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Marriage can be seen as a limit on freedom. Ideas of compromise collude with this view. Instead, notice when your "yes" to your partner is laden with obligation, duty, guilt, fear, or an attempt to win love or approval, and how it's not a truly free "yes". True freedom is different from compulsion, and doesn't conflict with other needs. When have you experienced true freedom? What conditions support your access to freedom?

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 minutes
  • Date Added 9/19/2022
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Charde
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Practice Exercises

One way of simplifying decision-making in relationships is clarity about the level of contact and connection you want with the people you interact with. This means knowing what you want and don’t want to share, the kinds of activities you do and don’t do together, how often, etc. This can help you chose how to best support your needs in that context, and help you to remember to set life-serving boundaries when you need them.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 minutes
  • Date Added 9/22/2022
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Charde
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Practice Exercises

Part of making your relationship a priority while maintaining autonomy means you consider the impact your actions may have on your relationship and look to negotiate ways all needs can be honored. To do this while not losing yourself, practice writing down your needs and guessing their needs beforehand. Make an upfront request to create a shared understanding about what’s most important, before discussing strategies or decisions.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 3 - 5 minutes
  • Date Added 1/18/2023
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Practice Exercises

Confidence, flexibility, creativity and equanimity may become more possible when you would like someone to meet a particular need, can trust that you can meet that need with someone else, and can accept a “no” to your requests. You can allow grief or disappointment to arise, and naturally turn towards a relationship in which those needs can be met. In some cases this may lead to the dissolution of a partnership or friendship.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 4-6 minutes
  • Date Added 1/19/2023
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Practice Exercises

Trainer Tip: You may find yourself assessing the relationship with someone just based on how they feel. Check in with yourself: How do you feel and what needs of yours are met when you spend time with someone? Consider whether this relationship is working for you. If it isn’t, be specific about which of your needs are unmet. Notice if you can do anything to help meet them.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Date Added 11/07/2022
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  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips