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Four Questions to Ask Yourself Before Important Conversations

Article •  5 - 8 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes

What's my intention? What needs am I trying to meet? What do I want the other person to know or understand? How can I say it in a way they are most likely to hear? These are four questions we can use in preparation for an important conversation. Read on for more on this, plus four accompanying practices.


Things We Know and Forget

Learning Tool •  1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Learning Tool
1 - 2 minutes

Here's a list of 13 reminders to help you prepare for a challenging dialogue...


Four Steps of Nonviolent Communication

Learning Tool •  2 - 3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Learning Tool
2 - 3 minutes

This is 2 pages. The first page summarizes each of the four steps of the NVC model and the second page describes the ways in which our language alienates us from ourselves and each other.


Needs & Feelings List

Learning Tool •  2 - 3 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Learning Tool
2 - 3 minutes

This two page learning tool contains lists of needs, feelings, faux feelings, and feelings that might be mixed with thoughts...


Guiding Questions

Learning Tool •  1 - 2 minutes
Beginner Skill Level
Learning Tool
1 - 2 minutes

These guiding questions will help you review your motives and approach before engaging in especially important conversations. Carry it with you, share it with the other person if possible, and make a decision to stay on track instead of getting pulled into old speaking and listening habits that aren't working.


The Four Responses Exercise Cards

Learning Tool •  30 - 60 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Learning Tool
30 - 60 minutes

Use these cards in your practice group or NVC training to understand 4 different ways of responding to hard to hear messages. Become aware of the way you habitually respond to stimulus and develop skills to respond with empathy and express honestly.


Conversations about Death

Video •  1 hour, 22 minutes
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 22 minutes

It seems death cafes are everywhere these days. But how changed are we by the conversations we're now having? Not everyone is open to talking about death. It may well be that someone in your life is nearing the end of their days and their refusal to talk about it may be confusing and disheartening. How do you get them to speak when they don't want to? In this session, we will explore different approaches to navigating this tricky terrain.