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Grounded Responses for Challenging Comments

Article  • 3 - 5 minutes • 09/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

When someone responds with painful sarcasm, criticism, or dismissal you can respond with empathy, or with clarity about your intention, need and request. If you're unable to do this, later you can privately write what they said, identify the feelings and needs of both of you, then write possible responses. This can help you remember to stay with your intention and what’s true for you without getting caught in defensiveness or reactivity.


Courage

Article  • 4 - 6 minutes • 07/2017
All Skill Levels
Article
4 - 6 minutes

In listening to what our emotions tell us, and embracing what we do not know, we begin the path of courage. Even though our culture tells us not to, revealing our imperfections is where we can deeply connect. Living our lives more courageously honest, can shift us towards inspiring one another. Read on for how some people experienced this in coming together to transform one woman's heroine addiction.


How to Invite Shared Vulnerability

Article  • 3-4 minutes • 8/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3-4 minutes

Shared vulnerability can build more intimacy, mutuality, being seen and heard, empathy, or community. Inviting shared vulnerability means earning another’s trust that you can consistently offer attentive, curious, and compassionate listening. Here are four strategies to invite shared vulnerability.


Inviting Depth in Conversation

Article  • 3 - 5 minutes • 6/2018
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes

Conversation can become more satisfying with depth. Depth is occurs when connection unfolds towards a depth of intimacy, presence, attunement, sensing -- and silent attentive connection where another is attentively seen and heard. Inviting this level of sharing in conversation relies on at least three major elements: attentive silence, the desire to connect and be known, and focus on present moment experience. Learn more about this way of engaging.


What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”

Article  • 6 - 9 minutes • 12/2018
Beginner Skill Level
Article
6 - 9 minutes

The impulse to say "I love you" is an opportunity to check-in both with our level of presence (eg. are we saying it by rote?) and also with what we really mean in that moment (eg. what are the needs and real purpose deep beneath the word "love"?).  This can invite us to explore a deeper, more heartfelt way of communicating and being...


The Gift of Compassionate Giving

with Jim Manske
Article  • 5 - 8 minutes • 01/2018
Introductory Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes

What would the world be like if there was flow between all of us based on "mutual giving from the heart"? Using examples, this article offers models for us to follow that could inspire us to treat our NVC practice as one of compassionate giving and receiving.


The Freedom of Committing to a Path

Article  • 5 - 8 minutes • 02/03/2012
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes

In June, 1996, I had an epiphany. In a motel room in Indiana, the night before returning home from a solo camping trip in Michigan and Canada, I discovered how much I had lost in my life because of so fiercely protecting myself. Up until that day, bringing forth my vulnerable self was to be avoided at all costs, which kept me numb much of the time, disconnected from myself and from much of life. Alone in my room, I cried, I talked out loud, and I finally exclaimed to myself that I wanted to reclaim every last bit of my vulnerability, just like I had it as a child.


Vulnerability as a Spiritual Path

Article  • 3 pages • Circa 2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 pages

What is a good baby? If you have been raised in a Western culture, chances are you know the answer right away (whether or not you agree with it). A good baby is one that doesn't cry! The training against vulnerability starts very early in life.


Feeling Awareness

Audio  • 44 minutes • 07/2011
Introductory Skill Level
Audio
44 minutes

In this intriguing audio, Jim and Jori Manske create a framework for growing your feeling awareness, and offer daily practices for working with your feelings.


Healing and Reconciliation (7 Session Course)

Audio  • 7 - 9 hours • 01/20/2015
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
7 - 9 hours

Old emotional hurts and pains can easily erupt when you’re in the throes of conflict – even if you’re the mediator. Wouldn’t it be lovely if you could avoid all of that, and instead create more peace and happiness for yourself, your family, your co-workers and your community?

The introductory session of this course is available for all to listen to and enjoy:


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