reality in crisis situations Begin to consider how we can mobilize the global NVC community “capital” when there is crisis

Climate Anxiety Isn’t a Disease. It’s a Normal Response to a World on Fire.

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 
Article
3 - 5 minutes
There are healers and therapists who see climate anxiety as a pathology. Instead, we can see it as an understandable reaction to the magnitude of the environmental problems that surround us. And we can see it as a subset of eco-anxiety: a feeling of worry, nervousness or unease triggered by an awareness of the ecological threats facing the earth due to climate catastrophe. Read on for tips on...

Feelings Are a Response to Our Met or Unmet Needs

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Our particular needs and expectations in the moment, influences how we feel. So if you are feeling hurt, sad, angry, or disappointed, try to consider what your unmet needs are, and see if there are other ways you can get them met. Today, track how your needs affect your feelings.

How To Stop Arguing

Article • 9-13 minutes • 
Article
9-13 minutes
Transform arguments with these steps: take responsibility for your mind, increase your capacity for discomfort, slow down, show up and remember your values, offer understanding, take risks, and speak from your heart. Learning new skills takes time, energy and effort. However, it’s entirely possible to radically shift the way we communicate. The key is patience, persistence, and taking it one...

How I Changed My Relationship to Time

Article • 8 - 12 minutes • 
Article
8 - 12 minutes
What would happen if you considered that time is a concept, and that it doesn't rule your life? What would it mean to make all choices based on needs and not on time? Do you obey the external rhythm of the clock over and above the internal rhythm of your life energy? This is an invitation into more responsibility, awareness, honesty, choice and freedom.

Keys To Building Trust After Broken Agreements

Practice Exercise • 3 - 5 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
3 - 5 minutes
Building trust involves each person taking responsibility for what they want by identifying their needs, and making specific and doable requests that open a negotiation. Identify in what contexts you already have trust, what you want to be able to trust, and how you may be blocking or cultivating that trust. Making requests for specific actions of what to do differently can also help.

A Positive Relationship With Reactivity

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes
With practice we can prevent reactivity from overtaking and harming: notice signs of reactivity, bring compassion to it, see reactivity as the misperception of threat and a distortion of what's happening, plus engage and pursue connection and the clarity to weaken reactive impulses. In taking responsibility like this overtime, you can live from your values and from care. And life can get easier...