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NVC Resources on Vulnerability

How to Invite Shared Vulnerability

How to Invite Shared Vulnerability

How to Invite Shared Vulnerability

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 3-4 minutes •

Article
3-4 minutes

Shared vulnerability can build more intimacy, mutuality, being seen and heard, empathy, or community. Inviting shared vulnerability means earning another’s trust that you can consistently offer attentive, curious, and compassionate listening. Here are four strategies to invite shared vulnerability.

Vulnerability as a Spiritual Path

Vulnerability as a Spiritual Path

Vulnerability as a Spiritual Path

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 3 pages •

Article
3 pages

What is a good baby? If you have been raised in a Western culture, chances are you know the answer right away (whether or not you agree with it). A good baby is one that doesn't cry! The training against vulnerability starts very early in life.

How To Create Supportive Conditions For Sharing Vulnerably

How To Create Supportive Conditions For Sharing Vulnerably

How To Create Supportive Conditions For Sharing Vulnerably

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Practice Exercise • 5 - 7 minutes •

Practice Exercise
5 - 7 minutes

Sharing more vulnerably provides opportunities for fulfilling connection. As social beings we rely on feedback to see our effect on others. We can get that feedback through body language, facial cues and words. To expand your capacity to share more vulnerably you can create supportive conditions and timing. You can ask for feedback by making in-the-moment requests of others and yourself before...

Expressing Vulnerable Honesty While Fearful

Expressing Vulnerable Honesty While Fearful

Expressing Vulnerable Honesty While Fearful

with Arnina Kashtan

Audio • 30 minutes •

Audio
30 minutes

What do you do when you are thinking that it's not "emotionally safe" to speak honestly? Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she explores this topic with a workshop participant.

Overcoming Unworthiness to Express Vulnerable Honesty

Overcoming Unworthiness to Express Vulnerable Honesty

Overcoming Unworthiness to Express Vulnerable Honesty

with Arnina Kashtan

Audio • 9 minutes •

Audio
9 minutes

Does unworthiness keep you from expressing vulnerably and honestly? Afraid of being "found out?" Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she explores this topic with a workshop participant to discern stories from needs, recognize the tension between self-acceptance and personal development and sit with the discomfort of self-acceptance.

Integrating Inner And Outer

Integrating Inner And Outer

Integrating Inner And Outer

with Robert Gonzales

Practice Exercise • 1-2 minutes •

Practice Exercise
1-2 minutes

This exercise brings forth presence, awareness, and witnessing regarding what you observe. And also the inner form of experiencing: thinking, feeling, sensing, longing, and noticing any inner resistance. This exercise is designed to allow self-compassion to clear the inner space, and to help you feel it as a flow of energy, presence to the other, and bring in a more relaxed experience and more...

Wishing For More Maturity & Skill In Others

Wishing For More Maturity & Skill In Others

Wishing For More Maturity & Skill In Others

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Practice Exercise • 3-5 minutes •

Practice Exercise
3-5 minutes

In some situations you might expect people to show a degree of maturity or skill. When they don't, your anger-fueled response doesn't lead to lasting improved relationship change. Instead, find someone who retains focus on your feelings and needs rather than colluding with you about what should(n't) be. This can support greater acceptance, grief, vulnerability, groundedness and discernment,...

Practice Tracking Various Living States of Being

Practice Tracking Various Living States of Being

Practice Tracking Various Living States of Being

with Robert Gonzales

Practice Exercise • 3 - 5 minutes •

Practice Exercise
3 - 5 minutes

Use this exercise to identify what state you're in at any moment, and as an exercise to grow capacity for self-awareness and self-compassion. Identify what happened, thoughts, sensations, feelings, longings, etc. Includes a table that outlines three states of being: Protective/Defensive, Vulnerability, Essence.

The Freedom of Committing to a Path

The Freedom of Committing to a Path

The Freedom of Committing to a Path

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 5 - 8 minutes •

Article
5 - 8 minutes

In June, 1996, I had an epiphany. In a motel room in Indiana, the night before returning home from a solo camping trip in Michigan and Canada, I discovered how much I had lost in my life because of so fiercely protecting myself. Up until that day, bringing forth my vulnerable self was to be avoided at all costs, which kept me numb much of the time, disconnected from myself and from much of...

