Things We Know and Forget
Learning Tool
3 - 5 minutes
Here's a list of 13 essential reminders to help you examine how you think, listen and communicate both internally with yourself and outwardly with others while also reminding you to hold within your awareness important basic truths about what it means to be human and to relate.
Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out
Audio
45 minutes
Experience more choice when you've been triggered, instead of being trapped in old habits and unmet needs. Heal old internal messages that tell you you're not good enough… not loveable… or not deserving.
How To Stay Grounded In A Reactive Moment: Observing, Anchoring And Reflecting
How To Stay Grounded In A Reactive Moment: Observing, Anchoring And Reflecting
How To Stay Grounded In A Reactive Moment: Observing, Anchoring And Reflecting
Article
4 - 6 minutes
To shift reactivity by moving yourself from the position of experiencer to observer, name what’s happening. This can help you access other skills for managing reactivity. Also, create a strong emotional anchor.
A Brief Introduction to "The Work"
Video
8 minutes
In this brief introduction to The Work from Byron Katie, Arnina shows the connection of The Work to Nonviolent Communication. Arnina points out how the first two questions of The Work correspond to the observation step of the NVC process, and invites us into deeper self-inquiry.
How To Move Through Your Triggers Faster
Article
4 - 6 minutes
After acknowledging the impact others have on us, you can ask yourself "What am I telling myself?" and "If that’s true, what am I afraid will happen?". The more present, gentle and compassionate you can be with the underlying feelings, the faster you can move through your trigger. Then you're more likely to respond in ways that feel, kind, responsible, intelligent and aligned for you.
Preparing for Difficult Dialogue
Article
3-5 minutes
Effective and connected dialogue requires significant self-awareness, mindfulness, and skill. You can focus on any of these six areas that most often escape your awareness: anchoring and staying grounded; boundaries; thoughts and beliefs; stuckness or attachment; feelings and needs; and requests. Read on for a list of questions to help you focus on how to do that.
The Illusion of Conflicting Needs
Practice Exercise
30 minutes
This exercise will help you resolve situations in which you have two needs which seem to be in conflict with each other, transforming inner conflict into peace.
Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out (6 Session Course)
Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out (6 Session Course)
Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out (6 Session Course)
Audio
5 - 7 hours
Ever wish you knew how you might experience more choice when you've been triggered, instead of being trapped in old habits and unmet needs? Wish you could REALLY heal old internal messages that tell you you're not good enough… not loveable… or not deserving? Join veteran CNVC Certified Trainer, Mary Mackenzie, for this 6-session course designed to deepen your ability to connect with self and heal your past through the process of Self-empathy.
Curiosity, The Art of Waiting, and Finding Peace
Article
7 - 11 minutes
Sitting with uncertainty can be very uncomfortable and evoke anxiety. Or it can be a practice that brings in the curiosity and inner spaciousness that allows for creative solutions to emerge, and that help us to relax our attachment to outcomes. Here's a closer look...
Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome
Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome
Anatomy of a Trigger: Change Your Focus and Improve the Outcome
Article
7-10 minutes
When you or anyone is upset, what could underneath the trigger? There may be more than is immediately visible. This article invites us to explore what it looks like to inquire deeper, take self-responsibility, examine our assumptions, attachments, interpretations, and "certainties" that could be hidden behind the needs that are aching to be attended to...