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Listening is a cornerstone of dialogue and a powerful metaphor for spiritual practice. When we’re willing and able to listen, we open a conduit that allows connection and understanding to happen.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 3 - 5 minutes
  • Production Date 01/2018
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  • Payee Oren Jay Sofer
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

Society gives us short-sighted explanations about human nature, life and what’s (un)changeable. The coronavirus pandemic is disrupting that explanation. Our current social order upholds impoverishment, police brutality, and is leading us towards our extinction. Change begins with people mobilizing resources towards a vision that holds systemic care for all, plus engages shared risk and collective action towards that vision.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 23 - 34 minutes
  • Production Date 07/2020
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  • Payee BayNVC
  • Points 7
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

When someone expresses upset about our actions, and we focus on our intention being seen and understood (e.g. "I didn’t mean to hurt you”) it doesn't support the speaker in being heard more deeply with care. Here we'll explore this dynamic in a way that supports more clarity and the possibility of greater personal liberation. Read on for more.

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  • Skill Level Advanced Skill Level
  • Duration 12 - 18 minutes
  • Production Date 08/2013
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  • Payee BayNVC
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

There are various ways to be known. Learn how to engage and make clear requests accordingly. This includes getting clear in yourself about what exactly you want known; communicating how important it is to you; sharing examples in your life of being known; requesting and negotiating from the energy of the met need; letting the other person know whether or not the relationship is really sustainable for you if the need goes unmet long-term; and checking the other person's capacity.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 7 - 12 minutes
  • Production Date 3/2019
  • Premium Members

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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Chardé
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Articles

Want to expand your needs vocabulary, and build your capacity to identify needs — even when you’ve been triggered? Check out Mary’s powerful teaching on Self-Empathy.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 11 minutes
  • Production Date 11/2/2016
  • Premium Members Premium Members
  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Audio

Trainer tip: It's often easy for us to hear rejection when someone says “no” to us. If we focus on the rejection, we may feel hurt and fail to take the time to understand what is going on with them. However, if we focus on their feelings and needs, we're more likely to uncover what they want and what prevents them. To increase success in resolving conflicts and find solutions that work for everyone, hear the “yes” behind their "no".

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  • Skill Level Introductory Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
  • Premium Members

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  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips

Trainer Tip: When someone acts in baffling ways we can either wonder about what’s going on with the other person, create our own stories about it (blame, resent, make assumptions), or inform ourselves by asking. This is an opportunity to learn something new.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
  • Premium Members

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  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips

Trainer Tip: We all see through our own filters. To disentangle what we hear from some is really saying, check using understanding requests at the level of detail you need. Course correct along the way. In a charged situation this can be critical to bringing in clarity, being heard and resolving differences amicably.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Production Date 10/2005
  • Premium Members

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  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips

Trainer Tip: All people long for understanding. It is such an easy thing to give, yet rarely do we see its importance in creating peace of mind.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Production Date 09/10/2005
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  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips

Who does not want to be understood? In Tip #6, Eric shows you how to deepen connection and trust by checking your understanding with the person you are conversing with.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Production Date 01/2016
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  • Payee Eric Bowers
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Published in Trainer Tips
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