Speaking the Unspoken Conversation (6 Session Course)

Speaking the Unspoken Conversation (6 Session Course)

Speaking the Unspoken Conversation (6 Session Course)

with Arnina Kashtan

Audio • 7 hours, 10 minutes •

Audio
7 hours, 10 minutes

Reveal, own and share the inner chatter that plays over and over in your head, in between the words you speak aloud. Arnina Kashtan will help you discover, embrace and open up the places inside that you’ve hidden and judged.

The Value of Transparency

The Value of Transparency

The Value of Transparency

with Kelly Bryson

Audio • 5 minutes •

Audio
5 minutes

In this inspiring audio, Kelly discusses the true value of transparency and "truth." He defines truth as the whole truth, including our inner experience; this could also be called self transparency.

Courage

Courage

Courage

with David K Weinstock

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

In listening to what our emotions tell us, and embracing what we do not know, we begin the path of courage. Even though our culture tells us not to, revealing our imperfections is where we can deeply connect. Living our lives more courageously honest, can shift us towards inspiring one another. Read on for how some people experienced this in coming together to transform one woman's heroine...

Diving Deeper Into the Spiral of Life (6 Session Course)

Diving Deeper Into the Spiral of Life (6 Session Course)

Diving Deeper Into the Spiral of Life (6 Session Course)

with Robert Gonzales

Audio • 6 hours, 2 minutes •

Audio
6 hours, 2 minutes

We invite you to dive into this voyage, where you and Robert will swim ever deeper into the Spiral of Life, coming face-to-face with your divine Life Force – that essential living energy that permeates all.

Opening to Intimacy

Opening to Intimacy

Opening to Intimacy

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes •

Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes

Trainer tip: Do you have behavioral patterns that block intimacy? When we are feeling our most vulnerable, we often want intimacy but also tend to keep it at bay. Acknowledge your need for intimacy, and find people you can trust to love you as you are.

Moving Out of the Hallway

Moving Out of the Hallway

Moving Out of the Hallway

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer Tip: The change you're looking for begins with a single step.

Consciousness, NVC, and Navigating Inner and Outer Conflicts

Consciousness, NVC, and Navigating Inner and Outer Conflicts

Consciousness, NVC, and Navigating Inner and Outer Conflicts

with John Kinyon

Audio • 35 minutes •

Audio
35 minutes

Listen to John talk about the inner and outer mediation process, the importance of the "3rd chair," and an experience of working with Pakistani elders.

Inviting Depth in Conversation

Inviting Depth in Conversation

Inviting Depth in Conversation

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 3 - 5 minutes •

Article
3 - 5 minutes

Conversation can become more satisfying with depth. Depth is occurs when connection unfolds towards a depth of intimacy, presence, attunement, sensing -- and silent attentive connection where another is attentively seen and heard. Inviting this level of sharing in conversation relies on at least three major elements: attentive silence, the desire to connect and be known, and focus on present...

An Introduction to Self-Compassion (10 Session Course)

An Introduction to Self-Compassion (10 Session Course)

An Introduction to Self-Compassion (10 Session Course)

with Robert Gonzales

Audio • 11 hours, 12 minutes •

Audio
11 hours, 12 minutes

In this 10 session telecourse recording, world renowned CNVC Certified Trainer Robert Gonzales will help you discover a new level of self-acceptance that can lead to profound emotional healing and a deeper spiritual presence.

Keep It Real, Warts and All

Keep It Real, Warts and All

Keep It Real, Warts and All

with Alan Rafael Seid

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Our craving for love, acceptance, and approval can lead us to show only parts of ourselves and hide others. This lack of authenticity breeds disconnection and mistrust, leading to those very needs not being met. Once I accept myself, being authentic is easier. And then people in my life can love me for who I really am, warts and all.

Living the Fullness of Life (9 Session Course)

Living the Fullness of Life (9 Session Course)

Living the Fullness of Life (9 Session Course)

with Robert Gonzales

Video • 14-18 hours •

Video
14-18 hours

How do we live each and every day from the “living energy of needs” – with the unimpeded fullness of life’s energies flowing through us, regardless of the conflicts or life circumstances we may be experiencing? Through developing deep self-compassion. How can we experience our inner world from a place of utter and total compassion? When we practice compassionate self-care, we create an inner...

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