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Trainer Tip: Changing your thoughts can change the way people experience you. Just for today, see if you can notice when you have judgmental thoughts about yourself or other people. Then look to translate those thoughts into your feelings and needs. Read on for an example of how this works.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
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There are many layers of consciousness, knowledge, and skill that contribute to a successful negotiation. A successful negotiation is one where honor and connection lead to a way forward, and leads to a plan of action that considers and meets everyone's needs in that situation. Read on for three fundamental principles that help with successful needs-based negotiation.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 5-7 minutes
  • Production Date 09/2020
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Little negative impacts can become big when left unattended. Watch for things like using a sharp tone, choosing not to share something, going along with something when you don’t really want to, trying to convince your partner, impulsively turning away, shrinking, losing access to parts of yourself, hiding, daydreaming about a different life, and judgmental thoughts. Instead, shift the dynamic: take responsibility, provide empathy, and commit to change.

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  • Skill Level Advanced Skill Level
  • Duration 4-6 minutes
  • Production Date 05/2019
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  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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In order to bring in more nonviolence into the world, we need to take our own needs seriously and recognize that no amount of seeing someone’s innocence would mean putting up with more of their harmful behavior. We need to disentangle compassion towards another from the willingness to tolerate more harmful actions. At times this means finding enough self-love, support, or clarity, to take decisive action. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Levels
  • Duration 8 - 12 minutes
  • Production Date 03/2012
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  • Points 3
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Trainer Tip: When considering your "deal breakers" consider what you want from a relationship rather than how it will look. For instance, maybe my need for abundance can be met by someone who is independently wealthy, so he doesn’t have to “have a good job”. When you shift your focus from strategies to needs, you may be pleasantly surprised what the universe brings. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
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  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Sometimes we want to avoid placing our love and trust in someone, to protect our hearts and our life energies. And so there are deeper questions that we can use to check whether we're in relationship with someone who doesn't have capacity to be in relationship with us (eg. “Do I have a sense of mattering in this relationship?”). Read on for more questions we use to assess our empathy and efforts in relationships.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 minutes
  • Production Date 11/2015
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  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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During the holiday season we may find ourselves taking responsibility for other's feelings, which can lead to guilt, shame, depression, and resentment. These feelings are exacerbated by the habitual pattern we call the "Vortex of Submission" (being hooked by a sense of duty and obligation). Read on for ways to recognize and break the pattern.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 2 - 3 minutes
  • Production Date 12/2004
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  • Points 2
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If you're stuck when making a decision with someone, it's likely that you've skipped hearing and connecting to one another's needs. Slow down and listen for what's really important underneath the content. This allows you to make decisions that are more fulfilling and harmonious.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 2-3 minutes
  • Production Date 1/2018
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  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree.  Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves?  Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon our actions with tenderness.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 10 - 15 minutes
  • Production Date 04/2018
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  • Points 5
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
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Trainer Tip: We can improve our relationships by focusing our attention first on connection instead of other stragegies.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Production Date 01/04/2005
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  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips
 
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